Charlotte Pardy MA - The Mother Wound Whisperer

27/12/2025

If you feel stuck in fear, obligation or guilt with your mum, I want you to hear this.

FOG isn’t weakness. It’s conditioning.

Many women grow up learning that keeping the peace keeps them safe.

That managing other people’s emotions is love.

That saying no comes with consequences.

So as adults, even when we want change, something in us hesitates.

Not because we’re incapable, but because our nervous system remembers.

And I want to be really clear about something.

My work is not about breaking up families. Some women do choose distance, and that can be right for them.

But most women I work with want support to navigate FOG, and have better, healthier family relationships.

To understand what they can change, what they can’t, and where their power actually lies.

Because clarity doesn’t come from force.
It comes from understanding.

If this resonates, I’ve created a free quiz to help you explore how fear, obligation and guilt may be shaping your choices.

You’ll find it through the link in my bio.

20/12/2025

❄❄ It can be difficult to reconcile the holidays, when everyone around you is happy and joyful, and all you feel is dread. Anxious about having to interact with those who have caused you harm, and worse, 'play nice' with them.

If you need help, I have a free guide available via my website - https://www.motherwoundwhisperer.com/

19/12/2025

Guest Blog - A Childhood with a Narcissistic Mother Figure

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It’s only now in retrospect that I can understand that my Stepmother is a narcissist.

From around the age of 8 to 16 I was forced to visit my dad on the weekends. Initially, these visits were every weekend, but they moved to every other week after it became clear that I was unhappy. Unhappy is an understatement, I was miserable, terrified, and in fear of the hours I would spend in a home that felt unsafe, even hostile.

As the most introverted of four children – me and my sister from my dad, and two daughters from the Stepmother – I quickly became a target. I loved to read, keep to myself, and engage in my interests. I dressed in a ‘tomboy’ way and didn’t wear makeup. All these elements became heightened during my time in that household. My voice became quieter; I was told off for mumbling which naturally meant I was scared to speak at all. I wanted to escape in my books and my art and the movies I loved to watch, but each one came with an expectation of chastisement. I lost all of my self-esteem and hid my body in oversized clothing to not feel tight against my chubbiness (something I’ve carried through to today).

I developed a resentment towards my dad, because the Stepmother timed her attacks when he went out of the room or left the house. When escalations happened, and I started to cry as she shouted into my face, I would try to find him, and she would play the victim. Blaming me for the most menial of things to justify her anger, most of which were entirely fabricated or widely blown out of proportion. She justified her vitriol by saying my room was a mess – a room that was used for storage and washing when I wasn’t in it, and I would visit with only a backpack. Nothing in that room was ‘mine’. And other examples of the sort.

My sister and I would frequently cry on the journey back to my home. Dropped off in near inconsolable states at my mum’s door. When the Stepmother was in the car, the fear continued for every mile as we would often sit in near silent in the backseats. When I would try to leave without kissing her, she would chastise me, I would reluctantly approach, and she would turn her head. When I eventually was allowed to make my own decision to stop visiting my dad at the age of 16, the Stepmother’s anger turned to my sister. And I saw the trauma continue.

I know now that this wasn’t a normal childhood. It took me many years to realise that I lived and survived through an abusive relationship, one with a wildly unbalanced power dynamic. She was a grown woman, and she was abusing a child. She saw me as lesser, and I felt it, every moment I was with her. I know now that she was deeply insecure, and I have to say, pathetic.

Our last meeting happened when I moved out of my mum’s house. A last, final chance (of many ‘final chances’ on the insistence of my dad) to see whether a scrap of a relationship could be saved. Her first words after my parter and I opened the door? After not seeing her for several years….“What took you so long? Were you fu**ing?” My dad had been getting something out of the car and didn’t hear the exchange, but it sealed it for me. The previous ‘final chance’ came at a restaurant shortly after my graduation, when she said as soon as my dad had left, “Would you stop talking about your graduation?!”

I know now that I will never forgive her. Sometimes you hear that forgiveness is healing, but I prefer to see it as a firm boundary. I’ve tried, but at every turn she has rebutted my attempts, and never made an attempt of her own. (Not to mention the emotional weight of getting the victim to try and make amends…) I drew a line, and I’ve stuck with it in the years since. My dad will not be getting a ‘plus one’ wedding invitation. While I’m sad that this whole thing has but a barrier between me and my dad, it’s also been a necessary one. For my own happiness, and mental health. I am happy now, and for the longest time I thought that was near impossible.

For the longest time I didn't even think I had a Mother Wound, or that it was a recognised 'thing'. So... do you have a mother wound?

Here's a free guide courtesy of Charlotte to help you understand, and to heal.

https://www.motherwoundwhisperer.com/f/mother-wound

-S

17/12/2025

It's getting to that time of year where we're looking to the year ahead. While there are plans in the works, I want to ask you: What do you want from me? What do you want to know more about? Or to discuss?

Let's make 2026 your year of healing. Break free, and bloom. 🌸🌼🌺

10/12/2025

If you’re already dreading the family drama this Christmas… you are not alone..

When you’re the daughter who grew up managing everyone else’s emotions, this time of year can hit deep.
The expectations.
The guilt.
The comments.
The pressure to keep the peace.
It all lands in the nervous system long before the day even arrives.

You deserve a season that feels safe, spacious and yours.

I created A Daughter’s Guide To Navigating The Holidays to support you through it.
12 days of grounding, gentle tips delivered straight to your inbox.

Grab your copy here: https://www.motherwoundwhisperer.com/f/holidays

And if you need extra support, reply to this post or message me. I’m here.

06/12/2025

As we're going into the holiday season, it may be difficult to navigate the potential minefield of family gatherings and expected niceties. But you are not alone, and you deserve the support you need to get through the other side unscathed, feeling happier and on the road to healing.

If you've already signed up for my guide on 'Navigating the Holidays With a Critical Mum' - available here https://www.motherwoundwhisperer.com/f/holidays - you might enjoy reading my book, Breaking Free, Blooming Wild, available now!

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01/12/2025

❄️🎄It's December. For many of us that means being forced to see family, to be nice and friendly to those who have caused us harm. To expose ourselves to critical mothers and their remarks. It can be a really difficult time.

If you are in need of a helping hand this holiday season, please do check out my guide on 'How To Navigate The Holidays With A Critical Mum'. I'm always here if you need help. 🌸 You deserve peace.

Are you ready to navigate the holidays without the heartache? Grab my mini eBook on how to deal with a critical mum over Christmas, while protecting your happiness.

27/11/2025

On Tuesday I had the honour of speaking at Evolve Housing’s Empower Her event, sharing my Be BRAVE framework and talking about women’s mental health.

It was a full circle moment for me. I spoke about leaving home as a teenager and finding myself at The Swan Project, a young people’s hostel in Berkhamsted, and how small daily actions helped me rebuild my confidence and sense of self.

Your circumstances don’t define your future, and it was beautiful to see that message land in the room.

My favourite moment was when everyone shared something they’d achieved, from going back into education to getting a new PS5. We clapped for each one, and you could feel the pride and strength building in the space.

A huge thank you to Kate McLeary and Louisa Bull for inviting me. I loved being part of this event and I’m looking forward to working together again.

If you are feeling BRAVE tell me one thing you’re proud of this week in the comments.

23/11/2025

🌸If you've read my book - Breaking Free, Blooming Wild - it would be amazing if you could drop a review on Amazon to let me know your thoughts and to help signal boost to other women who might need the book.

Also, if you haven't read it, check it out through the link below. I'm biased, but I think it will help people with their own Mother Wound. Perhaps, helping people to recognise that they have one. 🌸

If you're interested, click on the link below 👇
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