Oasis Therapy

02/04/2026

I’m sat with a bit of spare time this morning, thinking about structure in the therapy room.

It comes up a lot.

Clients often ask:
Can we structure sessions?
What will therapy look like?
What should I do?
How do I get it right?

And I notice… it always makes me smile.

Because I’ve felt that too.
That pull towards predictability.
That desire to know what’s coming, to feel prepared, to feel safe.

So together, we begin a gentle walk.
Finding that balance between enough structure to feel emotionally held…
and the courage to sit in the unknown.

I’m usually quite open in my response:
What does structure mean to you?
What might it be like to loosen your grip, just a little, and sit with not knowing?

And yes… it can feel terrifying.
I really get that.

But there’s something powerful in it too.

Not diving straight in, but dipping a toe.
Taking a small peek into those darker, less certain places.

For me, learning to sit in the unknown, and still carry on with my day, has felt quietly freeing.
Like something has softened.
Like I’ve become a little more resilient, a little more able.

There’s something in spontaneity too.
Turning left when you planned to turn right.
Letting something unexpected unfold.

In therapy, I don’t offer structure in the sense of a fixed roadmap.

But there is consistency.
There is emotional containment.
There is a steady, reliable presence.

What I can’t offer is a script
a promise of how it will look, or where it will go.

Because how could I?

This is your world.
Your pace.
Your mind.

And sometimes, the work lives in what happens
when there are no expectations at all.

02/04/2026

A great article showing the complexities of abuse through the eyes of a therapist, with personal experience. 🫶

31/03/2026

23/03/2026

🍆 Intimacy Talk in the Therapy room March Blog 🍑

Let’s talk about the thing we don’t often talk about… intimacy. Yes, that kind. S*x. Desire. Shame. Struggles. Fantasies. Awkwardness. The stuff that makes your cheeks go a bit pink and your brain go, “Is this okay to bring up in therapy?”The short answer? YES. Talking about intimacy in th...

23/03/2026

I help people navigate all sorts of issues. Not just what happens, but why. Things like:

🧡 Relationships (Betrayal/Narcissistic)
💛 Trauma (Past/Present)
💚 Anxiety & Depression
💙 Identity
💜Low Self Esteem
❤️ Grief
🩶 Work Stress & Burn out
💚 Neurodivergence

20/03/2026

A great day in Hove today learning about the Mental Health System as part of my Psychotherapy training. Exploring how to manage Psychological Disorders in the therapy room. Thanks guys, really enjoyed it ❣️

18/03/2026

Meet Bruce. My slightly unhinged mental health companion. He is there, causing chaos on dog walks when I need to decompress. Somehow it works for me 😆

Potential therapy dog in the making?

16/03/2026

My last day a Uckfield College is today and I'll be sad to leave such a wonderful team..But with that comes new opportunities as I'll be opening up my final 2 days at Oasis, my Counselling and Psychotherapy Private Practice.

If you are looking for local counselling support, either online or in-person, get in touch and we can see how we go.

www.oasis-therapy.co.uk

14/03/2026

One of my close friends lost her daughter Scarlett recently, to su***de. Scarlett was a beautiful soul, just 13 years old.

You can imagine the family is broken. I've been shaken too. I've been at a loss on how to help.

With permission, I share this page. It has felt comforting to be able to do something to help, in one of the only ways I know how - Talk.

If you talk, I will listen.

Sometimes, that's enough just to keep going, sometimes it's not. But for me, that's all I know. So I will keep listening, if you keep talking.

❤️‍🩹

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1CgDSCYWQV/

Dear friends, family and kind-hearted strangers, With the heaviest of hearts, we’re sharing the … Sally Nursten needs your support for Scarlett Efstathiou

08/03/2026

What a fantastic weekend with Patrick at the Connexus Institute learning about Dream Analysis. 💤

Dreams are a window into our unconscious. They are symbolic and often don't mean what you think they do! Rather than be written off as meaningless, we can use them to help understand our waking world. 🧠

I'm really excited to bring dream analysis into my work! 🙌

🌟 What a fascinating weekend 🌟

02/03/2026

🩷 Showing Up Human: My Promise as a Therapist 🩵

It’s often said that one of the most important parts of effective therapy is the connection with your therapist. Not connection in the sense of friendship, but something deeper — trust. Trust that you can be yourself, and that no matter what shows up, your therapist can hold it.

Over the years during my training, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about how that works for me. I keep coming back to the same conclusion:
Therapy only works if I am myself. Truly myself.

How can I expect my clients to be real if I’m not? If connection is central to the work, then being anything other than myself (awkward bits, human bits and all) only gets in the way.

I have had over four years of therapy — close to 200 hours. It started because it was a requirement of my training. It ended with me feeling reluctant to give it up.

In every session I showed up just like my clients do — ready to learn, unpick, and be vulnerable. I have cried (a lot), laughed, and found emotional places I didn’t even know existed. It hasn’t always been easy.

I can’t promise you’ll feel better straight away, or even that therapy will look the way you expect it to. That’s my hope, of course — but your journey will be yours, not mine. So I won’t pretend to know exactly how it will unfold.

What I can promise is this:

I’ll be there.
Every week.
I’ll sit in the sh*t with you.
I’ll listen.
I’ll try to understand alongside you.
I’ll hold whatever emotional weight you need me to hold.
We might laugh.
We might cry.
We might sit in uncertainty.

That’s my promise.

The journey is yours. I’m simply alongside you — holding the map while you decide where to go.

If you’re considering counselling in Uckfield, or online across the UK, this is how I work.