The Anxiety Specialist

13/02/2026

Why is it so easy to praise other people…
and so uncomfortable to speak kindly to ourselves?

We cheer everyone else on.
Then shrink when it’s our turn.

Self-love isn’t arrogance.
It isn’t indulgence.
It’s a relationship — and most of us were never taught how to have one with ourselves.

So today, try this:
speak to yourself like someone you genuinely care about.

And if you’re ready to deepen that relationship,
the Steady Mind Programme offers seven weeks of 1:1 support
to help you finally trust yourself again.
Find out more at: https://anxietyspecialist.org/product/the-steady-mind-programme/

11/02/2026

Most people think self-esteem comes from compliments, achievements,
or finally feeling “good enough”.

But here’s the truth:

Your self-esteem is only ever about two weeks old.
It’s built from the thoughts you repeat now.
The way you speak to yourself today.
The meaning you give your mistakes this week.

Your past doesn’t get the final say.
Your inner voice does.

And that means you have more influence than you think.

10/02/2026

Two anxiety beliefs come up again and again in my work.

They sound logical. Sensible, even.
And yet… they quietly keep people stuck.

• “If I feel anxious, something must be wrong with me.”
• “I should be able to control my thoughts.”

Neither of these is true.

Anxiety isn’t a flaw.
It’s your nervous system doing what it learned to do, often a long time ago.

And thoughts?
They aren’t facts.
They’re habits.

When we start to understand anxiety, rather than fight it or judge it, something shifts.
There’s space. Choice. Relief.

💬 Which belief feels most familiar for you?

If you’re ready to understand your anxiety instead of battling it,
the Anxiety Clarity Mini Course is a gentle place to start.

£150 · self-paced - online - practical tools
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10/02/2026

What if anxiety was a skill you could unlearn?

We aren’t born fearing most of the things we worry about.

We start with just two fears:
falling and loud noises.

Everything else?
Learned.

Which means this is actually very good news.

Because if anxiety is learned through experience, repetition, and belief…
it can also be unlearned through awareness, practice, and support.

You don’t need to become a different person.
You just need new tools for the one you already are.

09/02/2026

Hey there! Yes you! I know you’re carrying a lot.

You’re holding things together.
Thinking ahead.
Managing emotions (yours and everyone else’s).

And those little ones in your lives?
They’re watching you all the time.

Here’s the I want you to hold:

The best way to support your children’s emotional wellbeing
isn’t to be calm all the time.

It’s to model what it looks like to notice emotions,
talk kindly to yourself,
and learn new skills when things feel hard.

Mental health isn’t something we either have or don’t have.
It’s a skill.
And skills can be learned — by you and by them.

08/02/2026

Jumping on the latest trend

06/02/2026

“Abi helped me see that anxiety wasn’t something wrong with me — it was a pattern I could shift.”
— Sarah

This is the moment most people get unstuck.

Not when they try harder.
Not when they find the perfect coping tool.
But when they realise they’re not broken.

Patterns can be learned.
And patterns can be changed.

That’s the work.
That’s where things start to feel different.

You aren’t broken.
You’re building.

Does seeing anxiety as a pattern change how you think about yourself?

If you want help understanding and shifting your own patterns, that’s exactly what I teach. You don’t need fixing. You need clarity.

05/02/2026

Just seen this on Julie Begbie for fun! Ask ChatGPT ‘Create an image of me and my celebrity parents and explain why you have chosen the perfect celeb parents for me’ (add a selfie)

I got Colin Firth and Emma Thompson 🫶🏻

The overall vibe

It gives:
• emotionally intelligent household
• thoughtful conversations at the dinner table
• strong values, creativity, and empathy
• warmth, humour, and quiet resilience

Who are your celebrity parents? Share below and I’ll check them out x

05/02/2026

Time to Talk Day

Conversations matter.
But the one that shapes your day most is the conversation you have with yourself.

If someone else spoke to you the way you sometimes speak to yourself,
would you trust them?
Listen to them?
Keep them close?

Changing that inner conversation isn’t about “being positive”.
It’s about learning a more accurate, useful way of responding to yourself.

If you’re ready to start a different kind of conversation, The Anxiety Clarity Mini Course is a practical place to begin.
£150. Self-paced. Clear, grounded, and designed to actually help.

If your inner voice had a tone, what would it sound like today?




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03/02/2026

02/02/2026

Let’s be real for a second.
If you wake up already “on alert,” it’s not because you’re wired wrong.
It’s because your brain is doing exactly what it was taught to do: protect, prepare, and repeat.

Anxiety is a signal, not a permanent flaw.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how “busy” is your inner voice today?

01/02/2026

Hello February!

The days are stretching out again.
There’s a bit more light in the morning.
A hint that things don’t stay stuck forever.

You don’t need a big reset this month.
Sometimes progress looks like slightly steadier mornings,
or noticing that one thing feels a bit easier than it did before.

We’ll take that.

What’s one small thing you’re looking forward to this month?