10/12/2025
If your ‘trainer’ advises a slip lead. Please walk away
A dogs pov
I wish you could feel what I feel when that grot lead/adjuster lead tightens.
The way my throat closes so fast it steals the air right out of me.
The way my heart jumps into panic before I even realize I made a mistake.
I don’t think you understand how hard I’m trying.
How every step I take, I’m guessing, begging, that it’s the right one.
Because if it’s not, I know exactly what’s coming.
That sudden, crushing pressure that turns the world into a tunnel
and makes me wonder, just for a moment,
if this is the time I won’t catch my breath again.
And while I’m fighting that fear,
you’re smiling.
You’re proud.
You think this means I’m finally learning.
But I’m not learning.
I’m surviving you.
I’m surviving the thing you call training
and I call losing myself a little more each time.
I wish you could see past your pride and your massive ego, and notice the way my body shakes before we walk, how I hesitate not because I’m stubborn, but because I’m scared —
scared of you, scared of the lead,
scared of what loving you is costing me.
I want to be your good dog.
I want to understand.
I want to breathe.
I just wish those things didn’t feel like choices
I have to make between each other.”
Please stop with this torture