Luka the Doula

Luka the Doula Hypnobirthing teacher and birth & postnatal Doula offering continuity of care to parents during pregnancy, labour, birth and postpartum

10/01/2025

How do I stop time?

There’s a special kind of bittersweetness that comes with watching your last baby grow.

Each milestone is a reminder of how much they’ve grown, and you know it’ll be your last time witnessing it as a mum. It’s a mix of pure love, and a little ache in your heart as you realize they won’t be your “baby” for much longer.

I’m drinking in every moment, because I know how quickly these years pass.

10/01/2025

I've been spending the last year growing, birthing and loving our third baby. This baby, our last, has taught me so much and now I'm looking forward to getting back into supporting other families on their parenting journey's.

If you are looking to do a hypnobirthing course, a birth planning session or a postnatal doula I would love to hear from you.

Is birth something to just get over with? Or is it your journey to meet your baby? Does it create a mother? Or is a heal...
21/09/2023

Is birth something to just get over with? Or is it your journey to meet your baby?

Does it create a mother? Or is a healthy baby all that matters?

Should pain be feared or will it show you how powerful you are?

Can it be beautiful and transformative? Does it have to be traumatic?

Can it be amazing?

Each birth will teach you something and show you more of yourself. You cannot be saved from it. Trust your body, trust your baby. You can do it together 💛

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21/09/2023

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“Yes.”My daughter was born with a tongue tie and whilst I see a lot shared on what it is and what you can do, I don’t se...
07/08/2023

“Yes.”

My daughter was born with a tongue tie and whilst I see a lot shared on what it is and what you can do, I don’t see much on the emotional impact of having a tongue tied baby.

The most accurate description I have heard for the pain I experienced is someone taking a razor blade to your ni**le. This pain left me silently screaming whilst holding on, white knuckled, to my partners hand. I would be shaking with tears falling from my face onto hers. I was raw, ripped and bleeding. So, each time it came to feed her, I did not want to do it. A newborns most basic need to survive is to be fed and I couldn’t take the pain to do that for her. With my son I had breastfed for 2 years so thought I knew what I was doing. I didn’t. I felt like I didn’t deserve her if I couldn’t put her first and just get on with it. Did I even love her?!

Then, a few days postpartum, a midwife asked if I wanted to throw her out the window. I felt relief for not being alone and a lot shame for someone seeing how I felt. With some gentle guidance, we learnt how to feed in koala hold and it was instantly pain free.

And now here we are 2 years on. Sometimes we get unsolicited, annoying comments or inaccurate terms mentioned like extended or prolonged. My Little Moon now asks politely and I have set boundaries around not helping herself. She needs it more when there’s new people or a new place, it’s her home wherever we are. With how this journey started, I didn’t think we’d get this far but I’m really proud of us that we have 💛


(Posted late because…well it’s summer holidays)

6 things I wish every parent knew when preparing to meet their baby…You choose where you give birth. If it is a hospital...
13/07/2023

6 things I wish every parent knew when preparing to meet their baby…

You choose where you give birth. If it is a hospital, you can choose which one. It doesn’t have to be the closest to your house. It is not illegal to free birth, birthing without healthcare professionals present. The hospital can decline for you to birth in their birth centre if they say you high risk but you can appeal this antenatally or look at your other options.

Your life partner doesn’t have to be your birth partner. You can have an amazing, loving partner who is a wonderful parent and still feel like they might not be the best person to be at the birth. It’s ok to be honest about the support you need and from who.

You don’t have to hire a birth pool if you have a home birth.
You can still use warm water for comfort in the bath, shower or a hot water bottle. Then you can birth your baby wherever you choose, on the bed, on the sofa, make a nest, it’s up to you.

Invest in your time, energy and money in yourself and education for pregnancy, birth and the postnatal period. Your baby needs you. The more prepared, educated and nourished you are, the better position you are in to grow, birth and care for your baby. You won’t be thankful for the hours you spent googling prams when you’re trying to heal from trauma and care for a newborn.

Everything in the maternity care system is an offer, not an order. However, the language used can make it feel like that. You can decline any test, scan or intervention.

There are no risk free interventions or medical pain reliefs. Sweeps, ECV, gas and air, pethidine, epidurals etc etc. They all alter the path of your birth and have potential risks to you and baby. Learn as much as you can about this in pregnancy so you know what you are agreeing to.

You are the source of births power. Let it remind you of all you hold within yourself. You are powerful, you are open, y...
02/04/2023

You are the source of births power. Let it remind you of all you hold within yourself. You are powerful, you are open, you are ready.

4 sunflower seeds planted on the same day at the same time and sat on the same window ledge but all spouting at differen...
21/03/2023

4 sunflower seeds planted on the same day at the same time and sat on the same window ledge but all spouting at different times 🤯 And that is why Due Dates are a load of crap! We don’t all hit pubity at the same age, we don’t all bleed at the same time in our cycle, we don’t hit menopause at the same age and we don’t all die at the same age. Why are we expected to birth at the extract same “40 weeks after the day of your last period.” You are as natural as a sunflower and will bloom in your own time.

Postnatal Doulas aren’t just for the first forty days for first time mothers/parents. As many of us are living without a...
10/02/2023

Postnatal Doulas aren’t just for the first forty days for first time mothers/parents.

As many of us are living without a village to help us raise our children, we are filling from empty cups. A Postnatal Doula can help you find the time to fill yours, to be nourished, to be heard and seen, physically and emotionally. To give your arms a rest and to do the rocking, to take the dog for a walk whilst you nap, to get dinner ready. They can mother you so you can mother them 💛

The power of birth 💛
23/01/2023

The power of birth 💛

You are not alone Mama. You are birthing at the same time as thousands of women all over the world and in the arms of al...
18/01/2023

You are not alone Mama. You are birthing at the same time as thousands of women all over the world and in the arms of all those that have birthed before you 💛

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