The Counselling Practice

26/11/2025

✨ Woke up to this beautiful review today ✨

There’s nothing more rewarding than hearing how counselling has made a difference in someone’s life. I’m so grateful for the trust my clients place in me, and messages like this remind me why I do what I do 💛

When I started counselling, I was overwhelmed, sad all the time, I felt I had no control over my life and I was being dragged through life by the needs and wants of other people. And I didn’t know why I felt this way or how I had to got to be here, but I knew that I wanted to feel better so I decided to get professional help.
Six months later, my life is completely different: I’m happy and I have control of my life. I have boundaries to protect my wellbeing and for the first time in many years my future is full of positivity instead of the negative thoughts that plagued me before.
Working with Roxanne, I discovered the reasons for why I was feeling the way I was and also where it had all come from (I like to know the reasons why for everything so this was important for me). Roxanne immediately made me feel at ease so I could talk openly and begin to work through and process my past that was affecting my future. One way of processing was the use of EMDR therapy which for me had a very positive outcome, it was really amazing! I now have the tools I need to be able to deal with difficult situations that would previously have triggered me.
I would highly recommend The Counselling Practice, Roxanne is professional, non-judgmental and patient and the six months I worked with her have completely transformed my life. I cannot say thank you enough!
(From a former client with permission)

Feeling very thankful today. 🌿
If you or someone you know is considering counselling, I’m here when you’re ready.

25/11/2025

🌿 White Ribbon Day – November 25 🌿
Today we stand together to raise awareness about the importance of ending violence against women and fostering safe, respectful relationships for all.

White Ribbon Day is a reminder that change begins with conversations, compassion, and a commitment to challenge harmful attitudes and behaviours. As a counselling service, we are here to support anyone affected by family or relationship violence, and to help promote healthier ways of relating and communicating.

🤍 Let’s all play a part:
• Listen without judgment
• Speak up when something isn’t right
• Support those who reach out
• Model respect in our homes, workplaces, and communities

If you or someone you know needs support, please don’t hesitate to contact us. No one has to face these challenges alone.

🤍 Together, we can create a future free from violence.

24/11/2025

IT'S NOT "WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME?" IT'S "WHAT HAPPENED TO ME & HOW DID IT SHAPE ME?"

What happened (the event)
-Big T or little t trauma
-One-time or ongoing
-Relational, developmental, or environmental
• breakup or divorce
• A global pandemic
• A traumatic birth or surgery
• Cancer
• A car crash
• childhood bullying
• An emotionally unavailable parent
• A physical or sexual assault
• Chronic microaggressions
• An unexpected loss

How it felt (your experience)
• "I don't belong."
• “No one came for me."
• "I had to freeze or shut down."
• "I was powerless and confused.”
• " have to stay strong for everyone else."
• "It's not ok to feel."
• “I’ll never be safe again"
• “It's my fault"
• "I'm not good enough"

How it shaped you (The Effects)
• anxiety
• shame and guilt
• emotional numbness
• perfectionism
• Nightmares, or intrusive thoughts
• Hypervigilance (always scanning for threat)
• "People pleasing" and overfunctoning
• Body tension, fatigue, or chronic pain
• Disconnection in relationships
• Chronic irritability
• Avoidance
• Difficulty trusting

24/11/2025

Psychotherapeutic Counsellor Sandra Mazili explores how grief, anxiety and depression can overlap – and the gentle steps you can take to ease their hold on your mind and body. 💬 http://ow.ly/hXcr106pVI4

24/11/2025

Big news from the Government.

24/11/2025

"Healing is about learning to feel safe in your own body again."

Trauma isn’t just in our minds, it’s held in our bodies too. EMDR therapy helps release the impact of traumatic experiences, allowing the body and mind to process and integrate what’s happened.

Through EMDR, people can start to feel safe in their own bodies again, reducing anxiety, easing tension, and reconnecting with a sense of calm and wellbeing.

If you’ve ever felt stuck or overwhelmed by past experiences, know that healing is possible—and it starts with creating safety within yourself.

20/11/2025

🌟 World Children’s Day 🌟

Today we join people around the world in recognising World Children’s Day, a day dedicated to promoting the rights, safety, and well-being of every child.

This day reminds us of the importance of creating environments where children feel valued, protected, and heard. It encourages communities, families, and institutions to reflect on how we can better support young people as they grow, learn, and navigate an ever-changing world.

World Children’s Day is also a call to celebrate the resilience, curiosity, and creativity that children bring into our lives. By listening to their voices and respecting their rights, we help shape a future that is more compassionate, inclusive, and hopeful.

💙 Today, let’s honour and uplift children everywhere. Their well-being shapes the world we build tomorrow.

13/11/2025

Do you find your friends and family often try to give you advice or solutions, when you try to talk to them about your struggles or feelings?

Do you wish they would just listen and not try to fix the situation for you?

Counselling gives you space to discuss the things that are weighing on your mind with out the fear of being judged, not being heard or having to downplay your feelings because you don't want to worry your loved one.

It gives you the freedom to really express what is going on for you and what you are really feeling.

By having this space and talking through your issues with a trained Counsellor, you will start to understand yourself better, build self-esteem and self-confidence, make long lasting changes and develop stronger coping skills.

If this sounds like the kind of support you would like, please contact us to discuss how counselling could help.

Thecounsellingpractice@hotmail.com
07857 836390
www.thecounsellingpractice.co.uk

12/11/2025

What kind of EMDR do I do?
I use something called Tapping EMDR.

Instead of following my fingers or a light bar with your eyes, we use gentle, alternating taps — usually on your hands or knees..

Why tapping?
Because it helps us stay more connected during the session. There’s no distraction — just presence, grounding, and a calming rhythm that helps your body and mind process safely.

Many clients find tapping feels more soothing, natural, and embodied — especially if eye movements feel too activating.

It’s all about meeting you where you are, and helping healing feel safe and supported.

What is EMDR Therapy?
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) helps your brain process difficult experiences from the past that still affect how you feel and think today.

I use EMDR to help clients heal from:
✨ Anxiety and overthinking
✨ Low self-worth and self-doubt
✨ People-pleasing and difficulty setting boundaries
✨ Pain from childhood or past relationships

It’s a powerful way to release old emotional patterns and start feeling calmer, lighter, and more like you again. 🌱

11/11/2025

Your mental health challenges don’t define you. Your courage, resilience and strength do. 🌱
You are so much more than what you’ve been through.

11/11/2025

11/11/2025

Our Therapists Clive and Jennifer have some appointments becoming available next week.

Clive has availability on Tuesdays 10am - 2pm and Saturdays 10am - 12pm.

Jennifer has availability at 4pm and 6pm on Wednesdays for individual or couples therapy.

Please see our website for more information about our therapists and feel free to contact me if you have any questions or would like to book a session.

Warm regards,
Roxanne

Thecounsellingpractice@hotmail.com

Professional Counselling and Therapy in Watford