13/11/2025
5 Ways to Free Yourself from Trauma
(So You Can Show Up Better in Your Relationships)
1. Face What You’ve Been Avoiding
Healing starts when you stop running. Whether it’s anger, shame or grief, turn toward it. Feel it. Name it. You can’t heal what you refuse to feel.
2. Stop Making Your Partner Your Healer
It’s not her job to fix your past.
Take responsibility for your wounds so she can love you for who you are. Don’t add more pressure to her or the relationship.
3. Find Safe Spaces to Be vulnerable,
Men’s circles, therapy, breathwork, time in nature, go to the gym, find places where you can drop the mask and open up. Healing happens with vulnerability not in isolation.
4. Learn to Regulate Your Nervous System
When you’re triggered, breathe Slow down. Trauma lives in the body. calm the body and your past will stop ruling you.
Get support healing your nervous system.
5 Forgive Yourself for How You learnt to Survive
Whatever you did to cope, shutting down, chasing validation, numbing out was just survival. Forgive that version of you. He did what he had to do to stay safe, Now it’s time to live, not just survive. Find peace with yourself and any mistakes you may of made.
If you heal yourself you won’t be looking for a partner to heal your past, you deserve to be healed and she deserves a man who is in control of his emotions and life.