Creating Calm Family Therapy

Creating Calm Family Therapy I'm a therapist supporting children young people and their families to manage big feelings, stressful situations and supporting them through change.

You can find out more about me (and Orca the therapy dog) over at creatingcalm.co.uk

Orca the therapy dog is living her best life as a (legitimate) destroyer of paper!(Just don't ask about the box of tissu...
07/10/2025

Orca the therapy dog is living her best life as a (legitimate) destroyer of paper!

(Just don't ask about the box of tissues when she was a pup...)

If you're a dog walker, the beach is great, and there are also lots of walks from the Marina. (The beach is dog-friendly...
30/09/2025

If you're a dog walker, the beach is great, and there are also lots of walks from the Marina. (The beach is dog-friendly all year round, so it is Orca's regular run.)

www.theboathouseuphill.co.uk is at the Marina. We love it. It's family and dog-friendly, has great staff and serves amazing food. Orca rates their cooked breakfasts. I rate their avocado on toast and other vegan offerings - their vegan cakes are fabulous too!

Transform Playtime, Transform Your Relationship:CPRT Course for Parents*Are you: • Struggling to balance fun and boundar...
22/09/2025

Transform Playtime, Transform Your Relationship:
CPRT Course for Parents*

Are you: • Struggling to balance fun and boundaries with your children? • Feeling like you're always the 'strict' parent? • At your wits’ end with constant power struggles?

You're not alone - and there's a proven solution!

The Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT) course helps parents like you reconnect with your children through the power of play. Learn some of the therapeutic techniques used by child therapists and transform your skills, to become the confident, balanced parent you've always wanted to be.

What You'll Gain: • Master the ACT model for gentle, effective boundaries • Boost your children's self-esteem and your parenting confidence • Learn responsive listening and feeling reflection techniques • Enjoy meaningful, individualised play sessions with each of your children • Effectively manage control battles and power struggles.

The Experience: Join an intimate group of just 5 other parents for ten comprehensive workshops. Practice new therapeutic skills in sessions, then apply them during weekly 30-minute playtimes with your children. Receive expert feedback and peer support to build your confidence, plus ongoing support options.

The Result: Life-long parenting skills that help you understand your children’s needs while maintaining important boundaries - without constant conflict.

Ready to transform your family dynamic? Get started today: hellocreatingcalm@gmail.com or message me on here.

(*or any other adult in the family who is important to a child!)

Transform playtime. Transform your family.

Orca the therapy dog would love you to pop by and give her a biscuit - as apparently I am being tardy and have to be ask...
08/09/2025

Orca the therapy dog would love you to pop by and give her a biscuit - as apparently I am being tardy and have to be asked for them...

08/09/2025

Here's the latest Studio tour, it's been an embarrassingly long time, but finally I have got round to it.

Orca and I are looking forward to welcoming you to the Studio...

Are you a therapist or trainee therapist wanting some easy CPD for this year?  Come and join me for some or all of the c...
13/02/2023

Are you a therapist or trainee therapist wanting some easy CPD for this year? Come and join me for some or all of the creative supervision offered here and a focus group too if you would like.
I'm offering the CPD for free but asking for donations to Maybe Southwest who are hosting for me.
Please email me for more info or to book a space: hello@creatingcalm.co.uk
(If you're a PTUK trainee, this is open to diploma trainees, so you've got some background of client work to draw on.)
Please feel free to pass this on to anyone who might be interested - just ask them to book a space with me if they would like to come. Thanks x

If you are looking for a creative clinical supervisor I have space to see you face-to-face in either Wells, Somerset, or...
23/08/2022

If you are looking for a creative clinical supervisor I have space to see you face-to-face in either Wells, Somerset, or in Portishead. I have spaces during the day and in the evening.

I'm happy to support trainee therapists as well as qualified practitioners. PTUK trainees are particularly welcome as I am a trainee supervisor for PTUK.

If you would like to know more, please send me an email - hello@creatingcalm.co.uk

23/08/2022

Here's the new Studio Tour! I'm now based in the middle of Wells and would welcome the opportunity to share the studio with you if you are looking for a child and adolescent therapist.

Teenage BrainsWhether you are a teenager or an adult involved with teenagers, the teenage brain can be baffling at the b...
30/08/2021

Teenage Brains

Whether you are a teenager or an adult involved with teenagers, the teenage brain can be baffling at the best of times.

In this article, I will be briefly exploring some key teenage behaviours and how they are neurologically, psychologically, and physiologically explained.

Teenage brains undergo extensive reorganisation and rewiring, so they are not the same as childhood brains and not so completely developed as adult brains.

In fact, research shows they are only about 80% on the way to maturity, with all the ‘executive functions’ like prospective memory (planning to do something in the future) yet to fully develop. This explains why teens often forget to do things. They might mean to do their homework (or whatever) but can’t yet forward plan to think when where or how to get it done – and so it goes unfinished with the inevitable results.

A lot of the ‘flash’ responses we see in teens are because their developing brain often hasn’t ‘seen’ the hormones it is being exposed to enough to learn how to moderate the body’s response. One example of this is the hormone THP (or tetrahydropregnanolone if you like long words). In adults, it does a great job of helping modulate anxiety. Unfortunately for teens, it has the opposite effect – increasing their anxiety instead of reducing it.

This is one of the reasons teens have less resilience to stress compared to adults and are more likely to show stress-induced physical illnesses and anxious behaviours. Another reason for anger spikes in teens includes their physiological brain structure. Teens have an under-developed amygdala in the brain which during the teen years is particularly sensitive to hormones, especially adrenaline which is why they often ‘flash’ when an adult makes reasonable requests that the teen thinks are completely unreasonable.

It also doesn’t help that teen brains are wired in such a way that when the neurotransmitter dopamine is released, it increases the desire for goal-orientated activity, triggering the reward circuits in such a way that teens are quicker at thinking about ‘why’ to do something than ‘why not’ to do something. This gives rise to issues with impulse control and not thinking through the consequences of their behaviour. (Sound familiar?) Teen brains are also wired to acquire new, novel information and aren’t as good as adult brains at processing negative information, meaning they really are inclined to impulsivity and less likely to learn from their mistakes.

The moment you learn something new, your brain structure physically changes almost immediately, with neurons changing within about 15 minutes. These brain changes start before birth and a baby’s brain can create two million synapses a second. (A synapse is a connection between two neurons.). As you can imagine, this leaves your brain with lots of connections, some of which are needed more than others.

In the teenage years, the brain streamlines the connections that it needs and prunes away the ones it doesn’t need. This removing of unwanted neural connections allows the brain to become more efficient and ultimately more intelligent, however, it takes quite a lot of energy – one of the many reasons teens are often tired.

Another reason for teen tiredness is that melatonin (which help make us sleepy) is released about two hours later in the evening than in an adult brain and stays in their system longer. This makes them want to go to bed later and explains why they find it hard to get up in the mornings. There is not a single part of teen life that isn’t negatively affected by lack of sleep. Poor sleep can result in physiological, cognitive, and emotional impairment making teens more prone to aggressiveness, mood swings and impulsivity. Sleep-deprived teens are also more prone to illness and injury as well as increasingly forgetful and struggling to learn or problem solve.

So much of how teens respond is emotion-based, not reason-based, mainly because there is less activity in the frontal lobes of their brains, making it harder for them to handle emotion, especially in a crisis. THP affects how they handle stress and anxiety along with cortisol which is often higher in teens than adults.

Hard to handle emotions including stress, worry, anger and loneliness are all linked to how teen brains respond to THP along with higher cortisol levels. Add this to an already overactive amygdala and stress response system, and you can see why mental health concerns often start in the teen years for many children who up to that point have seemed to be resilient and able to cope. If trauma is severe or prolonged, teens are often more prone to PTSD than children and adults which can lead to negative behaviours including sometimes aggression, self-harm, drug and alcohol abuse alongside poor academic achievements and social isolation.

As our understanding of how teen brains work develops, along with our understanding that teen-brain neurobiology is different to both that of a child and an adult we become more able to support teens through the challenging years of adolescence. Scientific understanding in this field is always changing and evolving, which is one of the reasons I find it so interesting and really enjoy working with my teen clients.

If you would like to read more, I can recommend:

Inventing Ourselves: The Secret Life of the Teenage Brain – Sarah-Jayne Blakemore
The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults – Dr Frances E. Jensen with Amy Ellis Nutt
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain – Daniel J. Siegel

If you have any questions, please feel free to drop me an email: hello@creatingcalm.co.uk

Contact Elaine:
Email: hello@creatingcalm.co.uk
Phone: 01749 599066
Website: creatingcalm.co.uk

Coming on Monday a quick look into the mysterious world of the teenage brain and why teens behave like they do.Why can't...
28/08/2021

Coming on Monday a quick look into the mysterious world of the teenage brain and why teens behave like they do.

Why can't my teen get their homework done or remember to empty the dishwasher?

Why does my teen react so emotionally in situations where I would be logical?

Why does my teen go to bed late and get up even later?

Some reasons are explored in the post. Feel free to share the post with anyone who is a teen, or shares their world with one...

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