Derek Flint Counselling and Psychotherapy

24/12/2025

The mess, the Christmas chaos it’s the jet ingredient to the magic! Enjoy every moment,, I hope this Christmas is everything your heart needs 🤍✨

23/12/2025

Addiction can feel like a barrier that cannot be overcome, affecting every aspect of life and the lives of others around us, including the physical, mental, and emotional areas of life. But remember, change is possible. I am an experienced addictions counsellor and offer confidential and compassionate support for individuals, couples and family members who are facing the challenges of addiction and compulsive behaviours. Learn more about the signs of addiction and take your first step towards change and living a happier life in this recent blog post: "Understanding Addiction and Its Effects." Click below to read and discover how recovery is within your reach.

23/12/2025

Spending Christmas on your own this year? A useful resource to know about just in case you want some connection

22/12/2025

Holidays can bring big urges and lonely moments — I’m here to help with three practical, gentle strategies you can use right now: 1) Urge surfing: notice the urge, breathe through it, and remind yourself it will pass. 2) Brief grounding: use 5–7–5 breaths, name five things you see, and anchor back to the present. 3) Connection-planning: schedule a short check-in with a trusted friend or a safe activity before gatherings. I specialise in compulsive sexual behaviour and support individuals, men and couples navigating these challenges. I offer local sessions in West Malling, Carshalton and Woking, plus online appointments. Visit https://wix.to/v3Rk4Mu to book or message me to talk through what might help. 😊

Psychosexual therapy for addiction and relationship issues in West Malling, Carshalton, and Woking. Contact Derek Flint Therapeutic Counselling today.

22/12/2025

The holidays can feel heavy, and that’s okay. I’m a psychotherapist who understands how Christmas can increase anxiety, loneliness and urges tied to compulsive behaviours. You don’t have to manage this alone. As a qualified therapist, with additional training and experience helping clients with addiction or compulsive behaviour difficulties, I offer support face to face (West Malling, Kent & Carshalton, Surrey) and online, with a warm, non‑judgmental approach tailored to your needs. If you’re struggling or just want to talk things through, please reach out. I offer a free initial consultation so you can find out how I can help. https://wix.to/9KzoLBi

22/12/2025

Ready to begin change after the holidays? I’m here to help — gently, without pressure. If you’re struggling with compulsive sexual or p**n behaviour, men’s mental health, or related relationship strain, I offer specialist support and both online and local sessions (Kings Hill, Carshalton, Woking).

“I felt seen and understood — I could finally start to change.” — anonymous client

I have specialist training and years of clinical experience, and I’ll work at a pace that feels safe for you. If you’d like to talk through options, book a confidential conversation at https://wix.to/UlkWPzt CONTACT ME to arrange a first step.

22/12/2025

Dealing with the challenges and complexities of addiction or compulsive behaviour can be difficult and often isolating, but you're not alone. I have additional training and experience helping clients who are finding things overwhelming or becoming increasingly hard to control, I offer tailored therapy approaches that address the causes underlying the behaviour and support lasting recovery. 🧠💪 Recovery isn’t just about change; it’s about transformation and starting to be the true you. I offer non-judgmental, confidential and empathetic support that can help you or your loved ones take the first step towards a fulfilling life. 💡

20/12/2025

When betrayal or compulsive behaviour affects your relationship, getting things back on track is possible. I work with couples to restore trust, improve communication and build shared recovery plans that feel realistic and respectful. In therapy we help partners hear each other and work through difficulties, identifying what changes you would like and how to achieve them, together. If you’re in Kent or Surrey (West Malling, Kings Hill or Carshalton) and are looking for practical, compassionate support to help fix a relationship, get in touch to book a free initial consultation: https://wix.to/mAMJht6

18/12/2025

Don't Let Isolation Win This Christmas 💭

One week until Christmas, and if you're struggling, it's easy to retreat into yourself. Sitting at home, brooding over what you've lost, what's gone wrong, or how everyone else seems to be having a better time.

But here's the truth: isolation feeds addiction.

When you're alone with your thoughts during a vulnerable time, resentment, self-pity, and old patterns creep back in. Before you know it, you're convincing yourself that "just one drink" will make things easier.

You don't need to feel motivated to take action. You just need to move. The feelings will follow.

Christmas week can be tough, but brooding in isolation makes it tougher. Get up.
Get out. Get moving.

You've got this. 💪

18/12/2025

Struggling with compulsive sexual behaviour or addiction? I’m here to help with clear, practical therapy that gets results. I work with each client as an individual and, working together, discuss how to best help you, using cognitive‑behavioural techniques and relapse‑prevention strategies to reduce urges, improve relationships and deepen self‑understanding. I hold professional accreditations and specialist training, and have lots of experience helping others in a similar place as you. Sessions available in West Malling, Kent, Carshalton and Surrey. Learn more and book a consultation: https://wix.to/fPvO4iT 🧭🤝 . Call to book or message me to start.

18/12/2025

Men - it’s okay to ask for help. I’m Derek Flint, a counsellor with over 3,000 hours’ experience offering respectful, practical support for addiction, compulsive behaviours and mental health challenges. If you’re worried about judgement, confidentiality or what happens in a first session, I’ll walk you through every step. I offer face‑to‑face appointments in Kent and Surrey (Kings Hill, Carshalton, Woking) and secure online sessions to suit your needs. Visit https://wix.to/piLP1mI to learn more and book. Ready to take a small step? Get in touch — I’m here to listen.

10/12/2025

Men are still far less likely to speak up, ask for help or feel they can show vulnerability.

But what if we changed the conversation? What if talking became the new norm?

Our online groups are social, supportive spaces for all men to come and talk about what’s on their mind.

Our groups are social spaces, designed to create an online community of men talking and sharing their experiences. We welcome men of all types to the groups, whether they’re interested in joining to share their own experiences, hear the experiences of others, or just want a community they can be part of.

Join a group this week:

Wednesday at 7pm
Saturday at 2pm

https://menwhotalk.org/free-online-groups/