Derek Flint Counselling and Psychotherapy

07/11/2025

The natural response to is avoidance. But that's a short-term gain for long-term loss. Hard though it is, we have to find a way to overcome the avoidance in order to heal.

Find out more on 'Working with Trauma Memory' webinar: http://www.carolynspring.com/trauma-webinar

07/11/2025

This is the second in today’s set of three visuals on When My Amygdala is Triggered — this time focusing on the primary years.

These are the years where children can often talk about feelings, but in the moment, their bodies can still become overwhelmed and reactive.
The reaction isn’t chosen. The behaviour is communication. And our calm is still the anchor.

This connects with our resource: The Child Brain Explained – Understanding the Upstairs Downstairs Brain. Find the link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

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07/11/2025

“I’m 11… and sometimes my feelings feel too big for my body.”

This week’s Voice of a Child post shares the inner world of an 11-year-old — the push and pull between wanting independence and still needing comfort.

At this age, emotions can surge like waves — and what they need most is understanding, not judgement.

If you’re supporting a young person learning to manage these big emotions, our Managing Big Feelings Toolkit is full of practical, brain-based strategies to help them build emotional awareness and calm from the inside out. Link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

07/11/2025

Words Worth Holding Onto is a gentle collection of quotes, reminders and affirmations for children and young people navigating big feelings. Sometimes, the right words at the right time can make all the difference.

Managing Big Feelings, a Toolkit for Parents & Educators
Electronic download available at link in comments ⬇️ or via our Linktree Shop in Bio.

05/11/2025

If you are worried about your own difficulties or about someone close to you, get in touch to arrange a free initial consultation and find out what help is available.

If you’re struggling with and wonder, how to beat an addiction or compulsive behaviours and want to explore how therapy could support you, I’m here to help. I offer online and in-person sessions across West Malling, Maidstone, Kent, Surrey, and London. Get in touch today for a confidential, free...

04/11/2025

I have training and specific qualifications to help clients affected by this type of compulsive behaviour. Initially it isn’t always obvious unlike alcohol or drug use. The impact can be as bad however.

If you or someone you know may be struggling to stop similar behaviour or p**n use is beginning to take up more and more time, or simply if you are wondering how to stop watching p**n, get in touch and arrange a free initial consultation and find out how therapy can help.

Ore Oduba breaks his silence on the taboo subject to help his own children and others dealing with the problem

04/11/2025

"P**n addiction was destroying my life, says former Strictly winner
Ore Oduba breaks his silence on the taboo subject to help his own children and others dealing with the problem ".

A former Strictly Come Dancing winner has revealed that a 30-year battle with p**n addiction had been “destroying” his life.

[via Telegraph article, 04 November 2025 by India McTaggart ]

Ore Oduba, 39, a TV presenter, spoke candidly about his struggles with p**nography, saying it began when he was nine years old.

Speaking on the We Need To Talk podcast with Paul C Brunson, he said he was breaking his silence on the taboo subject to help his own children and others who might be dealing with it.

“A year and a half ago I was able to escape an addiction that had dogged me for nearly 30 years,” the father of two said.

Oduba added: “Shame kept me silent for 30 years. It took me 30 years, two deaths, and a divorce to finally go: here’s what’s happening.”

Explaining the origin of the problem, he said:

“Nine, that is when my addiction started, when I was introduced to p**nography, and I think only after everything that has happened, understanding how much of a thread that had been throughout my life, was I finally able to escape it.''

The presenter, who fronted CBBC’s Newsround from 2008 until 2013 and won Strictly with Joanne Clifton in 2016, said the first time he was shown p**n by a friend’s older brother was “innocuous”.

“I remember being very intrigued and a feeling of eyes being opened,” he added. “Whilst I wouldn’t say addiction set in immediately, the intrigue set in immediately and it didn’t take long for that intrigue to start running my mind over.”

Oduba’s revelation comes after the Government announced that choking women is to be banned from online p**n after a review found that it was encouraging boys to emulate the behaviour.

Amid a crackdown on violent p**nography, it was announced that the possession and publication of images depicting strangulation and suffocation will be criminalised with a maximum penalty of five years in jail.


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04/11/2025

Child Bereavement UK is partnering with Sibling Support to offer helpline support to young people whose brother or sister has died, and to their families and carers. We’re pleased to be part of Sibling Support’s important mission to ensure bereaved siblings don’t become the forgotten grievers.

For more information 👉 siblingsupport.co.uk/get-support

04/11/2025

Having this shift in perspective can help you focus on what matters. 💙

Share as a reminder.

03/11/2025

Sharing your story could the the inspiration that someone else needs to start their journey in recovery 🫵👥💞