Lizzy Wicks

13/02/2026

Fearne Cotton encapsulates how I feel today- to thine own self be true wrote Shakespeare and around me I see people smothering their feelings and thoughts to be included and fit into what is becoming a very Selfish Society. The Selfish Society by Sue Gerhardt is another book I’m reading currently - its subtitle says it all - How we all forgot to love one another and made money instead. The fawning to others that Fearne talks about is at times geared to fit in , to be accepted and to help you up the social scale. But at what cost? The cost is your true self, the cost is living a lie and losing your true self, the person you are meant to be. Therapy can help to disentangle yourself from your alter ego

14/08/2025

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27/05/2025

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22/04/2025

Pope Francis death may affect many who would have seen Him as their father. When there is a death of a public figure it can trigger very personal felt grief in the community. Grief can often resurface when previous bereavements and losses have been avoided and people can be surprised how a public figure can cause such deep mourning. But we saw it with the Queen and also Princess Diana. We grieved for the women they represented not because of the people they truly were. Princess Diana represented a sister, a young mother, a betrayed wife, a troubled child, a divorcee. We related to her human traits and we grieved for our own losses that had similarities to her. # lossofparent

23/03/2025

I’ve come to admire Mel B over the years . That precocious confident woman that fronted the Spice Girls from 1994. From wearing a leopard skin style cat suit to cuddling up to Nelson Mandela - there was no stopping her…. Or I fee so it seemed.
Mel B’s interview with Paloma Faith shows a different aspect of her life as she became a victim of domestic abuse. Her gleaming life turned into a living hell being isolated from family and friends and constantly denigrated by her then husband. It left her feeling powerless - ironic as the Spice Girls always promoted “Girl Power”!!
Maybe because I witnessed my own mother’s domestic situation that I empathise with Mel B strongly . She has turned it around and has moved on and is currently the Patron and activist of Women’s Aid whose aim is to support victims, raise awareness and seek to put an end to domestic abuse.
She was awarded an MBE in 2022 for her services towards domestic abuse victims. As I write this I feel a strange sense of pride - well done Mel B - this is real Girl Power❤️ https://hopetherapyandcounselling.co.uk/

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18/03/2025

There was a good example of Disenfranchised grief on Emmerdale recently. The story line involved Mary, Vanessa and her girlfriend Suzy. Vanessa was planning to ask Suzy to marry her but alas Suzy and Mary had fallen for each other. Mary and Suzy planned to be together but unfortunately Suzy’s untimely death prevented this. Vanessa the grieved girlfriend had not known of Mary and Suzy’s plans and openly grieved and helped with the funeral arrangements. Whilst Mary had to hide her true feelings due to the clandestine nature of her relationship with Suzy . This type of grief is called disenfranchised grief - having to grieve in secret as your relationship is not recognised or when the deceased may have caused others harm such as murder or terrorism or late last century there was a lot of shame surrounding the AIDS virus . Parents or families of people suffering from AIDS - did not outwardly show their grief as they feared being judged and ostracised.

07/03/2025

Lest we forget, this was Donald in 2020 during the pandemic - suggesting we use lights on the inside , or bleach to conquer covid. The woman’s face is a picture 😂😂😂

24/02/2025

I saw on interview about Dune where they mentioned The Litany Against Fear a poem by Frank Herbert. Herbert expresses how acute fear can paralize us “total obliteration” but if we can mentally come to terms that it is fear and allow it to pass - we remain.

20/01/2025

Here we are at Blue Monday apparently the most depressing day of the year. With Christmas and the New Year behind us - chances are that we have overspent and this may cause stress and anxiety.
Before us we have several months of winter in front of us, could this be a good time to start considering what needs to change ? What needs to be addressed in our lives? Are there any issues that continuously bother us? Is this a good time to start exploring what we want in life through therapy?

I am a counselling psychotherapist and provide a safe space for individuals and couples expereincing difficulties in life . Whether you experiencing depression, anxiety, PTSD, loss or need support and understanding within your relationships.

08/01/2025

I love this quote by Richard Gere - for too long we live behind a professional facade to conform with social norms. What joy there is to free yourself from the shackles of conformity

06/01/2025

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Anger Management. Anger is an emotion that we all experience, it is part of our survival system. Our stress response - Fight or flight is activated when we are stressed so its perfectly natural. But what happens when you become enraged - or experience the "red mist”?
There are triggers here connecting you to past traumas, this isnt usually something that is happening to you in the here and now but some unresolved issue in the past.
We can all remember times when we have over reacted to situations and our anger has been out of proprtion to the event. When it is a reaction instead of a response we are stepping into the danger zone. We experience an inability to tolerate what is happening even though it may seem trivial to others. Managing anger is difficult as we dont want to be known or associate ourselves with uncontrollable anger - there is a shame attached to it. Quite often individuals who experience rage have bene affected by someone else’s anger, possibly a family member. They may have grown up being fearful of that person and not wanted to be the same, therefore to distance themselves from that behaviour they supress their anger. Suppressed anger has a nasty habit of exploding out. Learning to manage anger is different to suppressing it - anger needs to be in proportion to the event, we need to learn about our triggers, anger needs to be discussed with the person we are angry with lest it targets “innocent bystanders’ such as in road rage! Leran the it is a natural response but when we react its an over response and there is something unresolved