Nicky Elmer Hypnotherapy

Nicky Elmer Hypnotherapy Clinical Hypnotherapist specialising in anxiety, working with children and adults. Face-to-face or online. Support for most challenges, tailored to you.

Helping you feel like you again. Visit my YouTube channel to sample some of my sessions:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC7GiqqjDZH7zNzYEBg4pnA

Or find me on Instagram at:
www.instragram.com/NickyElmerHypnotherapy

I also run a Facebook group where I offer help and support to anyone who would like to improve their or maintain their mental health. I go live with Hypnosis sessions, upload videos of techniques and give exclusive access to new tracks. Click here to join:

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I completely lost myself in perimenopause.At first, I didn’t even know that’s what it was.My ADHD got worse, my focus di...
10/11/2025

I completely lost myself in perimenopause.
At first, I didn’t even know that’s what it was.

My ADHD got worse, my focus disappeared, and everything felt grey.

I was told I was too young, that my blood pressure was too high for HRT even though perimenopause can cause it to rise. I had blood tests that showed nothing, and no one mentioned how hormones can fluctuate for years before menopause even starts.

It took me a long time to realise what was happening.
And when I finally did, it changed everything.

I’ve shared my full story in my Mind Matters membership today.
It’s free to read for everyone.
You’ll find the link in the comments.

My husband showed me a video about the Isle of Man TT and I loved it. (Link in comments).It’s the most dangerous race in...
07/11/2025

My husband showed me a video about the Isle of Man TT and I loved it. (Link in comments).

It’s the most dangerous race in the world, riders flying round tiny public roads at 200 miles an hour, brushing past stone walls and lampposts. One mistake could be fatal.

And yet when they talk about it, they don’t describe fear.
They describe calm.

They talk about how everything slows down, how it becomes quiet and effortless, even in the middle of all that speed and danger.

That’s effortless action.

It’s not about doing nothing, it’s about doing from the right place.
When the mind stops overthinking and the body moves naturally, things just work.

Trying too hard creates resistance, but trust creates flow.

The riders aren’t forcing anything. They’ve trained, they’ve practised, but when the moment comes, they let go and allow it to happen. Every movement becomes precise, smooth, intuitive. It’s less effort, more awareness.

That’s the paradox of ease.

When you stop pushing, you actually perform better.
When you stop gripping so tightly, you start to move more freely.

It’s the same kind of focus I see in hypnosis, that calm, absorbed concentration where things start to click without effort. But really, it’s about presence.

The quiet confidence that comes when you trust yourself enough to let things unfold.

I have stopped asking my clients to do more. My original training focused on repetition and daily practice but I’ve real...
01/11/2025

I have stopped asking my clients to do more.

My original training focused on repetition and daily practice but I’ve realised it can also leave space for guilt and shame on the days when life is too busy or when you simply don’t feel like it.

Many of my clients are tired and juggling far too much.

They don’t need to come to me and have more added to their plate. I’m noticing more and more, in both my clients and myself, that sometimes less really is more.

In fact, the biggest changes often come from doing nothing at all.

Our bodies were never designed for this non-stop lifestyle. So often when we feel broken, unmotivated, or lazy, it’s actually our body crying out for rest.

Now I give my clients access to the tools they need between sessions, and I encourage them to do whatever feels right, and sometimes that’s just lying on the sofa, scrolling, or binge-watching something on Netflix.

October’s track on my Mind Matters membership is all about scaling it back, keeping it simple, and allowing the unconscious mind to take what it needs, without effort.

You can listen to a sample of the track on my Mind Matters page (link in comments).

The brain is always looking for ways to make life easier.Every time you repeat something, your mind takes note and start...
28/10/2025

The brain is always looking for ways to make life easier.

Every time you repeat something, your mind takes note and starts turning it into a shortcut. That’s why we can drive or make tea without thinking, but it’s also why unhelpful habits can feel impossible to break.

It’s not a lack of willpower. It’s wiring.

When something gives even the smallest bit of relief or reward, your brain releases dopamine, that little chemical signal that says, “Remember this, it helped.” Over time, those patterns become automatic.

The good news is, that same process builds better habits too.

The more you repeat something calming, grounding or kind, the more natural it starts to feel.

Because every habit started as a way to help. The work now is just finding better ways.

This is what I do in hypnosis, I help your mind unlearn the old shortcuts and build more helpful ones instead.

For more information, book a free information call, link in comments.

I talk a lot. Even in my sleep. My way of processing feelings is to just talk. Well… ramble.I see a counsellor for that ...
27/10/2025

I talk a lot. Even in my sleep.

My way of processing feelings is to just talk. Well… ramble.

I see a counsellor for that reason. Everything tends to come out in a jumble and all over the place, but somehow, by the time I’ve finished, I’ve usually found my own solution.

And I notice the same thing with my clients.

They’ll start talking, then stop halfway through and say, “Sorry, I’m rambling.”
But that’s often the moment something really important begins to surface.

What they call rambling is usually their mind starting to make sense of things. It’s when they stop trying to sound clear or tidy and just let the words fall out as they are. And that’s when the deeper stuff starts to shift.

Sometimes you don’t need advice or fixing.
You just need space to talk, to let it all spill out, mess and all, and feel heard.

That’s what my Space to Talk sessions are for.

I don't like it when people make fun of me.When someone brings up something I’ve done wrong, a moment I messed up or mad...
22/10/2025

I don't like it when people make fun of me.

When someone brings up something I’ve done wrong, a moment I messed up or made a mistake, and turns it into a joke, I find it humiliating.
It hurts. It makes me feel small.

Maybe it’s more heightened for me because I have ADHD, and I do make a lot of mistakes.
I lose things. I blurt things out. I forget really important stuff.
And I’ve already spent so long being hard on myself for those things.
So when someone laughs about them, it touches a nerve.

It’s not that I can’t take a joke.
I really can, especially when I’m the one telling it.
When I poke fun at myself, it’s on my terms. That feels different.

Sometimes I do laugh along, if I’m in a good place.
So I get that it can be confusing for others, especially because I’m someone who loves to laugh, and often uses humour as an ice breaker.

But it took me a long time to be able to say,
“Please don’t do that. I don’t find it funny.”
And to be okay with that.

For a long time, people would say I was being oversensitive. That I just couldn’t take a joke.
But really… I was just setting a boundary.
Trying to say, this doesn’t feel good for me.

It’s not a criticism of the person making the joke.
It’s just something I don’t feel comfortable with.
And I think it’s important to speak up about that.

Does anyone else feel like this?

I wrote more about it in my Mind Matters membership today. If you want to read it, I’ll pop the link in the comments.

You don’t need to be a member to read this one.

🌍 Big news from me…At the end of February, my family and I are packing up our lives, squeezing everything we can into ou...
12/10/2025

🌍 Big news from me…

At the end of February, my family and I are packing up our lives, squeezing everything we can into our motorhome, and heading off to travel around Europe for a while.

It’s something I’ve dreamed of for years, a slower, simpler life. Less stress. Fewer bills. More sunsets, more freedom, and (if we survive it) a lot more family time… all in one very small box on wheels.

I think so many of us reach a point where we realise we’re just juggling too much. The constant rushing, the bills, the pressure, it all builds up until you start to wonder, “what if life could be a bit easier?”

So we’re giving it a go.

Workwise, nothing really changes. I’ll still be working away, just with a different view out the window. Sessions will continue as normal over Zoom, and you can still book through my website.

So if you see photos of lavender fields or mountains on my page, don’t worry, I haven’t run away from the world, I’m just taking it with me.

As you might have gathered, I really struggle with social media. I don’t enjoy being on it but the best thing about Face...
15/09/2025

As you might have gathered, I really struggle with social media. I don’t enjoy being on it but the best thing about Facebook for me is the memories that pop up.

5 years ago, the building of my cabin was underway. I was so excited to have my own workspace. I have seen hundreds of clients in there since then and it’s been the best thing I ever did for my business.

It is surrounded by fruit trees that create some privacy and it is the most relaxing calm space.

I’ve been thinking about cancellations and rescheduling lately. A lot of people in my line of work get really strict abo...
07/09/2025

I’ve been thinking about cancellations and rescheduling lately. A lot of people in my line of work get really strict about it. And I do get why. When you’re self employed, a missed appointment can mean earning less that week, and if things are already tight, that feels stressful.

But the way I see it, life happens. People forget. We double book. We get sick. Sometimes money is tight and you simply can’t stretch it that week. I’ve got ADHD and only the other day I realised I’d completely forgotten to put my hair appointment in the diary before I went away. I felt awful, apologised, and thankfully my hairdresser was kind about it. That kindness meant the world, because it reminded me we’re all human.

For me, creating a space of understanding and compassion is far more important than sticking rigidly to rules. Because when we let each other be human, something softens. There’s less shame, less guilt, and more room for honesty.

It doesn’t mean I don’t value my time. Of course I do. But I value kindness too. And the truth is, I’d rather work in a way that reflects that.

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Hypnotherapy is an excellent tool to help people overcome the issues holding them back in life. I can treat a variety of issues including anxiety, stress, depression, phobias, habits including smoking, sports performance and many more. Please get in touch to receive a free telephone consultation.

Bio: I am an experienced Clinical Hypnotherapist and a strong wellbeing services professional, I am fully qualified with a Diploma in Analytical Hypnotherapy Hypnotherapy from Hypno Perth and I am a member of The General Hypnotherapy Register.