10/12/2025
I can only ever speak for myselfâŚbut I know this may resonate with you too.
Back in the 90s I was on the special needs register đł
talking too much, fidgeting, drifting, âdisrupting.â
Today, theyâd call it ADHD.
Back then, it was just âHolly doesnt fit.â
I rejected the label for years, I didnât want another box to live in.
But as a woman, healer, and mother, Iâve had to acknowledge itâŚ
Not as a flaw⌠but as context for how my nervous system works.
Hereâs something we donât talk about enough:
For many of us, ADHD doesnât show up aloneâŚit sits alongside OCD-like patterns.
Intrusive thoughts, checking, spiralling when something feels off, tidying to regulate, overthinking, fixation
that was me.
Not chaosâŚjust a nervous system trying to find safety.
My holistics practices didnât fix me it reconnected me because I was never broken in the first place. It taught me to regulate instead of react, to witness instead of drown to soften instead of tighten and to turn sensitivity into intuition.
Now the reason all of this is coming up is because 1. Itâs throats chakra season and 2. this wiring also affects how I connect with others.
Iâve always been someone who needs space. I detox from my phone. Iâm not glued to constant messaging or notifications and I rarely scroll⌠which is ironic when you run a business built on connection. đĽ¸âď¸ BUT My SoulFam get me â¤ď¸
I live in the now, responding to energy, intuition, my children, my clients, and my own cycles.
Planning ahead can feel suffocating, daily messaging overwhelming, and sometimes I retreat not because I donât care, but because I need to breathe, and respond to the needs of my immediate environment which right now are my girls.
Some people understand that, deeply. Some donât.
And hereâs the truth Iâve learned:
We all love differently.
We relate differently.
We regulate differently.
Iâm not speaking for everyone
just sharing my truthâŚ
If any of this resonates were simply wired differently, not wrongly.
Iâd genuinely love to hear your experience x
Ps I donât think Iâd have the patience to read all of this but if you did thank you âşď¸