Kirsty Seager - Childosophy Children's Wellbeing practitioner UK

15/02/2021

Ways to Show Children You Love Them

Seed & Sew

14/02/2021

I'd also like to.add boundaries

04/01/2021

'One must have a chaos inside oneself to give birth to a dancing star.'

Friedrich Nietzsche
Thus Spake Zarathustra (1883) bk. 1, sect. 5.

As we embark on this new year of 2021 may we come to know and trust that we are deep in a process. The chaos of a pandemic is reframing the way we collectively live and has seen many go inside – literally and metaphorically.

This global return to 'home' is an opportunity to deeply examine our life, the life of all beings and to know thyself. All great philosophers, saints and sages have suggested inner transformation and direction is the best way forward.

May 2021 BIRTH DANCING STARS!!

27/12/2020

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27/12/2020

16/12/2020

Have You?

01/12/2020

Oh my goodness I am so excited.

These amazing Children's wellbeing cards have arrived.

For anyone who has had a consultation the cards are a fantastic contribution where children can choose their affirmations relating to their needs through the consultation.

What a perfect stocking filler!!!!!

Start the day with a positive affirmation picked especially for their requirements 💕💕💕

Full box of cards an amazing price of just £15.

01/12/2020

Oh my goodness the 1st of December how on earth did that happen.

What a year hey. I must say it's not the year of maternity leave I was expecting but who was hey.

I am beyond excited to say that I am now looking into options for my return back to the world of Childosophy. I have so missed working with all the amazing children and families. My house is currently packed to the brim in baby choas and set to get worse with a 1st birthday for our baby girl and Christmas too, but I am looking to join my newly qualified colleagues in an amazing hub for Childosophy practitioners - so watch this space for developments 💕💕💕

Sending so much love to you and have the most magical of Christmases 💕💕

25/11/2020

Techniques for defusing meltdowns... which are the result of unmet *needs* not because the child is not getting something they *want*.

Here's the original source that includes an EXCELLENT article discussing each point in greater detail...

https://hes-extraordinary.com/de-escalation-techniques

23/11/2020

Ok, so there are definite challenges with autism... but it does come with some serious benefits. I can personally attest to every single one of these.

Image source: University of Leeds

14/11/2020

When your child is overwhelmed, hypersensitive or feeling disconnected in themselves and toward others, look to the NEED that is driving the behaviours. Overwhelm and withdrawing or feeling disconnected have at root the unmet Need to KNOW

You can support your child in the following ways to have their Need to Know met:

Assist your child to see the higher purpose in situations. This self-awareness supports a self-knowledge to be activated. When children are accepted for feeling all their sensitivity, they might see a deeper pattern in their experiences and a reason why they keep creating certain situations – this empowers them with self-knowledge.

Model healthy responses to questions and curiosity. Your child’s Need to Know about the world, themselves, life and death, where they come from are present for them from a very early age.

Encourage a self-knowledge in your child by being interested in what they know and what they believe about the world – which might be different to what you know or believe. Open to the child’s innate knowing.

Pause and feel into what you would need yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed or hypertensive because you don’t always know what your big feelings mean or the reasons that you feel the way you do.

Ask yourself the following question - What would I need if I felt overwhelmed or disconnected?

Look to the situation and the environment to find the source of the Need to Know from your conditioned environment, perhaps it began with an experience that has been forgotten because it happened a long time ago?

Notice that you cannot help a child’s Need to Know by using telling them how to be or what to think. Allowing space for self-reflection and a space to be with them and with their questioning.

IF you are not able to be curious and explore the Need to Know -- can you see their feelings of disconnect are a wonderful opportunity to GROW with your child? A disconnected and overwhelmed child helps parents to recognise that we all Need to Know and to be KNOWN for the greatness that we are. – Can you feel that?

02/11/2020

02/11/2020

02/11/2020

We all carry wounds passed down from our parents & their parents before them. It may not be our fault but it's our responsibility to make sure the wounds stop at us.

29/10/2020

When your child is distracted and cannot focus or when they are critical or fault finding look to the NEED that is driving the behaviours. Distraction and lack of focus as well as fault-finding have at root the unmet Need to See

You can support your child in the following ways to have their Need to See met:

Have clarity around tasks that need to be done.
Set intentions and be clear with instructions.
Reassure your child that they can focus on things that they are interested in – so then, how might we make learning tasks for example, interesting for the child?

Make space to see and be interested to see what your child sees even if you do think this is possible. Encourage your child’s imagination. This reassurance allows the energy of the need to soften rather than set up unconscious resistance dynamics when it comes to learning.

Pause and feel into what you would need yourself when you are feeling unfocused or critical and fault finding? Ask yourself the following question - What would I need if I felt distracted and unfocused or had an over focus on other people’s visions or learning things that had no interest to me?

Look at the situation and the environment to find the source of the child’s lack of focus the Need to See– perhaps it began with an experience that has been forgotten because it happened a long time ago?

Notice that you cannot help a child to be clear of distractions and ready to imagine the next steps for growth and learning.

If you do not make the space to allow them to visualise and imagine what they SEE. You can GROW with your child and know that any distractions and critical energies are an opportunity to recognise that we all Need to See our best selves and activate this, and you can begin to allow each other’s vision to be honoured.

29/10/2020

27/10/2020

YOUR SELF-CARE IS IMPORTANT

As parents much of our daily lives are spent doing things for or worrying about our children. This is both physically and emotionally demanding and can have negative impacts on our physical and mental health.

In today's very busy world it can be hard to find time to give to ourselves, but it is so very important.

We often talk about self-soothing in the context of our babies (which is a myth but that's a whole different post) but what about if we thought of the term in a different way, applying it to ourselves ...

How about we consider ways in which we can self-sooth to help get rid of any negative emotions we might be holding onto, which will enable us to find balance and be a happier person and therefore a happier parent.

Maybe pick some of these self-soothing ideas and give them a go, even just a few minutes a day will bring some positive vibes back to your tired body and brain.

Give it a go, you are important too!

18/10/2020

Social Skills Children Need

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