Lotus Holistic Counselling

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The value of a free initial discussion….

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By Rachel Clarke, Counsellor

In counselling, we often talk about “holding space” but what does that really mean?

It’s not something you can measure or neatly describe.
It’s something you feel.

Holding space is being fully present with someone, without trying to fix them, change them, or hurry them along. It’s sitting with another person’s truth, their grief, confusion, anger, or hope and letting it exist without judgement.

It’s saying,
You are safe here.
You don’t have to be anyone else.
You don’t have to make sense yet.
You can just be you.

When a client sits opposite me, I’m not just listening to their words. I’m listening for what lives underneath in the pauses, the sighs, the moments of courage hidden between sentences.
And I hold that space with care.
Like a gentle pause in the middle of a busy world.

Sometimes, people come to counselling because they feel they’ve lost themselves. Life has asked too much, too fast, and they don’t know how to put the pieces down. Holding space offers a place to rest. It’s a reminder that healing doesn’t always come through doing sometimes it comes through being.

There’s a quiet power in simply staying.
In witnessing someone’s pain without looking away.
In offering warmth and steadiness until they can find it in themselves again.

Holding space isn’t a one-way act.
Every time a client breathes a little deeper, every time they trust themselves enough to show their true feelings there is a shift in me too.
It’s a reminder that presence heals both ways.

Because at its heart, counselling is about connection, human to human, moment to moment.
It’s about learning that we don’t always need to be rescued or repaired.
Sometimes, we just need someone to stay.

To listen and to be there in that moment.

It’s at that moment where I think the healing begins 🥰.

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