07/03/2026
On Sunday night, myself and 3 amazing souls enjoyed an online celebration of the Worm Full moon.
It ended up being a small, intimate and beautiful gathering, due to last minute changes and life challenges for the other women who had wanted to join us.
But what unfolded was so special. The space became a safe container for sharing deeply and emotionally. Exchanging words, thoughts and experiences that most likely wouldn’t have been in a larger group.
What stood out most for me was one sister saying;
“My intention is to take it easy!..” then she paused for thought and added;
“….but it’s often not ‘easy at all’ to take it easy.”
…and WOW! That line struck my soul. It is absolutely true. Finding quiet, space and calm can be one of the most challenging things we as women (and men) can actually do. Yes the challenges to find ACTUAL quiet and space in a busy home, busy schedule, hectic life.. is a challenge in itself… but to then be able to find ‘easiness’ in oneself, in one’s soul.. THAT is the most difficult of all. We can light all the incense we want, have the most exquisite smelling candles laid about for atmosphere... but are you ready.. really? Even after all that… your mind might just not stay bloody ‘QUIET!..nothing about that is ‘EASY!’ No EASE to be found.
So what then…?
Maybe quiet isn’t something we find at all, perhaps it is something we gently return to. Certainly not by forcing the mind to be still, creating the perfect setting, or by doing it ‘right’ but by softening within ourselves.
Ease arrives when the nervous system feels safe enough to unclench and unwind, when it realises it is not under attack or at (self perceived) threat. Quiet begins in permission.
Permission to fail. Permission to get it wrong. Permission to press pause… and begin again… and again…and again…as many times as your body a mind require.
Permission to cry and have a wobble. Permission to fall off the horse… and to
allow yourself to take your time climbing back on.
Permission is safety. Safety is softness. Softness is where ease begins.
So roll out the mat if you choose to, or stay in bed a bit longer… even treat yourself and go back to bed.. !! Lay down, sit up. Find a quiet place to sit with a book. Maybe even grab a brew by yourself for a short time. ..
BUT, remove the one thing that steals peace before it even arrives….expectation.!!
No expectation of stillness. No expectation of EASY or CALM. No expectation of how long it ‘should’, ‘want’ or ‘need’ it to last. No judgement of your wandering mind, your restless body, or expectation of complete quiet.
Maybe it lasts two minutes… maybe you’ll surprise yourself and stay for twenty. Maybe you will cry, maybe you’ll feel nothing at all, or maybe you will simply just breathe and realise how tired you are.
All of it counts.
Acceptance is what opens the door, permission is what keeps it open and in that gentle, unforced space, ease does not need to be chased… it begins to unfold on its own.
Do you find Ease, Easily?
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