Effective Thoughts

Effective Thoughts Highly experienced Life, Leadership and Trauma Coach - facilitating triumph over challenge since 2006. Offers 1-1s and group coaching services.

Writer of 'Invisible Damage' - recovery guide from narcissistic or emotionally unavailable parents. This page publishes regular Life Coachy/change/values/positivity related updates.Effective Thoughts is a provider of:~ 1-1 coaching~ Group coaching workshops~ Group facilitation Insta: Associations: BetterUp; Association for Coaching; TWP; Fitfarms

Worthing's 1st Netwalking By The Sea happened today in beautiful sunshine. I am so grateful to these pioneering Netwalke...
13/11/2025

Worthing's 1st Netwalking By The Sea happened today in beautiful sunshine. I am so grateful to these pioneering Netwalkers.

Next one is 11th December, 9.30 outside the Pavilion. It's a free community event.

Today was a joy. We had a Bar & Catering Manager, a Psychotherapist, 2 Goldsmiths, a Yoga Teacher Trainer, a Celebrant, a Coach, and a Linus the dog.

There was a mindful senses check, lots of chat, lots of steps, and a few minutes connecting to our beloved beach.

As well as Netwalking, I am honing my outdoors work. I will soon be introducing Ourdoors Coaching. I am planning routes, practising the craft, and awaiting my Outdoors First Aid course. Why? Because everything feels better outside.







11/11/2025

Top tip for working parents:
Have an end of (paid) work day ritual before embarking on your next job - parenting.

1. Acknowledge feelings and stress (e.g. talk to the wall, journal/brain dump feelings onto paper)
2. Regulate self - return to the body - stretch/shake/breathe/ground)






THIS THURSDAY 😁Who's joining me? Please share. Worthing's Netwalking By The SeaWhen? 2nd Thursday of the month, every mo...
10/11/2025

THIS THURSDAY 😁
Who's joining me? Please share.

Worthing's Netwalking By The Sea

When? 2nd Thursday of the month, every month from 13th November. Start at 9.30 am. Meet at the front of the Pavilion.

Where? A 5km/3m ramp accessible route from Worthing Pavilion to George V Ave and back - do as much as you like.

Why? Combines connection with humans, the outdoors, and movement.

This is a free, informal event with no booking required. Participation is voluntary. Each participant is responsible for their own safety, behaviour, belongings, and weather appropriate garb.





It can feel counter intuitive to accept something that is causing us pain. But the truth is, without acceptance we are c...
06/11/2025

It can feel counter intuitive to accept something that is causing us pain.

But the truth is, without acceptance we are creating resistance.

Something painful + resistance = more pain.

So, how can we accept what is hard?

🪜 Name that acceptance is hard, but the cost of not doing it is harder.
🪜 Acknowledge the feelings. The pain, the turmoil, the fear.
🪜 Thank the fear - our protective parts are trying their best.
🪜 Reassure yourself as you would a best friend.
🪜 Repeat the above!






Who's joining me? Please share. Worthing's Netwalking By The SeaWhen? 2nd Thursday of the month, every month from 13th N...
06/11/2025

Who's joining me? Please share.

Worthing's Netwalking By The Sea

When? 2nd Thursday of the month, every month from 13th November. Start at 9.30 am. Meet at the front of the Pavilion.

Where? A 5km/3m ramp accessible route from Worthing Pavilion to George V Ave and back - do as much as you like.

Why? Combines connection with humans, the outdoors, and movement.

This is a free, informal event with no booking required. Participation is voluntary. Each participant is responsible for their own safety, behaviour, belongings, and weather appropriate garb.





One for those recovering from difficult or toxic relationships..."It took me a long time to understand that you can feel...
05/11/2025

One for those recovering from difficult or toxic relationships...

"It took me a long time to understand that you can feel many conflicting things. You can cut someone out of your life and miss them every day but still be glad you don't have to see them again. Missing people doesn't mean that you made the wrong decision." 

- Tara Westover






05/11/2025

Scored 96/100 from 45 people I have coached recently. Happy with that 😀 (although I am 'down' from a rating of 97 last month!).

As a sole trader, feedback is rare, so I appreciate this coaching contracting association sharing their anonymous feedback from the leaders I have worked with.

The questions cover 5 areas - Equipped for change; Goal progress; Impact development; Overcome obstacles, Self awareness.






04/11/2025

Acknowledgement is the key to enable processing. (Processing is how we move emotions.)

Pausing and checking in with emotions and sensations allows full acknowledgement.






Today's Somatic EMDR for trauma resolution feedback. This person was suffering - vomiting everyday, overwhelmed and anxi...
01/11/2025

Today's Somatic EMDR for trauma resolution feedback.

This person was suffering - vomiting everyday, overwhelmed and anxious.

10 days after their 1st Somatic EMDR Trauma session, they reported:

"I haven’t been sick since seeing you, and I have been sleeping better with regulating and dumping my mind on paper"

Holding space for the body and its systems is key to resolving stuck emotions. This work goes deeper than talking through your adversity and triggers.

Book a free consultation if you are curious and would like to discuss.








Might you be holding back your progress out of fear of not seeming polite or agreeable?Part of acting consciously, with ...
28/10/2025

Might you be holding back your progress out of fear of not seeming polite or agreeable?

Part of acting consciously, with authenticity, means learning to be ok with meeting our own needs. This may irritate or disappoint people who are used to you prioritising them.

It gets easier with practise...








23/10/2025

Yes, trauma resolution work is 'weird' 😀

We are so used to being cognitive, being in our heads, that it feels strange to really connect to the body.

The people I work with often feel renewed, more peaceful, somehow released, but do not cognitively know what has happened!

In Somatic work, the body and the nervous system knows best and speaks a different language to the intellect. It's soooo cool!






Hooray, tomorrow is clinic day 🙂Face to face appointments are available for those in the Worthing area.
21/10/2025

Hooray, tomorrow is clinic day 🙂

Face to face appointments are available for those in the Worthing area.





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