25/03/2026
Processing your feelings - how do we acknowledge and allow our feelings?
Notice, Name, Respond:
1. NOTICE. This means moving your attention from your brain based thought-chatter back to your body/internal experience. You might focus on any tension, any activation, or on your senses (What can you see, hear? Can you feel your clothing? How can you notice a sense of gravity?). Nervous system regulation is essentially about reconnecting to our bodies.
2. NAME what you notice without judgement. [Side note: You might need to *consciously* drop that judgement. This might mean you effectively thank that judgement part and reassure it that you can handle things. You could try reassuring that part that sounds critical as you would a best friend who is berating themselves.]
3. RESPOND to the need. Do you need to release by talking, writing, crying, moving? Do you need to calm by a soothing self face hold, slower breathing, softening tension?
Repeat as often as possible. This allows you to build self trust and compassion.
Drop the rush to achieve something, PATIENCE is part of compassion. If you are chronically shut down/dissociated, this process can feel very difficult so repeat with 'baby steps' in mind.
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