15/02/2026
Our brains are relentless processors. We can have tens of thousands of thoughts a day, most of them passing through unnoticed with the mind filtering what it thinks matters.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t always get it right.
When we’re stressed, exhausted and hormonally overwhelmed, the brain can loop automatic negative thoughts that feel like facts:
I’m a bad person because my moods are all over the place.
I’ll always feel like this.
This is never going to end.
I can’t cope like I used to.
I'm a mess.
My partner is going to leave me.
There's something wrong with me.
In menopause, when fatigue feels bone-deep and our resilience is low, those thoughts can get even louder where we don't seem to be able to think of anything else.
Left unchecked, these thoughts shape how we behave. We withdraw, snap, and apologise for existing.
But a thought isn’t a truth. It’s a mental event.
We can’t stop every negative thought appearing, but we can learn not to believe every single one.
That’s where giving yourself space matters - along with awareness, support, rest, proper nervous system regulation and real conversations.
And sometimes, time on the treatment bed.
When the body is given space to settle and calm, the mind often follows. In that quiet space, you can notice the thought… and choose not to run with it.
You need room to breathe - and a reminder that your brain, clever as it is, isn’t always right.
Save, tag a friend who needs to hear this - or send it to them.
Skin Soul Sanity
