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08/01/2026

Happy New Year! Back to it this week and my first training session of the year took me back to deliver a nervous systems/trauma informed and well-being session with the i2i Football Academy. This time the training was for their coaches in the Northumbria University Campus 🙌.

I2i are a great company who are really forward thinking by looking to understand how they can help their young people develop not just their physical skills but also how they can make further improvements by understanding the emotional and psychological mindset, not just to improve their performance on the pitch but for life in general 🙌
We spoke about unhelpful patterns of behaviour, beliefs, neuro-plasticity and how to build good solid relationships between coaches and coachees. Thank you for having me and I’m looking forward to seeing all the progress 💪

07/01/2026

1. People who stay calm when provoked.

04/01/2026

Totally agree, the nervous system needs to feel safe. Knots are not just created by physical over-use, they’re created by emotional over-use too!

04/01/2026

This is really important to realise. I have a lot of children/teens/adults coming to me with a ‘possible’ ADHD diagnosis. This is due to parents/teachers seeing that there may be concerns around focus, ability to listen, too many thoughts going on at once etc.

Before we look at diagnosis of any kind it’s important to look at the environment in which we put ourselves in. If it’s one of constant stimulation - screens, gaming, too many things packed into the day the brain is going to struggle. It doesn’t necessarily mean there’s a difference in brain connectivity, it means the brain needs to do less.

Sleep is another huge factor, if you’re still on screens (as an adult or a child) an hour or two before bed the brain will struggle to get into a deep/restorative sleep because it’s still having to process what it’s just seen, which sets it up for tiredness and inability to focus as well as it could the next day.

Diet and water intake are also hugely important for the brain to focus well, sugar and processed food massively disrupt the ability to concentrate as blood sugars spike and drop. When the brain is dehydrated it will subconsciously focus on not having enough water over and above focusing on something else as its main job is to keep the body safe, therefore focus may reduce.

So my advice to those looking at a possible diagnosis of ADHD or any other cognitive issues would be to look at sleep, diet, water, screen time and make any changes first.

Getting off the screens and out for 20mins of fresh air everyday will also trigger the parasympathetic nervous system and this will therefore help the nervous system to rest and reset.

If you’ve tried all of these things and you’re still concerned about ADHD tendencies just get in touch, I work regularly with the nervous system to be able to manage a wide range of symptoms.

Before today’s children even begin school, they have already been exposed to more technology-driven information, media, and sensory input than their grandparents encountered by the time they graduated school.
Think about it. No other generation in history has been exposed to this much information this early in life.
Early brain development depends on learning how to separate signal from noise. Young children are not born with that skill. The systems that regulate attention, filter relevance, and support memory are still forming in the early years.

This generation forms those systems inside constant white noise.

Screens. Background media. Rapid scene changes. Alerts. Endless content. Always on.

Neuroscience and cognitive research show that chronic early stimulation increases cognitive load and overwhelms working memory. When everything feels important, nothing stands out. Research on attention switching shows that frequent novelty trains the brain to scan rather than sustain focus. Developmental studies also show that young children struggle to distinguish meaningful information from irrelevant input when exposed to high levels of media. Sleep research further links early media saturation to reduced sleep quality, which directly affects learning and memory.

No previous generation entered school after years of adapting to this level of informational saturation.

So when children struggle with focus, retention, or persistence, it isn’t effort. It isn’t ability.

It’s a brain that adapted early to constant noise before it ever learned how to filter, prioritize, and hold onto what matters.

We keep labeling attention, motivation, and behavior.
But the real issue is saturation.

Until we account for that reality, we will keep misreading children—and mistaking adaptation for deficiency.

01/01/2026

This is the reason why I look at the ‘rewind’ technique because what’s stuck in your subconscious will keep showing up until it’s cleared. Unhelpful patterns of behaviour can absolutely be shifted through clinical hypnosis. Find out how by booking your free consultation via the website www.mytimetherapies.co.uk

Your body has been keeping a record of everything your mind tried to forget. Every moment you weren't safe, every time you had to suppress your fear to survive, every instance you swallowed your needs to keep the peace, your nervous system logged it all. You thought you moved on. You thought because you don't think about your childhood every day that it's behind you. Meanwhile, your body is still living in that hypervigilant state, still braced for danger, still paying the price for years of stress it was never designed to carry. The autoimmune disease, the chronic pain, the heart issues, the unexplained fatigue; they're not random. They're your body's way of screaming what you were never allowed to say out loud.

Think of trauma like a debt your body took on when you were too young to understand the terms. As a child, you survived by pushing feelings down, staying alert, making yourself small. Your nervous system went into overdrive to protect you, flooding your body with stress hormones day after day, year after year. That's not sustainable. Your body wasn't built for long-term survival mode. Decades later, that debt comes due. The inflammation, the autoimmune response where your body literally attacks itself, the chronic pain with no clear cause, the exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix, those are the interest payments on trauma you never got to process.

Medical professionals often treat symptoms without asking about the context. They prescribe medication for your thyroid condition without asking if you grew up walking on eggshells. They diagnose fibromyalgia without exploring whether your body learnt to stay perpetually tense. They manage your depression and anxiety without connecting them to the narcissistic mother who made you feel unsafe in your own home. The link between childhood trauma and adult physical illness is well-documented, yet most people still don't make the connection. They see their failing health as bad luck or genetics, never realising their body has been holding their trauma for them since they were too small to carry it consciously.

The messy reality is that this knowledge doesn't come with a quick fix. Knowing that your chronic illness is trauma-related doesn't make it disappear. You still have to manage the pain, take the medication, deal with the flare-ups. Some days you'll feel angry that your body is still paying for what she did decades ago. Other days you'll grieve the healthy life you might have had if you'd been raised safely. Healing trauma at the nervous system level; through somatic therapy, EMDR, body-based practices, can help, yet it's slow work. Your body spent years learning to be unsafe. It needs time to learn it can finally rest.

What happened to you as a child didn't stay in your childhood. It lives in your body now and it deserves to be acknowledged. Your physical health struggles aren't weakness or bad genetics, they're the evidence of what you survived.

31/12/2025

Happy New Year to you all, I wish everything you wish for yourselves in 2026 🙌 💪

28/12/2025

The ‘mother wound’ can take some time to heal from. It’s been placed there often from childhood when your subconscious was at its most open to accept guilt, shame, people pleasing etc. Clinical hypnotherapy can first of all find the root cause that your subconscious is still hanging on to and then create new neuro-pathways ‘wiring’ to allow you to subconsciously think differently and let go of the unhelpful feelings to allow you to move on with freedom 🙌

The guilt you carry isn't yours. It was placed there, piece by piece, year after year, by a mother who needed you to feel responsible for her emotions, her choices, her failures. You weren't born feeling guilty for existing, for having needs, for setting boundaries; you were trained to feel that way. Every time she made you responsible for her happiness, every time she punished you for prioritising yourself, every time she twisted your reasonable reactions into evidence of your cruelty, she was conditioning you. That weight you're carrying isn't guilt. It's programming.

Narcissistic mothers are masters at making you feel like the problem. She didn't teach you that your feelings mattered, she taught you that her feelings mattered more. She didn't model healthy accountability, she modelled blame-shifting, so every conflict became your fault. When you tried to speak up, you were "too sensitive." When you set a boundary, you were "selfish." When you finally walked away, you were "abandoning" her. None of that is true. Those are her narratives, carefully constructed to keep you small, compliant and forever questioning whether you're the bad guy in a story where you were always the victim.

This conditioning runs deep. It shows up when you apologise for things that aren't your fault. When you replay conversations obsessively, scanning for proof that you were wrong. When you second-guess your right to be angry, hurt or done. When you feel crushing guilt for choosing yourself, even when choosing her nearly destroyed you. These aren't character flaws, they're survival responses. You learnt that keeping her happy was safer than having your own feelings. You learnt that her version of reality mattered more than yours. You learnt that love came with conditions, and the main condition was your silence.

Unlearning this doesn't happen overnight. The messy middle means feeling guilt even when you know, logically, that you shouldn't. It means your nervous system still reacts as if you've done something wrong when you've simply done something for yourself. Some days you'll feel certain of your decision to distance yourself from her; other days the old conditioning will whisper that you're cruel, ungrateful, broken. That's normal. You're rewiring decades of emotional manipulation. Give yourself permission to feel guilty without acting on it. The guilt will quieten as you prove to yourself, over and over, that you're safe even when you're not pleasing her.

You're not guilty. You're conditioned. There's a difference and recognising it is the first step to freedom.

28/12/2025

23/12/2025

Well that’s a wrap for the year for me. Just to say a very sincere thank you to all my clients in 2025. It’s been a true pleasure to see the growth in all of my hypnotherapy clients, and the true rest and relaxation my massage/facial clients experience. I am very blessed that you entrust me with your physical, emotional and mental well-being.

I haven’t sent cards this year again as Noah and I used the money for cards, costa vouchers, thermal socks and sweets which we dropped off at St Saviours for York’s homeless this morning.

I wish you all the peace and relaxation over the festive period. Please be kind and gentle with yourselves 🙏 I’m taking a break to spend with family and friends until 6th Jan 2026.

22/12/2025