The ACTful Parent

The ACTful Parent Acceptance Commitment Therapy for Parents of neurodivergent children. Join our journey. Do what matters. Find a space. Make room. Registered Clinical Psychologist.

We are here now. The rest is not written yet. What do you want to stand for on your journey? It might look and feel diff...
03/10/2025

We are here now. The rest is not written yet.

What do you want to stand for on your journey?
It might look and feel different to how you once imagined.

There can be room for everything that that brings.

We are not the weather. We are the sky.
We are not each beat, nor each note.
There's a full compilation.


Every emotion, every experience is unique to your journey. Your story. Your life.
03/10/2025

Every emotion, every experience is unique to your journey. Your story. Your life.

Any big emotions this week?
03/10/2025

Any big emotions this week?

As parents—especially of neurodivergent children—we often face unexpected challenges, emotions, and pressures. Psycholog...
09/09/2025

As parents—especially of neurodivergent children—we often face unexpected challenges, emotions, and pressures. Psychological flexibility is the skill that helps us bend without breaking or being stuck.

✨ In Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), psychological flexibility means:

Noticing our thoughts and feelings (without being ruled by them).... an invitation to hold them differently.

Choosing actions guided by our values (even when things feel tough)... we do what matters but firet we have to know what matters and in parenting it can be a juggle between different values.

Making space for both the struggles and the joys of parenting.

It’s sort of like learning to dance in the rain 🌧️💃 instead of waiting for the storm to pass. You didn't get to choose the weather, you can choose how to respond to it.

When we grow flexibility, we parent with more presence, patience, and compassion—for our children and for ourselves. 💚

For me this is a work in progress. ACT provides an invitation, a compass, a base to return to whikst navigating parenting, psychology and neurodivergence.

Wanna join me?

# neurodivergent

1. Acceptance – making space for difficult thoughts and feelings instead of avoiding them.2. Cognitive Defusion – steppi...
29/08/2025

1. Acceptance – making space for difficult thoughts and feelings instead of avoiding them.

2. Cognitive Defusion – stepping back from thoughts and seeing them as just words or mental events, not absolute truths.

3. Being Present – practicing mindfulness to stay connected to the here and now.

4. Self-as-Context – noticing that you are more than your thoughts and feelings; you are the observer of your experiences.

5. Values – clarifying what truly matters to you in life.

6. Committed Action – taking steps guided by your values, even when challenges show up.

Parenting isn’t a straight path—it’s a mountain journey and for some of us more than others it is also a winding road. S...
18/08/2025

Parenting isn’t a straight path—it’s a mountain journey and for some of us more than others it is also a winding road. Some days the climb feels steep, your legs heavy, and the air thin. Other days, the view is breathtaking, reminding you why you’re on this path and how far you've come.

ACT teaches us that the journey is likely to have ups and downs, deserts, marshes, rivers to cross if we want to go anywhere it is inevitable we will reach these tricky obstacles. We might wish we could turn back, stop or have someone else's path however.... here we are.

Your mind might tell you block it out, get through, compare and judge your path, tell you you can't do it and of course our minds do these things all the time. In some moments this might feel like the only story about you. Then.....

There's a discovery that by walking mindfully, step by step, alongside the challenges and joys that come we might be more open to noticing what we learn about ourselves, appreciate who is with us on the way, find richness in the variation of our emotions and really figure out what is important.

Even when the trail feels tough, you’re still moving forward. And every step, however small, matters, doing it your way. 💚

Anyone else find themselves getting caught up in what their mind is telling them?💭A bit like scrolling and finding yours...
07/08/2025

Anyone else find themselves getting caught up in what their mind is telling them?

💭A bit like scrolling and finding yourself watching a video or advert and suddenly thinking... yes I believe this or wow that captured my focus without me meaning it to.

👍Sometimes our thoughts are workable and help us figure things out, discover things, plan and remember. They're essential.

But they aren't neccessarily the whole truth! 👀

It can be useful sometimes to make a bit of distance to check if the thoughts you have are ones to stop at, or to scroll on by.

Are they getting you stuck, telling you a half story or are they helping you with what's important to you?

💬One way to invite yourself to do this is by adding "I’m having the thought that" or even... "I'm noticing that I'm having the thought that"...

Instead of hiding or ignoring emotions, model honesty.Say: "My brain feels buzzy right now, I need a pause.""I'm going t...
02/08/2025

Instead of hiding or ignoring emotions, model honesty.
Say: "My brain feels buzzy right now, I need a pause."
"I'm going to take a pause and breath so I can help you sit with these big feelings."

💡 Why it works: It builds trust & teaches emotional literacy.

You don’t have to pretend to be ok all the time. As parents we can make room to name our experiences in ways that are tolerable and understandable to children and others.

This might even include using visuals.

An invite to notice your own internal weather☀️🌦🌈⛈️

Moments of connection, can be fleeting. They still count.

🤍Towards this value: an invitation to give yourself permission to acknowledge the micromoments. 🤍

Connection isn’t just about time—it’s about presence and being there in that moment...
Try:
🧸 A shared giggle over a toy
Stopping to listen as theyre mentioning their activity
🖐️ A sensory high-five
An arm squeeze

All small nudges towards the things you value as a parent are validating your path of who you want to be, and how you show up for yourself and what is important.












We can hold space for hard emotions—guilt, anger, doubt—and still take meaningful action.✨ You can accept and learn from...
26/07/2025

We can hold space for hard emotions—guilt, anger, doubt—and still take meaningful action.

✨ You can accept and learn from your past without being trapped by it.
✨ You can show up, even when it’s hard, with values guiding your next step.

💬 What story are you telling yourself as a parent? What doubts and thoughts show up?
➡ “We aren't doing what other people do.”
➡ “Am I enough?”
➡ "What will they remember?"

ACT says: Notice the story. Thank your mind for it. Then ask: What matters to me right now? What is workable in this moment? What can I do right here, right now?

That might be to pause. To repair. To laugh. To teach. To comfort.

Your values—not your past—can write the next chapter. 💛

So if you're a human being then you probably get stuck in your thoughts.🤍 Like... you're overwhelmed, exhausted, maybe e...
22/07/2025

So if you're a human being then you probably get stuck in your thoughts.

🤍 Like... you're overwhelmed, exhausted, maybe even angry, and you can't get out of it?

Try this: Put your hands together and hold them up close to your face. They're your thoughts. Your worries. Your 'Am I doing enough?' 'will it be ok?' 'I just need a moment to myself!' 'How could that person say that?!' thoughts. They also might sound like what's next what's next? Or an image playing over....

See how they block your view? It's hard to see what youre doing, the workd right i front of you, your kids as they are right now, the whole full version of yourself... when your thoughts are this close.

Now, gently lower your hands. Don’t try to throw the thoughts away. Just set them down. Like a book of a story on a shelf full of many other stories. It is still there.

Now you can see. This moment. Your breath. The reality is still there—but you’re not stuck in one specific repeating view of it. You can be flexible now to make a choice to act in a way that you value.

You can see all the books.

You don’t have to fight your thoughts. You just don’t have to hold them so close. You’ve got this. One moment at a time. 💛

When your thoughts spiral — "I’m failing," "I should be doing more," "Why can't I stay calm?" "What’s next?", "what just...
17/07/2025

When your thoughts spiral — "I’m failing," "I should be doing more," "Why can't I stay calm?"
"What’s next?", "what just happened?" "This isn’t fair".

Themore we are hooked in our thougts, the past, the present.... the less we are here right now.

Our minds bombard us constantly like the TV being on in the background pulling you away from what you are otherwise trying to focus on.

💭But do you have to watch and believe every advert? Hopefully not.

🌱 ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) teaches us:
You are not your thoughts.
You can unhook from them.

👉 Being present means being here, now.

By doing so we can...
💫Notice and sit with our emotions.
💫We can experience the richness of our senses.
💫We can regulate ourselves for our children.
💫We can make a choice in what we pursue and how.

Is this easy? No. Valued things rarely are.🌈

Especially that we do for our children
🤍That's ok. I'm here to help and keep learning too.
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