Έλενα Καμπισοπούλου, Ψυχολόγος- Γραφείο Δέκα

01/12/2025

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01/12/2025

01/12/2025

Και κάπως έτσι, έφτασε ο Δεκέμβριος.
Άργησε να φτάσει… και ταυτόχρονα ήρθε πολύ γρήγορα!

Ο Δεκέμβριος είναι μια περίοδος γιορτινής διάθεσης, γεμάτη με χαρές αλλά και σιωπηλή θλίψη. Υπάρχουν απώλειες να επεξεργαστούμε και ευλογίες να μετρήσουμε, και κάπως όλα συνυπάρχουν μαζί.

Αν κάτι αξίζει, είναι να είμαστε λίγο πιο τρυφεροί και συμπονετικοί με τον εαυτό μας… γνωρίζοντας πως κάναμε το καλύτερο που μπορούσαμε, παρά τις συνθήκες.

Ό,τι κι αν νιώθεις— είτε αισθάνεσαι στα ψηλά, στα χαμηλά ή κάπου ενδιάμεσα—εύχομαι αυτός ο Δεκέμβριος να σου προσφέρει έναν χρόνο για παύση και αναγνώριση όλων των τρόπων με τους οποίους έχεις αναπτυχθεί αυτή τη χρονιά.

Ποια είναι μερικά από τα δικά σου ;

And just like that, it’s December.
It’s taken a while to get here…and also been way too fast!?

December is a time of holiday festivities mixed with celebration and quiet grief. There are losses to process and blessings to count and somehow they all exist together.

If anything, I hope we can just be a little more tender and compassionate with ourselves…knowing we have done our best, despite the circumstances.

Whether you are feeling high or low or somewhere in between, I hope this December offers you a time to pause and take all the ways you have grown.

What are some of your ?

26/11/2025

Ο Peter Levine αναφέρει ότι η έντονη ενέργεια του τραύματος βρίσκεται στη σύνδεση ανάμεσα στο φόβο και την ακινησία αλλά τι σημαίνει αυτό;

Όταν βιώνουμε τραύμα, μπορεί ως απόκριση επιβίωσης το σώμα μας να «παγώσει» ή να «κλείσει» , κι αυτό να συνεχίζει να συμβαίνει ακόμη κι όταν ο κίνδυνος έχει περάσει. Η θεραπεία ξεκινά όταν αποσυνδέουμε αυτή την ακινησία από τον φόβο, επιτρέποντας στο σώμα να απελευθερώσει με ασφάλεια την ένταση που έχει συσσωρευτεί ενώ το νευρικό σύστημα αναγνωρίζει ότι η απειλή δεν είναι πια παρούσα.

Για παράδειγμα, μετά από ένα αυτοκινητιστικό ατύχημα, ένα άτομο μπορεί να σφίγγεται ή να νιώθει «παγωμένο» κάθε φορά που ακούει ένα δυνατό μπιπ ή κόρνα. Μέσα από τραυματοκεντρική θεραπεία, συνειδητή επίγνωση ή απαλές κινήσεις, μπορεί να παρατηρήσει την ένταση, να επιτρέψει στο σώμα να απελευθερώσει ενέργεια και να αναγνωρίσει ότι είναι ασφαλές. Με τον καιρό, αυτή η αποσύζευξη βοηθά το σώμα να επεξεργαστεί την «παγιδευμένη» τραυματική ενέργεια, επιτρέποντας σε σώμα και νου να ανακτήσουν παρουσία, επιλογή και αίσθηση ασφάλειας.

Peter Levine states that the intense energy of trauma is held in the connection between fear and immobility, but what does that mean?

When we experience trauma, our bodies may freeze or shut down as a survival response, even long after the danger has passed. Healing begins when we uncouple that immobility from the fear, allowing the body to release tension safely while the nervous system recognises the threat is no longer present.

For example, after a car accident, a person might tense up or feel frozen each time they hear a loud beep or honk. Through trauma-informed therapy, mindful awareness, or gentle movement, they can notice the tension, allow their body to release energy, and acknowledge that they are safe. Over time, this uncoupling helps the body process “trapped” trauma energy, allowing both body and mind to reclaim presence, choice, and a sense of safety.

16/11/2025

Friendly reminder

16/11/2025

As a therapist and relationship coach, I see this pattern every day — and it affects all types of relationships: romantic, family, and even friendships.

Many of us were raised in environments where self-abandonment looked like love.

If you watched a parent over-function, silence their needs, or constantly sacrifice themselves just to “keep the home peaceful,” your nervous system learned something very early:

👉 Connection requires shrinking yourself.
👉 Love means rescuing, fixing, or carrying emotional weight that isn’t yours.
👉 Belonging comes at the cost of your own wellbeing.

This becomes the blueprint for codependency as a survival strategy.

Your nervous system becomes hyper-attuned to other people’s moods.
Your sense of safety becomes tied to keeping everyone calm.
Your identity becomes wrapped in meeting needs that were never yours to carry.

And slowly, you begin to mistake emotional labor for intimacy.

But true healing asks for something you were never taught:

✨ Differentiation.
The ability to know where you end and where another person begins.

It sounds like this:

* What is my responsibility?
* What belongs to you?
* Which emotions are mine, and which ones am I absorbing because I’m afraid of what will happen if I don’t?

Healing also means accepting a hard truth:

Someone’s refusal to grow does not mean you are inadequate.
It simply reveals the limit of their capacity.

And no amount of love, wisdom, or effort can change a person who is committed to staying the same.

Healthy internal boundaries allow you to be:

💛 Compassionate — without becoming consumed
💛 Supportive — without becoming drained
💛 Loving — without losing yourself

The moment you stop chasing potential…
Stop over-functioning…
Stop abandoning yourself just to “keep the peace”…

You create space for the relationships you truly deserve — the ones built on mutual emotional safety, steadiness, and respect.

14/11/2025

09/11/2025

Healing unfolds when we welcome our pain with kindness, not by demanding more from ourselves.

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06/11/2025

No is a complete sentence though 😎

Via 🌙

28/10/2025

There was a point in my own relationship when I realized my partner couldn’t meet certain needs.

There were (many) needs he could and DID meet .. beautifully and willingly.

And yet I came to realize that there were some needs that required my own personal attention.

They were needs he was never supposed to meet.

My partner couldn’t rescue me from feeling trapped in my own body, or from finding my own voice, or from building trust towards people in the unique way that was right for me.

That’s not fair to him.

That’s too much pressure for any human and an unrealistic and unhealthy expectation to have.

Our partner can’t save us from our grief or the existential loneliness that we all feel from time to time.

Those are all a natural part of being human.

They are universal experiences that we must all come face to face with in our own way.

We may pull and grasp on our partner to try and get them to save us from diving into those places, but that never works in the end.

We all eventually find that no relationship, no partner can fill the spaces that only we can fill.

What we (can) find however, is someone who is willing to sit with us as we struggle.

Someone who has hopefully walked difficult moments in their own path.

We can all hope to have someone who makes effort to understand our painful experiences without trying to rush us through them.

Someone whose presence ironically shines a light directly on those terrifying places.

And yet that same someone is willing to tenderly hold us .. and brave enough to love us .. and patient enough to wait for us .. until the light decides to turn back on. // Silvy Khoucasian

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