Έλενα Καμπισοπούλου, Ψυχολόγος- Γραφείο Δέκα

29/10/2025

28/10/2025

There was a point in my own relationship when I realized my partner couldn’t meet certain needs.

There were (many) needs he could and DID meet .. beautifully and willingly.

And yet I came to realize that there were some needs that required my own personal attention.

They were needs he was never supposed to meet.

My partner couldn’t rescue me from feeling trapped in my own body, or from finding my own voice, or from building trust towards people in the unique way that was right for me.

That’s not fair to him.

That’s too much pressure for any human and an unrealistic and unhealthy expectation to have.

Our partner can’t save us from our grief or the existential loneliness that we all feel from time to time.

Those are all a natural part of being human.

They are universal experiences that we must all come face to face with in our own way.

We may pull and grasp on our partner to try and get them to save us from diving into those places, but that never works in the end.

We all eventually find that no relationship, no partner can fill the spaces that only we can fill.

What we (can) find however, is someone who is willing to sit with us as we struggle.

Someone who has hopefully walked difficult moments in their own path.

We can all hope to have someone who makes effort to understand our painful experiences without trying to rush us through them.

Someone whose presence ironically shines a light directly on those terrifying places.

And yet that same someone is willing to tenderly hold us .. and brave enough to love us .. and patient enough to wait for us .. until the light decides to turn back on. // Silvy Khoucasian

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24/10/2025

23/10/2025

So often, we spend our energy trying to make others see the pain they’ve caused or admit their wrongs—thinking that if they finally understand, we’ll find peace.

But the truth is, not everyone is ready or willing to face their own actions. And when we chase that accountability, we end up wounding ourselves even more.

Real healing starts when we release the need for their apology and choose instead to protect our peace, nurture our growth, and rebuild our boundaries.

Letting go isn’t weakness—it’s strength. It’s self-love. It’s saying, “My heart has carried enough; now it’s time to heal.” 💛

21/10/2025

What boundary system did you download?

Most of us didn’t create our boundaries — we inherited them.

We learned what was safe or unsafe by watching how love, accountability, and emotional expression were modeled around us.

If love was conditional, you learned to please people.
If conflict was never repaired, you learned to walk on eggshells.

If expressing your needs brought shame or silence, you learned that quiet was safer than honesty.

These early lessons didn’t just shape how you protect yourself — they shaped how you connect.

They taught your nervous system that love might require compliance, distance, perfection, or performance.

And because that feels familiar, we unconsciously repeat the same patterns in adulthood.

Avoidance, for example, didn’t start with you.
It was once a survival strategy — a way to stay safe, to avoid the shame of being “wrong.”

If you’re the empathic one, that avoidance might trigger your old pattern to over-function, fix, or explain just to keep the peace.

It feels like love, but often, it’s self-abandonment.

Rebuilding your boundary system isn’t about becoming guarded — it’s about becoming grounded.

It’s about teaching your nervous system that true safety doesn’t come from pleasing others, but from standing rooted in who you are. 🌿

10/10/2025

This is a perspective shift for many people, and it’s also a sign of improving emotional maturity when we can begin to hold space for these complex and often conflicting feelings and truths.

People aren’t simply “good” or “bad.”
We’re all complex, multi-layered, with complicated histories, deeply ingrained patterns, and, for the most part, I believe we’re all trying to do the best we can.

Which means good people can do bad things sometimes.
But seeing the good in someone doesn’t mean you have to stay in harmful patterns or unsafe dynamics.
It means that we can still see and love them and understand how they came to a behavior, AND not be willing to tolerate that behavior.

Learning to separate out the person from the behavior is a sign of your own growth and maturity.
It means growing to trust yourself to maintain boundaries without needing hate, anger, or judgment.
You’re allowed to have boundaries simply because what you need is what you need.

Remember, boundaries ARE kind.
Boundaries are letting people see you; boundaries are part of how we co-create relationships together, through sharing our limits and needs with one another.
They’re how we build real trust because we can see how people respond when we show them parts of ourselves in naming what we need.

If you’re new to creating the types of boundaries that welcome people in, there is a lot of emotion in this process. The Relationship Management Workshop begins October 23rd. Come learn new ways to navigate conflict, communication, intimacy, repair, and more as you work on deepening your ability to relate more securely in your relationships.
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