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Helping families move from daily power struggles to mutual understanding and progress — without relying on punishments, bribes, or yelling.

Certified Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) Provider | Based in Hong Kong

"Kids do well if they can."

03/11/2025

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30/10/2025

✏️ Quick Tip for better communication with your kids 🫶🏽
⚠️STOP asking "WHY"!⚠️

If you want to know more about how to ask questions in order to understand your kids better, contact us for a free appointment to get started!

21/05/2025

CPS (Collaborative & Proactive Solutions) in a Nutshell!

25/04/2025

"I hate it. It’s boring." 😒📚

That’s how a lot of kids respond when asked about something they’re struggling with.

But that’s not the whole story.
And if we want to solve the problem, we need to understand it better. 🧩

In CPS, we use a simple but powerful tool called Reflective Listening 🔁🧠
It’s about listening without judgement and gently asking the child to say more. 👂❤️

We mirror what they’ve said, and follow up with clarifying phrases like:

💬 “How so?”
💬 “What do you mean?”
💬 “Can you say more about that?”
💬 “I don't quite understand.”

👨‍👩‍👧 Example conversation:

Parent: I’ve noticed you’ve been having trouble getting started on your English book report. What’s up?

Child: I hate it. It’s so boring. 😩

Parent: You hate it and think it’s boring. How so?

Child: Writing sucks. ✍️💢

Parent: Writing sucks? What do you mean?

Child: I don’t get it.

Parent: You don’t get it. Can you say more about that?

Child: I don’t get how to write the sentences.

Parent: You don’t get how to write the sentences. Can you say more?

Child: I don’t know how to start the first paragraph. 📄

💡 See how each question brings us a step closer to the real concern?
Instead of arguing, correcting, or lecturing — we’re listening. 👂🧘‍♀️

That’s how collaboration begins. 🤝✨

10/04/2025

Why am I always arguing with my child?!

At the heart of most conflicts is this:�👉 One person's concerns are being ignored, while the other's expectations are being imposed.
Think about the last argument you had with your child.�Did you know what your child’s concerns were?�Did you understand what made it hard for them to meet your expectation?
Now imagine if you had a way to find out what those concerns are — and solve the problem in a way that’s both realistic and respectful of everyone’s needs.�That’s exactly what the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) model helps us do.

🧠 Let’s look at a real-life example:
Mum was adamant that John eat a nutritious breakfast before school — a glass of milk and a slice of toast with jam. After all, how could he possibly focus on an empty stomach?
But John would avoid breakfast at all costs:�🔹 Distracted by toys�🔹 Running away�🔹 Even tried flushing his food down the toilet
Mum tried everything — rewards, punishments, encouraging words, loud voices, even a point system. Nothing worked. In fact, it made things worse.

💡 Here’s what Mum didn’t know:�John was getting stomach cramps from the milk, making his school days miserable. But John had difficulty communicating — he didn’t have the skills to say, “Milk hurts my stomach.”�All he knew was: Breakfast = Pain.

🛠 How the CPS Model Helps
The CPS approach teaches parents to:�✅ Identify and understand their child’s concerns�✅ Express their own concerns clearly�✅ Work together on solutions that are realistic and mutually satisfactory
When both parties feel heard and respected, conflict fades away.
Because here’s the truth:�Kids (and people) do well if they can.

📩 Want to learn how CPS can help reduce conflict in your home?
Let’s talk.

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