18/03/2026
The good —
I stopped TRT.
The bad —
I stopped TRT.
Six years, mostly on, some time off.
And the only reason honest enough to make me stop?
I’m trying to become a father.
That’s it.
That’s the whole thing.
I won’t pretend it wasn’t working.
It felt good.
Like a firm handshake from a brother who actually sees you.
Some men genuinely need it.
But for me —
it became a bandaid.
Over the harder work I was avoiding.
Seven days off now.
The mornings are rough.
A low I don’t quite have language for yet.
Somewhere between chemical and emotional.
Can’t always tell which is which.
What I can tell you is this —
stopping has made me more honest.
About what I was building.
And who I was building it for.
Getting older doesn’t mean we stop being curious.
It might mean we start.
Full letter at the link in bio.
APE Letters —
for the grey f***s still figuring it out
https://open.substack.com/pub/apeletters