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29/07/2021

Difference Between Erotic Massage and Ta***ic Massage

by Jivanna Kennedy

What's the difference between an erotic massage and a ta***ic massage??
Many thousands of years ago, spiritual teachers in the East created a map of human potential ascending, called the chakra system. In that system a person's energy and consciousness would develop (ascend) through seven basic levels, until that person reached enlightenment.

In the past couple of hundred years western teachers of psychology, philosophy and consciousness have also pointed to these levels as a way to view human development in an ascending order on our way towards our increasing human potential. One such teacher Ken Keyes, Jr. was my first consciousness teacher. And there are many other contemporary teachers, such as Abraham Maslow with his hierarchy, and most recently, Dr. Joe Dispenza, who prefers to call them ‘centers’ to avoid any incompatibility with people who may not be inclined to embrace more eastern philosophical methods. But, it’s all basically the same thing.

When I do a ta***ic session, my intention is to support my client’s energy to ascend towards their potential, up through the layers of density that we humans accumulate as a result of our ancestry and experiences. What they do with it, or what their body, mind & spirit does with the energy and intention that I offer is based on their capacity to receive and open to new information from within, and without. I do my best to ‘meddle’ in that process as little as possible.

Engaging the use of somatic energy (physical/s*xual/bodily) energy, a ta***ic practitioner can (in theory) help a person’s energy ascend up through various levels of density with more power than without the use of s*xual energy. But again, it is always up to the individual as to how the energy is received and integrated.

Many clients come to see me thinking that I can somehow ‘fix’ them or fix their relationship issues, or their PE, or their ED. I have to disappoint them, and tell them that “I do not have a magic ta**ra wand that I can wave over you and everything will change in the blink of an eye, and you will be in bliss forevermore”.

The bad news is that growth and ascension takes time, attention and effort. The good news is that it’s do-able.

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I suppose the difference between this and a regular erotic massage, is that an erotic massage is generally sensation based. It’s primarily stimulating the second chakra, and the erogenous zones of a person. And, Imo, it has the downside potential of keeping a person stuck at that level. This IS what po*******hy does. People can remain stuck at one level or another for an entire lifetime.

And of course, all of that is quite variable based on the particular practitioner and client, of course.

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Here’s the way that I came to understand the various ascending levels of consciousness based on the work of my first teacher Ken Keyes. Jr.

SEVEN CENTERS OF CONSCIOUSNESS

1. THE SECURITY CENTER.

This Center makes you preoccupied with food, shelter, or whatever you equate with your personal security. This
programming forces you to be motivated by your continuous battle to get "enough" from the world in order to
feel secure.

2. THE SENSATION CENTER.

This Center is concerned with finding happiness in life by providing yourself with more and better pleasurable sensations
and activities. For many people, s*x is the most appealing of all sensations. Other addictive sensations may include the
sound of music, food etc.

3. THE POWER CENTER.

When your consciousness is focused on this Center, you are concerned with dominating people and situations and increasing
your prestige, wealth, and pride -- in addition to thousands of more subtle forms of hierarchy, manipulation and control.

4. THE LOVE CENTER.

At this Center you are transcending subject-object relationships and are learning to see the world with the feelings and
harmonies of flowing acceptance. You see yourself in everyone and everyone in yourself. You feel compassion for the suffering
of those caught in the dramas of security, sensation,and power. You are beginning to love and accept everyone unconditionally, even yourself.

5. THE CORNUCOPIA CENTER.

When your consciousness is illuminated by this Center, you experience the friendliness of the world you are creating. You
begin to realize that you've always lived in a perfect world.

6. THE CONSCIOUS-AWARENESS CENTER

Here, your Conscious-awareness watches your body and mind perform on the lower five centers. This is a meta-center from which you non-judgmentally witness the drama of your life. Here you learn to impartially observe your life from a place free from fear and vulnerability.

7. THE COSMIC CONSCIOUSNESS CENTER

After the Sixth Center of Consciousness, you may transcend self-awareness and become pure awareness. Here, you are one with everything.

You are love, incarnate, living in a sublime state of Moksha, Nirvana, and/or Heaven.

10/09/2020

The Silent Suffering

For so many people s*x is the place of silent suffering.
For so many men there is still such a stigma, such embarrassment, such shame about having a s*xual problem.
For most men this is around er****on problems, early ej*******on, loss of desire and libido, a lack of intimacy and even a lack of interest in s*x.
Sexual performance, s*xual prowess.
That's what it's become to be about for men.
And in truth what it's come to be about is s*xual pressure, emotional pressure.
And with this comes such deep silent suffering.
The healing that so many men look for, if and it's a big if, they seek it out, is a quick conversation where the issues are glossed over, joked about, referred to, alluded to, and then a tablet that's going to fix it, quickly.
And so I get that's not enough, nowhere near enough. And so often nothing changes. And so often that's where we leave it.
We, men, and male s*xuality, is complex. It's physical, it's mental, it's emotional, it's energy. It's the body, the mind, the heart. It's all of who we are.
It's our patterning and conditioning and beliefs.
It's expectations, often unrealistic, unexpressed, uncommunicated.
It's the judgement and comparison of a porn-model of s*x that has absolutely, absolutely, absolutely no connection to reality, to intimacy.
It's the area of life we generally know the least about, our own s*xuality and bodies, never mind our partner's. And this applies regardless of our orientations. We know just as little about c***s as we do about c***s.
And because of this bizarre expectation we've created that we are all supposed to be s*xual superheroes, we suffer in silence, and often, in shame, in isolation and loneliness.
I recently had a conversation with a woman, it's not the first like this I've had, who has had no s*x with her husband for over 12 years. And there is no discussion. He just won't talk about it. There are so many marriages like that.
There are so many relationships where s*x is avoided because of things like the fact that he can't keep an er****on, or***ms so quickly, has no interest in s*x, doesn't want to be intimate or sensual, has no sensitivity and more…
And in the silence we don't talk about it.
We don't know how.
And the pressure of performance has put us in this place that we have no idea how to be with this, heal it, change it, and make it different.
It doesn't have to be like this, it doesn't have to be this way.
The bigger picture of this is the big boys don't cry scenario. The incredibly limiting idea we've been given, and have furthered, that we know how to do everything. And when we don't we don't talk about it. We sit in silence.
I sat with a man a while ago who's marriage of 20 years was ending. He was in tears as he realised that he had no idea of how to be a husband. Hi did what he knew, what he thought he knew.
The bigger picture is that our s*xuality is so connected to every other aspect of our beings and our lives.
I love the point of realization that almost every person who does a healing journey with me gets to, and they see that it's all about s*x, and it has nothing to do with s*x.
It takes courage for a man to begin this journey, to acknowledge a s*xual problem.
I celebrate every man who comes to do this work, who comes to heal, to learn, to grow.
And for every one of us who does, it makes it possible for every other man.

07/09/2020

Clitintimacy

I love women, I worship Yoni

The other day I was doing a cl****al massage. This was in the space of healing, of pleasure, of energy, of sensation. It was about her receiving in a space of deep relaxation, breathing deeply, slowly. The touch was very, very gentle, very, very slow. It wasn't about or**sm, if that happened it happened. A digression, I'll share more about this later in this piece, soft or***ms let's call them, are different to the usual contractive or***ms most women experience.
It was about the experience of sensation and energy in her body. Breathing in that way moves the energy in deep waves through the body. It creates pleasure chemicals, oxytocin in particular, that bring a feeling of love. It expands consciousness.

In the moment something came to awareness in an emotional rush, deeper than ever before.
How incredibly mysterious, how incredibly magical, how incredibly fascinating, how incredibly beautiful a cl****is is!

I've been working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years and most of my work is with women. I've been doing and teaching Yoni Massage in many different ways. I've been teaching oral s*x, Yoni Worship and more.
The beauty of Yoni is just…
And last week was a deeper connection, appreciation of wonder for the cl****is. Another level of intimacy, of appreciation.

The origin of the word cl****is is from ancient Greece, and has a few meanings. One interpretation of this is a key or gatekeeper.
So appropriate.
The key to so much pleasure.
The key to such deep energy.
And that is the key, when we begin to see pleasure as an energy experience so much changes. Clitintimacy is the place where pleasure and energy meet.
If you know how to use the key, if you can get the gatekeeper to open worlds of sensation, of energy.
It requires an intimacy with the cl****is, yours, or hers.
The intimacy begins with some understandings.
Every cl****is is different. Some are a little bigger, some a little smaller. Some are longer, some shorter. Some have bigger hoods, some smaller. Some cl****al heads are more exposed, some more hidden. Some c***s can be touched directly, some are too sensitive and need to be touched through the hood. Some need time before they can be touched directly. Some have really sensitive points on the sides, some on the head.

There's a question I ask in many lessons and workshops. How big do you think a c**t is?
Men and women give a range of answers, from about 1 centimeter to a pea to tiny to 3 centimeters…
So many people are unaware of how big the cl****al nerve complex is.
I use the analogy of an iceberg, that what you see above the surface is just the tip.
From what you can see, what you can feel, there are 2 big nerves that extend downwards inside her body. Stroking between the inner and outer lips of her yoni allow these to be stimulated. Stroke up and down, make circles with your fingertips, put gentle pressure there. Be patient. If these areas haven't been touched before they may take time to respond to your touch.

When you touch really gently, really slowly, that's very different for so many women.
There's a patterning in the body, a conditioning. Most women are touched, and touched themselves, pretty hard and fast, when the goal is or**sm. That becomes the way the body gets used to being touched, and the way we get conditioned to come.
The slow, gentle caress is a different sensation, a different kind of pleasure.
It moves deep in the body, waves of energy.
In its gentleness it allows release of tension in that area, emotional as well as physical.
And when or***ms happen through this caress, soft or***ms, rather than contractive or***ms, melting rather than exploding, they're deep inside, often emotional, they fill the body with energy, touch the heart.

Clitintimacy is a connection with the beauty, the power, the honoring of this part of the body that is magical, mysterious and so filled with vitality, energy and, oh, such pleasure.

This week's webinar, Thursday 10 Sept is free. The word massage has so many expressions. This is where my journey began, and continues to grow and expand. We'll talk about sensual, Erotic, Neo-Ta***ic, Yoni, Lingam, Taoist, A**l, Kashmiri, Sexual Energy, Breast Massage. The difference between healing and pleasure experiences, the space they come together, the benefits of these massage experiences, intention etc. I'll share with you the first touch practice I teach, The Heart Touch.
The link is in the event on my FB page.

05/09/2020

Healing Through Pleasure

Tonight I'm sharing a webinar on Healing Through Pleasure.
It's an idea that I come back to again and again in my work.
Most people who come and see me, at least that's where the journeys begin, come looking for healing. There is an issue, a problem, a pain that they'd like to change.
A digression for a moment, not all journeys start that way. There are many people who are looking to learn, explore and grow, where the journeys are not motivated by pain. This by itself is really interesting, as there are people who will choose growth and expansion as a force for change rather than hurt.

The model I work with is expansion.
When we focus on the pain, whatever that is, we tend to get stuck in the pain, that becomes the focus, it becomes a contractive space.
From an energy perspective that's one stream, one frequency in the field of unlimited possibility.
When we work with expansion we become open to different ways of doing this, different perspectives. We come to see the patterns that we've lived with, that keep us doing what we do, and we see how we can change these.
There are so many ways to do this, and the energy and practice of pleasure is a beautiful and powerful path for healing.

I have started seeing people again in my studio, face to face, not just online, and doing bodywork again.
A big part of this is pleasure experiences.
There is an intention to these experiences, we're using the energy of pleasure, making it available in the body. Within our bodies is amazing wisdom. So many of our patterns, which manifest in the form of blockages in our lives, are in the body. Through touch, through building sensation, we make this available for the body for healing, release, relaxation and change.
The energy of pleasure has a frequency that allows so much to happen.
When it comes from the heart, through the heart as an expression of love, something deep inside of us is touched.
Our energy changes, we open, we let go.
There's a frequency in the energy of pleasure that makes so much possible.

When we talk about pleasure it's important to ask what that means.
In my work there are many different expressions of this.
Here's an example.
One of the practices I developed is called a Sensual Bo***ge Massage.
It's an experience of sensation,of allowing sensation to move energy. This is not about pain, it's about sensation. It's about allowing yourself, for many, to go somewhere in an experience they've never been.
I shared this experience with someone who never even thought about things like this, as part of a healing journey.
On one level, the physical, it was delicious, sensual, arousing.
On another it was the willingness to have a different experience and expand her limitations, her inhibitions, her beliefs about something.
The week after the experience when I saw her again she spoke about her freeing it was, and how much freedom she was starting to give herself in every area of life. It showed her how many limitations and judgments she'd put on herself, others, life, relationships and s*x. She saw the depth of so many patterns in that.

Another experience was a Kashmiri Massage. Kashmiri Massage is a dance, a meditation of the body, of energy, the heart, sensation. So much happens in this. It's an intimate experience, you're held against my body. The presence of this creates safety, relaxation, deep release, connection. I shared this with a man and a woman. For him it was the first time he had been that close to another man. There was so much in that, such fear, such disconnect from himself. There was a lifelong story of loneliness and defence, armoring and keeping people away.
In the experience he felt, he cried, the first time in 20 years. One naked human being with another.
For the woman I shared this with, a very s*xual woman, but unfulfilled. She had or***ms, lots of or***ms, easily, that were empty. The massage touched her entire body, every part of her, her ears, her toes, bringing her into a space where she felt whole. It want about her yoni, it wasn't about or**sm, it was about her, all of her.

There's a shift in perspective, in perception, a mind shift when we heal through pleasure.
We've been so conditioned that it's painful, hard, a struggle. Of course that's a part of the journey. We're not ignoring the pain, we're not suppressing the pain.
There is simply more, and other ways to release and to be.
It's showing us that our s*xual energy, our sensual energy, all the amazing nerves we have connected to pleasure, our beautiful, magical, mysterious body and ge****ls are portals, gateways, keys to possibility.
Its also the space where we begin to see that our s*xual energy has such power, if we're willing to expand the way we see, and the way we do s*x.
Healing becomes growth, becomes expansion, becomes exploration, becomes possibility.
Becomes pleasure.

02/09/2020

Last year I wrote a series of pieces called The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist. In one of them I even talk about why I use the term 'Erotic' instead of 'Ta***ic', which should really be Neo-Ta***ic anyway.
I know that the spectrum of Sensual, Erotic, Neo-Ta***ic, Sexual Energy massages is wide. I was thinking how sad it is that we judge and marginalize, criminalize these experiences, where so much good happens. There is so much healing, so much intimacy, so much communication, so much connection, so much vital touch, when these are expressions of the heart, of energy. Beyond that, it would be so beautiful if this could be seen to be a safe, powerful and open career for people.

Here's the first of these pieces, it came up as memory...

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 1

I'd like to share some of my journey with you, what brought me to this point as an erotic masaage therapist and teacher.

I've been doing this for over 20 years and it's a journey of continuous learning, expansion, growth, exploration, understanding and connection.
It's about the body, it's about the mind, it's about the heart, it's about energy, it's about s*xuality, it's about sensuality, it's about eroticism, it's about intimacy and more.

Most of what I do and teach now I developed over time and exploration.
Some of it comes from learning about the body, energy, consciousness, and seeing how we can use these ideas in a sensual and erotic way.

It's also very much about the space where eroticism, the heart and healing intersect.
When our intention is to touch from the heart, to honour the body and the being in their fullness, meaning all of the body including the power of erotic energy, that happens.
Very often we use the energy of s*xuality as a force of vitality, of creativity, of release and healing.
Pleasure is a pathway to these rather than always being the goal. Our bodies, and our ge****ls, and our s*xuality are seen as portals to something deeper.
That's not taking away from the pleasure, it's simply saying that there's more, much more.
And when we connect with that the massage experience becomes more, transformational, even spiritual.

In this it's been my intention for these experiences to be seen as beautiful, empowering, opening and not hidden or dirty.

I was fortunate to be involved in an adult fantasy club.
This was a fascinating place to be in, and to have access to so many people to explore, practice and learn was fantastic.
I was living in two worlds, learning about energy, healing, spirituality, and s*x.
In the world of, let's call it spirituality, which is wide but fits a range of practices, ideas, schools etc, many people separate s*x from everything else. Spirituality happens everywhere but the pelvis.
Even a lot of touch, and full-body massage leaves this gap in the middle of our bodies.
For those involved in Conscious Sexuality, Neo-Ta**ra, Taoist Practices etc, it's a natural connection.
For most of our world, not.

So for me, being in these seemingly separate worlds, and to understand that a lot of people involved in s*xuality were not that interested in energy and spirituality, was fascinating.

The wonderful part was being able to do literally thousands of massages, mostly with women, and learn from that.
When I look back at it, and think about Malcolm Gladwell's 10 000 hours, I passed that long ago.
To share with all kinds of bodies, all kinds of reactions and responses.
To be able to explore and learn about so many yoni's, so many aspects of s*xual energy and how it works and moves in the body, gave me a field of possibility very few people get.

Over time I'll share some of the experiences with you. Some are very erotic and arousing, some almost surreal, some funny, some strange, the spectrum of being human.

I recall one Sunday morning sitting at a very traditional Jewish wedding, at a table with people I didn't know. They all knew each other and were talking about what they had done the night before.
I sat thinking about what I would say if anyone asked me.
Because…
At about 2 am I looked around the room I was in, at the club.
I had done about 5 massages, all of them to high states of arousal. There were people watching, some touching each other, even a couple having quiet s*x, and then not so quiet, in a corner.
I wasn't asked about my night, which was a whole lot easier.
But it was a space I was able to learn and experience so much in.

And from this, such possibility…

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