Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy and Counselling Cavan

13/11/2020

If you struggling with addiction or recovery, this is a new initiative and might be beneficial for you or your loved ones

01/07/2020

IN PRAISE OF MELANCHOLY - Alain De Botton

Melancholy is not rage or bitterness, it is a noble species of sadness that arises when we are properly open to the idea that suffering and disappointment are at the heart of human experience. It is not a disorder that needs to be cured; it is a tender-hearted, calm, dispassionate acknowledgement of how much agony we will inevitably have to travel through.

Modern society’s mania is to emphasise buoyancy and cheerfulness. It wishes either to medicalise melancholy states – and therefore ‘solve them’ – or deny their legitimacy altogether. Yet melancholy springs from a rightful awareness of the tragic structure of every life. We can, in melancholy states, understand without fury or sentimentality, that no one truly understands anyone else, that loneliness is universal and that every life has its full measure of shame and sorrow. The melancholy know that many of the things we most want are in tragic conflict: to feel secure, and yet to be free; to have money and yet not to have to be beholden to others, to be in close knit communities and yet not to be stifled by the expectations and demands of society, to explore the world and yet to put down deep roots, to fulfil the demands of our appetites for food, s*x and sloth – and yet stay thin, sober, faithful and fit.

The wisdom of the melancholy attitude (as opposed to the bitter or angry one) lies in the understanding that our suffering belongs to humanity in general. Melancholy is redolent with an impersonal perspective on suffering. It is filled with a soaring pity for our condition. There are melancholy landscapes and melancholy pieces of music, melancholy poems and melancholy times of day. In them, we find echoes of our own griefs, returned back to us without some of the personal associations that, when they first struck us, made them particularly agonising. The task of culture is to turn rage and fake joy into melancholy. The more melancholy a culture can be, the less its individual members need to be persecuted by their own failures, lost illusions and regrets.

21/01/2020

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/psychoanalysis-unplugged/201801/why-does-your-therapist-ask-about-your-childhood

Painful past events should be left behind and forgotten, right?

19/09/2019

https://www.facebook.com/889415291150219/posts/2453473844744348/

Counseling clients in the UK who found CBT unhelpful were interviewed about their experiences.

10/04/2019

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/apr/06/the-invisible-line-that-divides-a-therapist-and-client?CMP=share_btn_tw

Some interesting points in this, experience usually identifies this difficulty pretty much immediately, but just like everyone else, you have to go through it to appreciate it

A psychologist recalls having a client who was going through a painful relationship breakup – just as she had experienced a similar loss

11/11/2018

http://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fdigest.bps.org.uk%2F2018%2F11%2F06%2Fthis-is-how-psychotherapy-for-depression-changes-the-brain%2F&h=AT3IUgohSxC1Osn9HpB6jxGP9BQoBcuZsr8uqX1t2M_oeHJ1vN1nUEzQFld_2DTMTPiNhpn_1ySqqCn6g4wyfpLLb_YPzWVwiGEnZDcr9IICsVOglGjG9CoLrzH9kk3c&s=1

By Alex Fradera. Understanding the neural correlates of psychotherapy could help enhance its effectiveness.

08/10/2018

We fill the silences with empty chatter making sure we don't say what we need to. Allowing a space to sit in that silence, marks the beginning of a new way of emerging.

25/08/2018

https://www.facebook.com/77502749981/posts/10150981288329982/

How Contemporary Psychoanalysts Help You Lessen Pain and Increase Satisfaction

17/01/2018

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=160962247963317&id=156868481706027. Happiness is always elusive, but it is perfectly acceptable to be OK.

12/01/2018

https://www.facebook.com/American.psychoanalysis/posts/10150890325684982

Psychoanalysis is about giving you a safe space to talk about the hurts under the surface, pain you might not even be aware of. But equally important, psychoanalysis provides the opportunity to be truly heard. Please share.

08/01/2018

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