Somers Psychotherapy

20/04/2026

Empathy isn’t about fixing someone or having the perfect words.
It’s about being present. Listening without judgement. Sitting with someone in what they’re feeling — even when it’s uncomfortable.
In a world that rushes to respond, empathy chooses to understand.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is:
“I’m here with you.”
To book an appointment this week https://calendly.com/somerspsychotherapy/50min or https://calendly.com/somerspsychotherapy/accredited-therapist

BePresent

18/04/2026

Sometimes our dreams highlight something we’re not fully saying out loud.
Dreaming of being in someone else’s space, getting something “wrong,” and then rushing to fix it… can reflect how quickly we take on responsibility in waking life.
Over-apologising.
Over-correcting.
Trying to keep the peace—even when part of us feels, “that’s a bit much.”
Healthy relationships allow for small mistakes without requiring us to overcompensate.

It’s okay to pause and ask:
Is this actually mine to carry?
Or am I taking on more than I need to?
Boundaries aren’t about conflict.
They’re about fairness—to ourselves as well as others. www.somerspsychotherapy.ie

innerwork

15/04/2026

Finding the right therapist isn’t about choosing the “best” one on paper — it’s about finding the one who feels right for you.
Therapy is a relationship. You should feel safe, heard, and understood — not judged, rushed, or like you have to perform.
It’s okay if the first person you meet isn’t the right fit. It’s okay to ask questions. It’s okay to trust your gut.
The right therapist will meet you where you are, not where they think you should be.

Because when the fit is right, the work goes deeper — and real change becomes possible.

11/04/2026

Ever have that feeling of being suddenly “put on the spot”… like you’re on a stage and everyone is watching, and you’re thinking, how did I get here?

I had a dream like that recently. I was told I had to perform, with no preparation. At first, I felt panic—unsure, exposed, not ready. But then something shifted. I started thinking… maybe I could do something creative, something funny, something me.

It got me thinking about how often we feel this way in real life.

Whether it’s work, relationships, or even just showing up as ourselves—there can be a pressure to perform, to get it right, to be impressive.

But what if it’s not about performing perfectly?

What if it’s about finding your own way onto the stage—bringing your personality, your humour, your authenticity… even if your voice shakes a little.

You don’t have to have it all figured out to show up.

Sometimes, the most meaningful connection comes not from perfection, but from being real.

psychotherapy irishtherapy

09/04/2026

Our next evening of Deep Relaxation with Sound-Bath is Friday 17th April 7pm. Link to book your place www.theflowteam.ie/schedule

09/04/2026

This is your reminder:
Healing isn’t linear. Some days you feel strong, other days you just get through—and both are valid.
If you’ve made it this far, through the highs and the quiet struggles, that matters more than you think.
Keep showing up for yourself, even in small ways.
And if today feels heavy, take it one moment at a time.
You’re allowed to pause. You’re allowed to feel. You’re allowed to keep going.

08/04/2026

'When I put my head to a pillow, it’s like when you put your iPhone on a wireless charger,' says Irish comedian Jarlath Regan.

'My mind races the second I lie down. I’ve always been a very bad sleeper and suffered with insomnia for years, where I didn’t seem to sleep at all. I just seemed to lie awake all the time worrying, stressing, planning, thinking, wondering, questioning. The wheels just spun when I lay down, and I’m still working on that.

'I’m not a good sleeper and [am] really, really trying to figure that out at all times. That’s a bit of a curse. It’s mainly just work, the future and my job. Comedians are entrepreneurs, their product is that they’re funny, and communicating that to people down whatever lens they send it. I’ve spent probably 25 years trying to get the wheels off the runway. So that’s probably what the stress and the worry has been about is just trying to get that to happen.'

Asked who he'd most want to go for a pint with, the An Irishman Abroad podcast host says, 'I don’t drink at all, and whenever I think of pints, I always think of the misery the next day because it hits me so hard and it gets so dark afterwards. I’d say Michael Jordan. I was obsessed with him as a kid, I’d have so many things for him to sign, it’d be the most profitable pint I’ve ever had.

'I gave up drinking when I gave the kidney, pretty much. I don’t miss it at all. Once you stop and realise how much fun you’re having on a night out, and you get to drive home afterwards, it’s great. And you’re not looking down on anybody, but it was making life so difficult. Not in that I ever had a problem, but it was the thing of having to work through it the next day.

Read the full interview on the Irish Independent website.

08/04/2026

Cyberbullying can have a real impact on teens’ mental health. If you or someone you know is being targeted, speak up and reach out for support. Talk to a trusted adult, friend, or counsellor—help is there, and you don’t have to deal with it alone.

The results of research on internet use and the mental health of over 4,500 teenagers in the Republic found significant links between high use of social media and worsening mental health.

07/04/2026

Postnatal depression is more common than we think—and no one should face it alone. If you're struggling after having a baby, please know it's okay to ask for help. Talk to someone you trust, reach out to a professional, and remember: support is out there, and recovery is possible. You’re not alone.

Sligo woman Aolish Gormley says 'postnatal care in Ireland ends far too soon, and calls for a year of postnatal access instead of the typical six weeks

07/04/2026

Ego can be a quiet but powerful voice in recovery. It might sound like “I’ve got this, I don’t need support anymore” or “I’m not as bad as others.” It can also show up as a need to be held in high esteem—to be seen as strong, in control, or admired by others.

In spaces like the manosphere, there can be messages that reinforce this—encouraging self-reliance at all costs, emotional suppression, or the idea that vulnerability is weakness. For someone in recovery, these messages can quietly feed the ego and pull them away from honesty and connection.

Recovery asks for something different. It asks for humility, openness, and the courage to be real—not perfect.

Recognising the ego isn’t about shame—it’s about awareness. It’s noticing when the need for control or validation is taking over, and gently choosing support instead of isolation.

You don’t have to do it alone.

06/04/2026

Bank holidays can feel like a gift… an extra day to rest, reset, or catch up.

But for many, that unstructured time can also bring pressure, loneliness, or a sense of “I should be doing more”.
An extra day doesn’t have to mean a full schedule. Sometimes the most supportive thing you can do for your mental health is to slow it all down.

Take the pressure off. Breathe. Do one small thing that feels good for you.