CBT Centre with Patrick Gavin, Mullingar, Co. Westmeath (2025)

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I’m now sharing more insights, tips, and reflections on mental health and personal growth over on Instagram.

If you’ve found value in my posts here, you’ll love what I’m creating there — shorter, practical reminders you can save, share, and come back to whenever you need a little boost.

If you’re ready for consistent inspiration and gentle reminders that change is possible, come join me:
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Let’s stay connected — I’d love to see you there!

27/08/2025

Hi everyone! Time to get active on social media again, so I’m excited to announce that I will be on Instagram soon!

On my updated website, you’ll also find a special model — the Lift Model — designed to visually illustrate your psycho-emotional landscape. This tool helps you better understand your internal emotional and psychological states, making it easier to identify areas for growth and healing. It acts as a roadmap for your personal transformation, guiding you step-by-step toward unlocking your full potential.

Making your journey more and more engaging!

27/08/2025

The formula for building confidence - and creating meaningful change - is surprisingly simple, yet incredibly powerful. Here’s how to start transforming your life today:

1. Develop self-awareness. Begin by truly knowing yourself. This means recognising those parts you’d like to change - not to criticise, but to grow and evolve. Awareness is the first bold step towards any real transformation.
2. Assert your intention. Make a clear, unwavering commitment to becoming confident. Saying it out loud or writing it down can make all the difference - because intention fuels action.
3. Change your thinking. Notice any limiting beliefs or negative attitudes holding you back and challenge them. Replace those old stories with empowering thoughts that support who you want to be.
4. Imagine your confident self. Visualise yourself walking tall, speaking clearly, and owning your space. This mental rehearsal isn’t just wishful thinking - it rewires your brain to align with your desired reality.
5. Act as if you already are confident. Confidence is built in doing. Speak up, carry yourself with assurance, and take risks with courage. The more you practice, the more naturally confident you’ll feel.

Remember, confidence doesn’t appear overnight, but through consistent steps that shape your mindset and behaviour. Start now - and watch the remarkable person within you emerge.

27/08/2025

Remember this fundamental truth: Fortune favours the bold. The world you desire—the success you crave, the mastery you seek—starts first in your mind. But ideas alone won’t create change; only bold, decisive action can bring your unlimited potential to life.

History is clear: hesitation leads to missed chances. Think about your own experiences—how many victories slipped away because you hesitated? It’s time to break that cycle. If you want freedom, confidence, and total control over your life, you must learn to command your thoughts rather than be controlled by your fears.

Ask yourself: what does your life look like right now? Are you surrounded by opportunity, joy, and fulfillment? Or have self-imposed limits boxed you in? Declare yourself free. Say “I’m done being stuck” and watch motivation propel you forward.

You don’t need to be extraordinary to achieve greatness. There are no “great” people—only ordinary people choosing extraordinary action daily, meeting challenges head-on and owning their growth. They don’t blame others; they change their story.

Your personal freedom and deepest desires are waiting—but only if you claim them. Don’t let fear stop you. Act boldly. The future belongs to those who turn dreams into reality.

Is there a hidden desire inside you, waiting to be unleashed? There’s no better time than now. Start your new beginning today. Unleash your full potential.

27/08/2025

"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just to take the first step." (Martin Luther King Jr.)

Depression is a remarkably common human experience. At some point in their lives, many people will encounter its shadow. Often, one of the first signs can be a loss of pleasure in activities that once brought joy, coupled with persistent feelings of exhaustion. This form of low mood doesn't always stop you from going about your daily life, but it certainly makes every task feel like an uphill battle, requiring immense effort to simply push through.

Understanding the Spectrum of Depression

When low mood intensifies and begins to significantly interfere with your ability to function in daily life, it might be what's known as Major Depression (or Clinical Depression). The key difference here is that the symptoms are more severe, last for longer periods, and genuinely impair your ability to engage with life as you normally would. What once brought satisfaction may now feel frustrating or simply tiresome.

You might find yourself withdrawing from people, isolating yourself, or actively avoiding social situations. Negative thinking can become pervasive, leading to feelings of hopelessness and being utterly overwhelmed. Sleep patterns often shift, as do eating habits. It can feel like you're a prisoner in your own mind, trapped and even frightened that this state will never end. In some severe cases, individuals may experience suicidal thoughts or a "death wish" – a longing for something to happen so they don't have to endure the struggle any longer, without planning to take their own life.

What Can Cause Depression?

The causes of depression can be as unique and individual as the person experiencing them. However, we often see a combination of factors at play:
1. Environmental Factors: This type of depression is frequently triggered by the stress of significant life changes or losses. Think about the profound impact of losing a job, the death of a cherished family member or friend, or other major transitions that disrupt your sense of stability and well-being.
2. Biological Factors: Our brains are complex, and an imbalance in brain chemicals (neurotransmitters) that communicate messages between nerve cells can lead to changes in thought, behaviour, and emotion. Other biological influences can include chronic pain, ongoing medical illnesses, and the long-term experience of stress, particularly when compounded by feelings of hopelessness.

Finding Support and Taking the First Step

If you're experiencing depression or prolonged low mood, please know that you don't have to face it alone. There are a number of effective ways to get help and improve the quality of your life experience.
● Counselling and Psychotherapy: This is a key intervention. Engaging in counselling or psychotherapy can be crucial in understanding the source of your depression and making the appropriate changes. It provides a safe, confidential space to explore your feelings and develop coping strategies.
● Antidepressant Medication: It's important to discuss the possibility of antidepressant medication with your doctor. For many, a combination of counselling/psychotherapy and medication proves to be the most effective path forward.
● Seek Support from Loved Ones: Don't deny how you feel. Talk to a trusted friend or family member and allow them to support you. Sometimes, the simple act of sharing your feelings can lessen their burden. You can even ask them to help you find a counsellor or psychotherapist, or to accompany you to an initial meeting.

Reaching out is the bravest step you can take. You deserve to find your way back to a life filled with purpose and light. I can help you.

27/08/2025

What's wrong with anger? Absolutely nothing, if it's expressed in the proper manner. Anger is a fundamental human emotion, and for healthy adjustment and well-being, it needs to be acknowledged and expressed. As a society, we've often been conditioned to believe that anger is inherently "wrong," leading us to fear our own anger and the anger of others. I believe that anger is often deeply intertwined with anxiety and stress, and that we should actively encourage and teach children how to express anger in appropriate ways from an early age.

Many people feel that they simply can't control their anger. However, pretending you don't get angry can be detrimental to your health. Blocked and unexpressed anger doesn't just vanish. When it's not expressed assertively and appropriately, anger tends to surface in destructive ways, manifesting as resentment and hostility.

Recognising the Stages of Anger

It’s not uncommon for people to deny their feelings of anger, or to simply be unaware they're angry until it escalates into a full-blown, rage-filled explosion. Once anger begins to intensify, this powerful feeling can easily spill over into your communication with others. When this happens, people often stop listening to your message; instead, they either disregard what you're trying to say or become defensive in response to your display of anger. This simply means your anger has built to a level that is overwhelming for you, and when expressed, it overwhelms the other person as well.

Here’s a helpful list to identify feelings that lead to progressively intense levels of anger. Use this to monitor your internal state and take responsibility for dealing with these feelings effectively.

Check in with yourself:

Do you feel: uneasy, uncomfortable, withdrawn, irritated, agitated, annoyed, upset, angry, furious, or rage-full?

Following this, try to recognise the physical responses to your anger:
● Headache
● Muscle tension
● Clenched fists
● Changes in breathing
● Upset stomach
● Tight stomach
● Sleep disturbance
● Yelling and screaming
● Hitting and breaking things

Steps for Letting Go of Anger

Taking control of your anger is a sign of immense strength and self-awareness. Here are some key steps to help you on this path:
1. Become Aware of Your Feelings and Behaviours: Use the lists above as a guide. Step back, observe what you're doing, and honestly assess how you're feeling.
2. Take Responsibility: Own your emotions and actions. Your attitude plays a significant role in your success. If you approach this with a negative mindset, positive changes will be harder to achieve.
3. Watch Out for Negative Self-Talk: Be mindful of the internal dialogue that fuels your anger. Challenge and reframe those unhelpful thoughts.
4. Focus on What You Can Control: Don't take responsibility for people or situations that are beyond your influence. Your energy is best spent on what you can change.
5. Prioritise Self-Care: People who consistently take care of themselves feel better, have more energy, and are generally happier. When you feel anger starting to rise, move your body or take time out to calm yourself.
6. Seek Help When Needed: Controlling your anger isn't a weakness; it's a profound strength of character. If you're struggling, please reach out for support. Learning to manage your anger and anger behaviours is an invaluable investment in your well-being and your relationships.

27/08/2025

Anxiety is a part of everyday life; it's a completely normal emotional experience. The key to managing it effectively isn't to eliminate it entirely, but rather to understand your personal reactions to anxiety-provoking situations, identify your related concerns, and ultimately, to learn how to "let go" of its grip.

Taking the First Step Towards Change

Sometimes, managing anxiety requires dedicated effort. You might find the help of a therapist invaluable in learning the skills necessary to effectively manage and reduce anxiety symptoms. As with almost everything in life, if you want things to be different, you need to be willing to do things differently. It takes a commitment to change, but the rewards are profound.

Anxiety can manifest in various ways: some people experience it only in specific situations, while others live with a certain level of anxiety constantly. To develop a treatment plan that truly helps you, it’s essential to clearly identify your symptoms, understand the circumstances surrounding their onset (if any), and acknowledge any efforts you've already made to cope with the distress. This assessment is often best done in conjunction with your therapist, providing a clear roadmap for your journey forward.

Exploring Your Beliefs and Their Impact

It’s crucial to recognise that your beliefs about yourself and others profoundly affect your emotions and behaviour. To truly understand your anxiety, you'll want to pay closer attention to your own belief systems. Consider the following questions:
● Do you feel an intense need for approval from others? This often translates into "people-pleasing" behaviour, where you consistently put the needs of others before your own. Over time, this can lead to frustration and resentment, intense feelings that significantly contribute to chronic anxiety and tension.
● Do you have an intense need for control? Do you worry excessively about how you appear? Do you feel uncomfortable letting other people be in charge of a situation? Do you believe that if you're not in control, you're weak or a failure?
● Do you tend to be a perfectionist and self-critical? Do you frequently feel that what you do is never quite good enough? Do you constantly criticise your own efforts and feel under constant pressure to achieve?

These patterns of beliefs and behaviours, while common, can be irrational. If this is your approach to life, it’s likely you're experiencing chronic stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem. While it might seem counterintuitive, you can learn to feel calm and relaxed even with these tendencies.

Connecting Mind and Body

If you engage in any of these behaviours and beliefs, chances are you also tend to discount what you're experiencing physically.

Remember, the mind and body function as one interconnected system. When you're experiencing emotional distress, your body often signals it through physical symptoms, especially with chronic stress. Often, when people ignore their body's attempts to tell them to slow down and take care of themselves, the result is an escalation in symptoms.

Are you ignoring what your body is trying to tell you? Do you need some help in managing your anxieties? Haven't you suffered enough? It's time to invest in your well-being.

27/08/2025

When an individual is exposed to a traumatic and overwhelming event — whether by being given specific traumatic information, witnessing it, or directly experiencing it — they may subsequently endure anxiety, fear, distress, or even relive the traumatic event for months, and sometimes even years afterward. Often, these experiences have been life-threatening or physically harmful.

Understanding the Impact of Trauma

Following a traumatic experience, a person might initially develop acute stress. If this acute stress is addressed and treated promptly, it can sometimes prevent the onset of the more enduring and challenging condition known as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Interestingly, some individuals may not exhibit an immediate severe stress reaction. Instead, later, the trauma can be triggered by a seemingly unrelated event or a significant level of emotional distress, leading to a delayed onset of post-traumatic stress. This highlights how deeply trauma can embed itself within our systems.

Who is Most At Risk?

While trauma can affect anyone, certain experiences put individuals at a higher risk for developing post-traumatic stress:
● Victims of Assault: This includes sexual assault, child sexual abuse, child neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and spousal abuse.
● Victims of Random Acts of Violence: Being subjected to unexpected and unprovoked aggression.
● Survivors or Witnesses of Major Incidents: Such as car accidents, fires, or natural disasters.
● Victims of War: Individuals who have experienced the profound traumas of conflict.
● Bereavement in Sudden Loss: Family or friends of someone who has died suddenly or tragically.
● Life-Changing Medical Conditions: Individuals who experience severe illness or medical events that drastically alter their lives.

Recognising the Symptoms

Post-traumatic stress can manifest in various challenging ways:
● Intrusive Symptoms: This includes unwelcome memories, distressing bad dreams, sudden intrusive thoughts, images, and vivid flashbacks of the event. These mental intrusions can trigger physical reactions such as feelings of panic, shortness of breath, sweating, tightness in the chest, or heart palpitations.
● Avoidance: After a traumatic experience, individuals often develop a strong tendency to avoid anything that could trigger thoughts or memories of the trauma. As a result, some may withdraw from their normal participation in life and no longer find joy in previously cherished activities.
● Hyperarousal: Trauma can create a persistent feeling of being "on edge." Victims are often easily startled and remain in a constant state of high alert. These symptoms can lead to significant difficulties with sleep, impaired concentration, increased irritability, heightened emotional reactivity, or outbursts of anger.

Pathways to Healing and Recovery

The good news is that healing from post-traumatic stress is possible. Treatment typically includes counselling and psychotherapy, and in some cases, may also require short-term medication prescribed by a doctor.

Counselling and psychotherapy are highly effective in helping individuals process and work through traumatic experiences. Approaches like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) have proven particularly beneficial in the treatment of post-traumatic stress. Additionally, psychoeducation — understanding what is happening to you and why — is incredibly helpful in supporting recovery.

If you are experiencing symptoms of post-traumatic stress, professional help is highly recommended. You do not have to carry the burden of trauma alone. There is support available to help you navigate these intense feelings and reclaim your life. I have many years of experience working in this area. Let me help and support you in a safe, non judgemental, confidential environment.

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