27/01/2026
Many of us hold the belief that investing in ourselves and putting yourself to the front of your priority list is selfish. This old, outdated programming that has been instilled in us from generations past.
It was pushed on us to serve productivity, power structures and the household, there was the deep seethed sense as not to outshine elders so they wouldnt feel inadaquate or disappoint.
What it does now, when we still let that belief system rule us, is it pushes us into a sense of shame & fear.
This is proven and guaranteed way to keep you drained, unmotivated, uninspired, and in the frequency of lack, never knowing what it is you are truely capable of. An endless cycle that eventually leads with you having nothing left to give, burnt out.
There comes a time as the generational line draws down that someone on that journey, sees this pattern, and listens to the whispers constantly repeating within. Knowing theres a spark inside that wants to be seen, and decides to break that cycle. They see that filling there cup, knowing and owning there worth and investing in themselves not only benefits them but also paves the way for many more down the line to have the self belief and inner compass in knowing there worth and valuing self care. It becomes organic, familar and the norm, and a way to be for future generations to come.
It all begins by changing your perception that making sure you are functioning at the best of your ability, that you know who you are, separate to who you are to others, ie. Mother, father sibling, child, carer, partner etc. That theres no doubt in your worthiness, and that parts of your routine consist of what is individual to your likes and interests. That is not selfish but is indeed self care. Making sure you are at 100%, benefits you and those that surround you. When your the best version of you for you, others meet the best you.
Can you see now how
1) That is not selfish and,
2) why in times gone by and with old outdate power structures that would of been a threat to the household and society.
We can invest in oursleves with the aim of self care in many ways, through time, in energy, in education, in peace, in health and our body and in the right company and the right settings. And adjusting routines to included hobbies etc
As you move with this outlook as your intention, you also grow and one form of self care can naturally and envitably lead to the other.
Exploring whats for you is all part of the process, but just know this process is a process and it is the human aspect of us to want try and to be curious about what is out there for you.
What is not natural is to be made feel shame or guilt for wanting to experience and wanting to grow. Just because things were a certain way does not mean they are to continue to be a certain way. Healthy energy should not be stagnant, that is true for thought forms too. There is someone there in every line that has the ability to change the patterns and break the cycles, creating a new path that paves the way for others.
Why wouldn't it, why shouldn't it and why couldn't it be you?
