17/08/2021
Think this is worth sharing, everyone’s experience is unique but it’s good to know what can be expected along the way 💓
I’ve just read something yet again about breastfeeding promoted as being easy … and I have to say I disagree and here’s why:
One of the traps public health promotion can fall into is being so keen to promote breastfeeding that any challenges get glossed over, through fear that it’ll put us off. Instead breastfeeding gets painted as some kind of idyllic, simple, miracle cure for all ills.
Of course, many hugely value breastfeeding, but any approach that takes this stance is doing both women and breastfeeding a huge injustice.
Breastfeeding is not easy. It requires time & investment and can be a steep learning curve.
However, that’s in no way to say the alternative is any easier. Many women find once they get through the early weeks of breastfeeding they actually find it much easier than bottle feeding.
But that still doesn’t make it easy. And that’s OK.
What in life worth doing is easy? We put ourselves through challenges all the time. We work hard for exams. We train for races. We do it because we think it’s worth it, not because it’s easy. And we expect others to support us. Imagine our outrage if we were training for a race and everyone suggested it wasn’t worth it as it wasn’t easy.
Calling breastfeeding easy is an injustice to the time & often effort it takes. You may want to breastfeed, enjoy it, believe it is worth it – but that doesn’t make it easy.
Easy belittles the many hours we spend breastfeeding, the challenges we overcome, the sacrifices we make because we think it’s worth it.
When we gloss over the realities of breastfeeding, we feel unprepared for what it’s really like. If we tell people to expect easy, and they hit a hurdle, they may think they’re doing something wrong.
Normal (but not easy to handle) baby behaviour (such as feeding lots, not wanting to be put down) gets perceived as something wrong, & that formula will solve it (it won’t).
Women then end up depressed, blaming themselves, thinking they didn’t try hard enough because after all, isn’t breastfeeding easy?
Rather than calling breastfeeding easy, we need to think about how we as a society can make breastfeeding easier.