19/02/2026
Sometimes wellness looks like effort planning, organising, keeping everything running smoothly. But sometimes it looks like loosening your grip. If you tend to hold yourself to high standards, you may feel responsible for making sure everything goes well at work, at home, in relationships. You might replay conversations, over-prepare, or struggle to relax unless everything feels āsorted.ā
While care and responsibility are strengths, constant control can be exhausting.
There is relief in allowing some things to be unfinished. Imperfect. Uncertain. Here are a few gentle ways to experiment with softening:
1. Let one small thing be imperfect
Send the message without rewriting it ten times. Leave a task until tomorrow. Notice that the world continues.
2. Separate responsibility from control
You can show up fully without managing every outcome.
3. Practise enoughness
Ask yourself, āIs this good enough?ā and let the answer be yes.
You donāt have to hold everything so tightly. Life often unfolds more gently when we allow a little space. You are allowed to soften.
