Olga’s Psychoanalytic Clinic. Butterfly Effect.

20/11/2025

14/11/2025

The feeling of one’s own superiority and absolute rightness, imposed on others, is essentially pride.

From a spiritual perspective, it is the first of the sins; from a psychological perspective, it is a lack of dialog and an inability to negotiate; from a human perspective, it is an aggressive demand that another person must unquestionably comply with my expectations, or else they will be “punished,” or “I will hurt them” (morally, physically, or legally). In other words, pride inevitably contains an element of blackmail and suppression.

When there has been love (or friendship, or partnership) between people, and they must continue interacting, it becomes especially difficult if such behavior starts to appear and it is impossible to immediately leave the communication.

With strangers it is easier, because you always interact from a polite but emotionally closed state. But here you love and still trust — and then this happens…

It is clear that one must separate, clearly that one must leave. But the soul will need some time to hurt — it needs more time to fully comprehend what is happening and to convince itself that the person who once loved you is now destroying you.

You may intellectually understand the destructive nature of the actions of someone you once loved, but you cannot explain this to your soul right away. For the soul to be fully convinced, it often has to remain open until the moment when the beloved but “prideful” person, through their words, actions, and behavior, finally kills the love for them in the other person’s heart…

Most of what is described above happens beyond the level of conscious awareness, on an energetic level.

It becomes fully recognized and verbalized only when there is a well-developed connection between the emotional (intuitive) and conscious (intellectual) parts of a person’s personality.

12/10/2025

09/10/2025

There’s a well-known fact in psychotherapy:
sometimes people use s*x as a substitute
for other deep emotional needs —
like love, closeness, self-worth, acceptance, care, and more.

In such cases, the original motivations and goals get blurred or replaced.

People might enter s*xual relationships to feel loved or needed.
Or use s*x as a way to prove something —
to a partner, to society, or even to themselves.

Often, s*x becomes a way to avoid difficult emotions —
a shortcut into intimacy
that helps bypass uncomfortable conversations or intense feelings.

Sometimes, when there’s no emotional warmth,
it feels like physical closeness can fill the gap.
And it can create the illusion of love or perfect compatibility.

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Let’s talk today about emotional intimacy.

Imagine this:
Person 1 is emotionally starved — craving connection.
Person 2 is somehow perceived (consciously or not) as someone who might fulfill this need.
You sit face to face.
A desire for closeness arises —
to show yourself, to express a need.
Tension builds.

But instead of clearly identifying the need and how to meet it…
➡️ the moment gets redirected into s*x.

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When emotional hunger is intense,
and the energy between two people is overwhelming,
there are usually 4 possible outcomes:
1. Escape — physically or emotionally withdraw, reject, avoid, push away, act out.
2. Freeze — stay present but disconnected: shut down, go silent, make a “stone face,” feel intense inner tension or shaking.
3. Stay in contact — remain emotionally engaged, identify the real need, and explore how it can be met.
4. S*x — merge physically as a way to release tension and feel closeness.

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This is how we can confuse:
❤️ affection with desire,
💔 the need to rebuild trust with a s*xual impulse,
🎁 s*x with love, care, or attention.

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So yes —
s*x isn’t always just about s*x.
(Though sometimes it is, of course.)

💬 Tune in to yourself.
Check in.
Ask:

“What am I really needing right now?”

Because what you’re looking for
might not be in their body —
but in their heart.

08/10/2025

It often happens that the most important things in life begin with something seemingly insignificant.

They say a butterfly is the ultimate sign of summer happiness. But what is the “butterfly effect”?

It’s a term used to describe the behavior of certain chaotic systems:
a minor action or influence on the system can lead to huge and unpredictable consequences — sometimes in a completely different place.

Those who give chance an opportunity and don’t miss possibilities are the ones who win.
A random chance, as a low-probability event, is a fork in the road — a possible new path of destiny. A high-probability event, on the other hand, is just another point along a path that’s already been chosen.
That’s why having a goal makes success more likely than not having one.

With a goal in mind, we’re not only less likely to miss an opportunity — we’ll actively seek out new ones.