Norah Finn Therapy

08/02/2026

My apologies, I’m had problems with my phone over the weekend. Please use the temporary phone number until this is sorted - 0832083154. I’m sorry for any inconvenience this has caused. Norah 💜

07/02/2026

LETS DEMYSTIFY Lead Management through Glasserian Psychology. We do not train managers. We never have. We are training people to be better at how they relate, managers, therapists, teachers, educators, parents, lovers, friendships, the list is endless.

Lead Management is moving away from bossing others, to leading others, just as Choice Theory is about moving away from external control and toward internal control psychology.

Managing is a part of life. We manage our personal lives, work lives, and the relationships within both. Lead Management focuses on how we relate with others, grounded in the understanding that we are all internally motivated, each with our unique Quality World, meeting our five basic needs through our behavioural system.

Reality Therapy gives us a non-judgemental, non-critical way of being when leading, teaching, or learning with others. It gives us a skill set and understanding of how to relate more effectively with the humans we share this world with.

Lead Management is interwoven into Choice Theory and Reality Therapy. It is not a separate training. It must be modelled, not taught. You do not teach Lead Management while practising boss management, not professionally or personally.

It is not about acquiring skills or tools. It is about being a psychologically safe space where every voice is valued and appreciated. If we’re teaching how to be a good lead manager, we’ve totally missed the point. That’s external control.

To be a good lead manager is to be a good self manager. Critical thinking and creativity is encouraged. You remove control, fear and coercion.

There is no hierarchy, just creative ideas that are valued, explored, and appreciated. We become lead managers by being a good self manager. That is the true nature of what lead management is. We are comfortable in leading but in also being led. There are no “experts”. We remain open to new ways.

is an equal opportunity organisation. We model the model and live a life of internal control psychology. We are all equal, interdependent, responsible, and accountable, together. We teach Lead Management by how we model it 🌻

07/02/2026

DON’T CHASE BAD BEHAVIOR 💜
You know you’ve let go when you don’t want an explanation anymore. You’ve finally accepted that you deserve so much better. You fully accept that the behavior used towards you was unacceptable. You eventually realise that there is no explanation of that behavior that would ever be good enough that it could ever validate abusing or hurting you in the way they did. You realise that you eventually love yourself!

Someone who hurts others does not need you chasing them looking for an explanation as to why they behave in that manner. They need to want to be in therapy attempting to figure it out for themselves. When they do, they might decide to tell you, but until then, it’s wise not to chase them looking for an explanation to something that they haven’t even figured out for themselves.

Loving self is a journey. It doesn’t happen overnight. There is no quick fix. It takes years of consistent courage and bravery to examine the self destructive patterns we have within.

Letting go of toxic relationships is a journey. You’ll walk back in many times. You’ll convince yourself all is fine. You’re caught in a trauma bond. Healing the pattern within takes years. You’re on a journey.

A journey of knowing and loving self. Therapy supports us on our journey home to self. Don’t chase anything, and certainly don’t chase bad behaviour. 💜

06/02/2026

I'm looking forward to meeting our students tomorrow as they begin their Basic Intensive Training in Choice Theory

05/02/2026

05/02/2026

WE ARE BORN WILD. Untouched. Free. Before the world teaches us who to be, we simply are. Then, external control conditions us. We learn what’s “good” or “bad,” what’s acceptable and what’s not. What we need to do so as not to be excluded.

We adapt to survive within our systems. And somewhere along the way, we lose touch with our wildness, our natural, authentic, untamed self.

Therapy isn’t about becoming something new. It’s about unbecoming. It’s about peeling back the layers of shame, conditioning, and expectation, and returning home to who we’ve always been.

You don’t have to add anything to yourself. But we may need to take away a whole load of conditioning and fear based thinking that was placed on us. We just need to come back to our wild truth. That’s freedom.

Never let anyone take the feral outa you. Therapy supports us in removing the shame based conditioning from our blueprint. No one can ever shame you again when you’re shameless. Hold ur head up. Do life your way. Be your own authentic, and feral self.

Once you return to that place of authenticity and inner freedom, you’ll never allow anyone or anything, including yourself, to attempt to put you back in a box again. 💜

04/02/2026

04/02/2026

Once we see it, we cannot unsee it again. Finding yourself again after trauma takes time. We cannot heal it by avoiding it. Snapping out of denial may be painful, but not nearly as painful as negating your feelings. We cannot heal it until we feel it. 💜

03/02/2026

Norah Finn, MIACP, SIACP, MCTI, and Founder and Senior Instructor , shares her thoughts out loud on Therapy. Perhaps you’ll find something in it that will support you? Have a lovely day 💜

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