Paula Sicard - Psychologist

17/05/2025

GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF YOUR LIFE

If you are expecting others to change to be happy, you will suffer, you are not using your own power which is the only one that can lead you to happiness.

Inner peace is a personal decision you can make independently of others or of the conditions of the environment.

Yes, painful and difficult things may happen and are part of life.

Others or situations, you cannot control but you can ALWAYS decide how to respond to them.

With love, 💝
Paula









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17/05/2025

When you are waiting for others or something outside to change to be happy, you are not using your own power which is the only one that can lead you to happiness.

We hope this is useful to you 🙏

With love 💝
Paula and Silvia
Kintsugi Wellbeing
Psychology and Counselling services in Ennis at YOUtherapies









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For us Kintsugi Wellbeing is not just a business or a project. It’s a shared dream and a common goal. Our vision is to make our practice a sacred space where we can join our clients in their process of healing and transformation. 

23/04/2025

GET OUT OF YOUR OLD DEFENSIVE PROGRAMS

What if I tell you that HERE AND NOW you are safe?

This is a realisation you get when you practice Mindfulness.

When you connect with the present moment you will be connecting also with your own sense of peace and safety.

You will find difficulties, challenges, even challenging people. By training through Mindfulness it will be easier:
- Accepting that there's no life free of challenges
- Letting go of the need of control of what you can't
- Realise what IS in your hands to do
- Always re-align yourself, choosing actions that give priority to your inner coherence, no matter who you are disappointing

You don't need to defend yourself from something that in reality is not harming you. Difficult situations will happen, nevertheless, you can still be ok.

Wit love, 💝
Paula

20/03/2025

ASSERTIVENESS TECHNIQUES

These are some very effective techniques to help improving your communication and relationships.

I hope they are useful to you.

With love, 💝
Paula

12/03/2025

ASSERTIVENESS TECHNIQUES. Swipe the images to know about the assertive formula: DESC.

DESC is a response script for conflict reduction:

DESCRIBE: The behaviour or situation as completely and objectively as possible (place, moment, frequency)

EXPRESS: Keep your thoughts and feelings calm, focusing on the behaviour and not on the person. You can start with phrases like "I feel..., I think that..."

SPECIFY Clearly state the behavioural changes that you want the other person to carry out, and ask them if they agree (I prefer that you borrow my mobile before taking it)

CONSEQUENCES: Indicate the positive consequences of the behavioural change (if you ask me for the phone, I'll gladly lend it to you), and only when strictly necessary, refer to the negative consequences (next time ask me for the phone, or I won't lend it to you).

This formula could be applied to many situations. I invite you to give it a try and let me know in the comments how did it go. 👇

With love, 💝
Paula

08/03/2025

She's my granny. She's 103 and I would like to celebrate Women's Day by paying tribute to her.

My granny is the representation of what for me, is to be a woman, and the woman I aim to be.

As she says, she has lived many lives. She has been a child, a daughter, sister, woman, wife, mother of 10, also a widow, a working mother, a migrant and then repatriated in her loved Colombia, a grandmother, a great grandmother and even a great-great-grandmother... So many, many women at the same time.

She has lived times of abundance and also of recession, she has lived so many happy and peaceful and also turbulent and difficult moments, she has seen her children grow old and sadly, she has also seen some of them die.

She has been many women in one, and still her eyes shine always the same when playing a ludo match, when receiving a compliment, when offering a nice word to her loved ones, or even when saying some of the most hilarious jokes. The same spark of life, always, during these 103 fully lived years that inspire me to make the most of my life as she has done.

I wish you all, lovely, brave women to be everything you want and everything that life asks you to be, and to keep and take care of that spark that no matter what it is you do, will be there unchanged, forever, and inspiring others just like my dear grandmother does.

Happy women's day!

With love, 💝
Paula

Thank you .zambrano for such lovely photos 😍😍😍

27/01/2025

HOW CAN I BE KINDER TO MYSELF?
It is easier sometimes to be kind with others than with ourselves, but the formula is the same.

💓 Being kind to ourselves is simple. It requires self-consciousness and of course, self-love. It may feel difficult at the beginning but the more you do it the easier it becomes.

❓Are you able to be kind with a loved one? It might be even easier.

❓What do you say to that person when is going through a tough situation?

👉 Try this exercise:

1. Think of a person you deeply love (child, partner, friend, parent...)

2. Write down an answer to what you would say/recommend to them in the following scenarios:

- Making a mistake
- Feeling guilty
- Arriving late
- Failing an exam
- Breaking-up a relationship
- Losing something/someone
- Feeling sleepy
- Feeling hungry
- Feeling thirsty
- Being asked to do something they do not want
- Doubting about going for something they want
- Add a complex scenario you imagine

3. Keep this answers and when you are in one of these, or similar situations, tell them to yourself.

😐 I guess that f you check in your head, you may be telling yourself much tougher things. We sometimes are very quick in harshly judge ourselves without even noticing we are doing so.

✨ Treat yourself the same way you would a loved one ✨

With love, 💝
Paula

15/01/2025

Why can we develop a bad relationship with ourselves?

Maybe instead of WHY we should ask WHEN.

It most likely dates back to your childhood.

❓Why do I have a very rude inner critic?

To a greater or lesser degree during our childhood we all lived some adversities or had unsatisfied needs.

Our carers did the best they could buy definitely for one reason or another, they were not able to satisfy all our needs.

🧒 Children have an way of seeing the world. It's part of any children survival needs manifestations. The child lives in the idea that the carer is always right. So when under a stressful situation the carer is not responding to the child's need, he/she will say it's because of him/her.

🌱 Hence the seed of beliefs like "I don't deserve", "I don't belong", "I'm not enough", "I am bad, stupid, annoying", etc, are already planted from long ago.

Many of these beliefs could manifest as negative self-talk but also are stored as sensations, and these sensations remain as part of our essential responses to stressful situations. So after these kind of experiences we end up looking at the world through the lenses of self-inadequacy.

We all have a more or less conscious inner critic. The good news is that we can replace the old lenses for new cleaner and much more kind ones. 👓

I'll keep talking about it in next posts.

Do you identify any of these beliefs in you? What's your one?

With love,
Paula

08/01/2025

We all want to be loved, to be cared for, to have harmonious relationships, but have you noticed WHAT IS THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOURSELF?

What words you talk and actions you do towards yourself?

Sometimes our beliefs about ourselves don't show up as clear as a thought. Check this:

👉 Do you take time off for yourself everyday?
👉 Do you include hobbies or things you enjoy to your daly life?
👉 What do you say to yourself when you make a mistake?
👉 Or maybe even simpler, do you go to the bathroom or drink water when your body tells you or do you hold?

What place do YOU and YOUR NEEDS occupy in your everyday priorities?

If you are not usually the FIRST ONE in all or some of these questions, you are definitely having these kind of conversations with yourself from a long time ago.

One of the 4 agreements and, as per the author Dr. Miguel Ruiz, the most important of all of them is "Be impeccable with your words". To me it means to be coherent. To align your desires with your actions and also with your words.

It may be a habit you are not even aware of. And it can come from learnings interiorsed in our early childhood. And a habit is not an easy thing to break, nonetheless, not impossible.

For the moment it is a GIANT step just to realise that you are being rude to yourself. I'd suggest you just be aware of it and give it a little bit of compassion.

In my next posts I'll share why this happens, why is it so important to treat ourselves well, and some ideas of how you can change it.

I would love to hear from you in the comments or through DM.

With love,
Paula