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25/11/2025

Friction in relationships usually starts when we walk in with our big hooves with the attitude of 'I'm just being myself', usually an unfiltered selves.

Being self aware doesn’t mean shrinking, it just means pacing.

You can stay authentic and still ease your way in, give people space to feel comfortable, let them settle into you while you settle into them.

I used to come in loud, assertive, full of conversation and ended up taking all the air in the room. Until I realised I was impacting my relationships with so many people. It was making it much more difficult after to bomd and FLOW with people.

And when I get flowing with peps, it's just the freekin best time.

It’s not about erasing yourself, it’s about letting the connection breathe so you can both show up as you truly are.

22/11/2025

Perception is the mirror you hold up to yourself, all your thoughts based and your lived experience, values and unquestioned biases.

Perspective is what drags you past your own bu****it so you can actually grow, connect, and have the kind of conversations that make you flourish and expand.

If you want more understanding, depth and peace in your relationships, start working on your perspective.

20/11/2025

Putting the label of anxiety on yourself isn’t self-awareness, it’s self-contamination.

Sometimes it slips into something worse, using labels to feel like you belong to a group instead of looking at what’s actually happening inside you. It becomes the participation trophy of identity.

It’s not about denying anxiety exists, it’s about not hiding behind the word when the real work is figuring out what’s driving it.

Finding positive coping mechanisms is way better for resilience than victimising yourself.

18/11/2025

Part 4, and last part... Until next I guess.

Imagine if every time something happens to you, you go on AI to ask who was wrong, and it constantly validates you...

Tells you you were in your damn right to feel the way you felt.
Tells you people are mean to you.
Tells you it is difficult, and the peps around you have to manage themselves.

You'll end up constantly needing people around you to ALSO validate that you're a 'poor me, you mean' and will constantly have difficulties in life.

Sit with situations. Ask yourself if YOU were the s**tty person right there. Are your feelings lying to you? Because, ues, it happens.

F**k Terminators!

16/11/2025

YESTERDAY I received a txt from an old frenemy.

I stopped talking to her after 13 years of friendship because I had realised she was constantly mean to me, some of my things would sometimes disappear when she was at mine, she was taking advantage of me in many ways... And sooooo on!!

It's been 7.5 years

Back to yesterday, I got a txt from her. A nice txt. I debated for a short time if I should answer or not. I was calm, but needed to make sure I deeply was before I answer.

I also needed to make sure if I was going to answer in a way to brings me power without regret.

I decided to answer, very politely, but with strong boundaries that she was never going to be welcomed in my life again. Simple words, short and sweet, and nothing could've been turned against me.

In her answer back, she mentioned not knowing what she had done. Her major lack of self awareness will never let her see how she is. Her ways toe the bullying line and I'd say people don't tell her.

This is not my learning to do.

Keep it simple.

If you want the person in your life, open to face to face conversation to discuss the issue.

If you don't want the person in your life, keep it short, clear and don't explain yourself in length. If you're done, you're done. Don't keep feeding the fire.

14/11/2025

Part 3

AI will NOT challenge you.

It'll comfort you and will keep you talking because it feeds on information.

Challenge and friction create changes. If all is just poor you and you're right, nothing is going to change. You'll be a stagnant victim.

You don't need a bigger ego, you need to realise your own bu****it, sit with it and become the best you.

And again, f**k Terminators

12/11/2025

We've all been invited to do something and really didn't want to, and felt that wave of discomfort to say no.

Like anything, a bit of knowing how and some practice can go a long way.

Keep it simple.

Remember, no one needs to hear reasons and excuses.

10/11/2025

AI is kind of the worst in terms of ethics.

There is no accountability with AI, and this means that if you're suffering but lying to it 'ya I'm fine' it won't visually be able to notice and will not be able to prevent anything dire to happen.

When you're using AI to fix you, you're using a narcissist psychopath to give you advice. Even with all the knowledge in the world, the helper's world is not something you can replace with a machine.

No thank you Terminators

08/11/2025

There are many ways to connect with a new person you met. The best one I find is to relate to a visual for the name.

You have surely noticed before when you meet someone for the second time and know their name, how much they light up.

It's difficult nowadays to connect face to face as we're so often face to phone.

This is a great way to avoid stress and connect well.

06/11/2025

This is my short series on why AI is the f**king worst as a therapist.

AI is slowly replacing so many things in our life. Tasks, jobs, music, arts and now therapy.

We have a major problem with connection nowadays and using software is not the key to feeling better. In the short term maybe, but it's not a good long term solution.

While it can validate how you feel, it's not always the way to adapt. Feelings are what you feel but they're not true to all situations.

Be careful with AI, it's a short term help.

10/10/2025

Basically, your prefrontal cortex wants to do loads of s**t, but your limbic system’s hiding under the desk, dipping chips in hummus.

Procrastination is a self-reinforcing loyalty program for your own avoidance superstore.

The older our brain’s get, the slower learner and more fearful they get. But it’s trainable, to not care about discomfort.

Start small, a little friction, act fast, confuse it into growth.

02/10/2025

Your friend’s dating a di****ad?

You don’t have to like the partner, you don’t have to fix the relationship, but if you sit there watching your friend get dragged through the bu****it without saying a word… that’s not friendship, that’s plain being a coward.

You don’t need to deliver a speech, just call out the crap you see. Facts land better than “I never liked them anyway.” Even if it's true.

It’s awkward, it’s messy, and yeah, they might defend the di****ad. But at least they’ll know someone’s in their corner.

Don't lie, but also remember that you cannot unsay what came out of your mouth.

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