13/10/2022
🌱It's not what's WRONG with you but more importantly what happened TO you?
🌱Trauma isn't just about what happened to you though, it's also what should have happened to you, but didn't.
🌱It's not just about abuse but also neglect.
🌱It's not just hitting or screaming but it's also the silence and ignoring.
🌱It's not just having an adult offload on you and burden you with adult issues and responsibilities as a child....it's also about having an emotionally unavailable parent who didn't talk, comfort or connect with you as a child.
🌱So often I see and hear clients come in asking to be fixed, telling me they're broken or damaged and come in wondering what's wrong with them and why are they so 'f**ked up'...but they're not. They're none of those things.
🌱 Tell me where you've come from, tell me where you've been, and tell me what happened to you along the way and there you'll find some answers to your questions.
🌱We're on a journey and no one leaves unscathed. It's just some people are better at hiding and denying their pain than others. Some are on a different place in their journey thsn you are. Some people have had different lives than you and have had different experiences than you.
🌱Labelling and judging people for what we don't know or understand is ignorant. Ask questions, be curious, probe and seek to understand not judge. Be open and aware of that which we don't know or are privy to. Acknowledge wrongdoings, differences and varied experiences of the same thing. We are all complex and individual human beings trying to live and find our way.
🌱 'To close our eyes will not ease another's pain' - chinese proverb.
