30/12/2025
The Radical Act of Self-Love🙌❤️
Lately, I keep coming back to this quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer: "I fill myself with love, and I send that out into the world. How others treat me is their path; how I react is mine."
There's a sound freedom in these words that I think many of us are still learning to allow.
For so long, many of us were taught that how others treat us is somehow a reflection of our worth. That if we could just be better, kinder, more accommodating, more successful, or less "too much" then we'd finally receive the love and respect we deserve.
The truth is that you cannot control how others show up in your life. You can only control how you show up for yourself.
When you fill yourself with love first and when you treat yourself with the compassion, patience, and the kindness that you've been extending to everyone else, things start to move. You stop contorting yourself to earn what should be freely given. You stop internalising other people's limitations as your own failings.
Someone's inability to see your value? That's their path.
Someone's choice to be critical, dismissive, or unkind? That's their path.
Someone's discomfort with your growth or boundaries? That's their path.
Your path is how you respond. Do you shrink? Do you internalise? Do you abandon yourself to keep the peace? Or do you stay rooted in your own worth, treat yourself with love, and let that be your compass?
When we can stop giving others the power to determine our inner landscape, this then means we recognise that we are whole and worthy regardless of whether everyone around us can see it.
As we close out this year, what if you committed to making self-love your default setting? Not as a reward for achievement or good behaviour, but as your absolute birthright.
Fill yourself with love. Let that overflow into the world. And remember: their path is theirs. Yours is yours.
If you're ready to explore what it looks like to truly fill yourself with love and stop carrying the weight of others' paths, therapy can help you find your way.