22/02/2026
And sometimes it shows up sharply,
like when professionals say things like “Sure how will they manage in mainstream?”
…while your child is right there.
People forget that a different developmental trajectory does not mean our children are less than.
It does not mean they do not hear what is said.
They hear it all.
And that hurts, for them, and for us.
So yes, it is okay to grieve or be upset about this.
To grieve the ease you thought parenting might have been.
To grieve the spontaneity.
To grieve the fact that so much more falls on you.
That grief does not cancel out love.
It doesn’t make you a bad parent.
It doesn’t mean you love your child any less.
If anything, it usually means the opposite.
It means you care so deeply.
It means you are holding space for your child and for yourself.
It means you are loving a child who needs more, and showing up anyway, every single day.
And that matters 🤍