CounsellingforWellness

11/03/2026

Is your inner world a sunlit room or an obstacle course? ☀️
We often think of trauma as a memory, but it’s actually a spatial problem. It changes the layout of our mental home. Here is how we start the renovation.
Imagine your mind is a sunlit room. Ideally, it’s a space where you can move freely. But trauma changes the layout of that room in ways we don't always realise:
The "Big T" Trauma: Like a heavy wardrobe fallen across the doorway. You can’t "just get over it"—it’s physically blocking your path. You feel stuck because, quite literally, something immovable is in the way.
The "Little t" Trauma: Like worn, uneven floorboards. It’s not one big obstacle, but you’ve learned to walk carefully, bracing for the moment the floor gives way. It’s exhausting to live with that constant vigilance.
In my latest article, I explore how EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) helps us renovate this inner space.
It’s not about erasing your history; it’s about moving the wardrobe and smoothing the floorboards so you can finally breathe in your own home again. It is about reorganising the space so you can move through it with ease.

In a healthy state of emotional wellbeing, the mind functions much like a cosy, sunlit room — a space where life’s stories are stored and arranged in a way that allows us to move through them freely. The light comes in. There is warmth. There is room to breathe.Most daily experiences are process...

20/11/2025

Why do I practice EMDR? Why do we, as trauma informed therapists dedicate ourselves to this challenging, yet profoundly rewarding work? As, I reflect now as I break for lunch after a few engaging morning sessions.
I think it’s all for the profound, quiet moment when a client realizes that trauma's grip has finally loosened, and a sense of wholeness floods their system.
The true joy of being a therapist is witnessing the mind’s organic, innate healing process—the powerful, deep-seated shift that whispers: "I am safe now."
This isn't something I do to them; it's something their mind achieves.
It’s this silent miracle of re-scripting the past—not changing the facts of what happened, but changing the way the memory is stored—so that they aren’t just surviving, but can finally, fully live in the present.
This is more than a profession; it's a profound privilege.

24/10/2025

Do you know someone struggling with distressing memories that feel "stuck," leading to anxiety, flashbacks, or avoidance?
When a traumatic or highly stressful event occurs, the memory can fail to process correctly, trapping the original emotions and physical sensations. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based psychotherapy that resolves this issue.
EMDR helps to process those trapped memories and emotions to be fully integrated and stored appropriately.
The result? The memory stops causing intense distress. You move from "I'm reliving it" to "It happened, and I'm okay now," freeing you to live fully in the present.

18/05/2024

Trauma is stored in the brain in fragmented form; it needs to be integrated to become a memory of something that happened, not something that is happening."

Francine Shapiro, Ph.D.
Founder of EMDR Therapy.

20/03/2024

Going through traumatic experiences can leave you feeling trapped by your own emotions. EMDR is a helpful way to get you back to living your life, free from distressing emotions and physical sensations. EMDR is unique in that it does not involve much talking between the therapist and client. The therapist’s role in EMDR is to be a tool, rather than an interpreter of information, as is the case with more traditional talk therapies

18/03/2024

With EMDR, it is, "When you think about that event, tell me what you feel in your body right now? What are you feeling viscerally? What do you notice right here, right now." We we are present in something, it cannot stay the same. Only when we ruminate and dwell on something with our ego, with our mind, does something stay the same. You may have relived certain memories from your past over and over. You have never been present to them. That's ok and completely normal because you most likely need more resource for that. EMDR Therapy can be that invaluable resource to allow you to be present to your past in order to finally let it go.

16/11/2023

EMDR can be an effective way to support you with many presentations-

26/08/2023

Have you got your DOSE ?

23/01/2023

Thought provoking image. Digital fix , what’s your dose ?

27/12/2022

07/08/2022

When we experience a trauma a lot can lie beneath the surface and remain untouched and unattended . EMDR can support you in processing your Trauma and help you with the support and understanding you may need .

13/06/2022

An inability to visualise a positive future can be a sign of Trauma . Emdr can help resolve and explore this using future template .

Here's what that means, and why it's so important.