25/06/2023
אבל
צלילה אל האבל עקב אובדן אדם קרוב. אפשר והולם לחוות, לדבר ולשתוק אבל אליו צולל אדם עם אובדן ילד, הורה בן/בת זוג. מרפא ומטיב, כשיש מי שמקשיב, משקף ושומר בעת הצלילה הארוכה, ההכרחית.
ג'ואן דידיון כותבת בכנות ודיוק את האבל שלה עקב אובדן בעלה ובתה בשני ספרים, מתוך כאב, בבהירות ומתוך החיים:
"Grief is different. Grief has no distance. Grief comes in waves, paroxysms, sudden apprehensions that weaken the knees and blind the eyes and obliterate the dailiness of life."
"We imagined we knew everything the other thought, even when we did not necessarily want to know it, but in fact, I have come to see, we knew not the smallest fraction of what there was to know."
"Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it. We anticipate (we know) that someone close to us could die, but we do not look beyond the few days or weeks that immediately follow such an imagined death. We misconstrue the nature of even those few days or weeks. We might expect if the death is sudden to feel shock. We do not expect this shock to be obliterative, dislocating to both body and mind. We might expect that we will be prostrate, inconsolable, crazy with loss. We do not expect to be literally crazy, cool customers who believe their husband is about to return and need his shoes."
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