19/11/2025
This might trigger you⌠and I hope you let it.
You say you want a healthy relationship
but the moment someone treats you well, shows up, or tries to be consistentâŚ
you lose interest.
You get bored.
You find a flaw.
You pull away.
You shut down.
You sabotage it.
And thenâŚ
you run right back to the person who keeps you anxious, guessing, and waiting.
The one who gives you crumbs.
The one who never fully chooses you.
The one who activates every old wound you hoped you were âover.â
Hereâs the part you may not want to hear:
Itâs not chemistry.
Itâs trauma.
Your nervous system is more comfortable
with inconsistency than safety.
With anxiety than calm.
With intensity than intimacy.
Because the part of you that learned love through chaos
doesnât know what to do with someone who doesnât hurt you.
If this makes you defensive, angry, or ânot in the moodâ to keep reading
thatâs the trigger.
Thatâs the part of you that still believes chaos= connection.
Thatâs the protector who is terrified of real closeness.
This isnât blame.
This is survival.
This is the body doing what it had to do
when no one showed you what safe love feels like.
The trigger isnât the problem.
The trigger is the map.
It shows you exactly where the wound lives
and how your body is trying to protect you
even if itâs hurting you now.
Youâre not broken.
Youâre patterned.
And patterns can be rewired, gently, slowly, safely
when youâre ready to look at the places you avoid the most.
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