15/12/2025
Ditching 50/50 & Understanding Love Languages
We have to retire the myth of the 50/50 relationship! For modern love to truly thrive, it can't be a ledger of equal effort.
The Reality of Real Love:
💖 Some days, you’re at 80% and they’re at 20%. That’s called being human. That’s called being a team. Love is the safety net that says, "I've got you when you're depleted, and you'll have me when I am."
The effort might look like 80/20, 60/40, or even 100/0 during a crisis. The average might balance out over time, but demanding 50/50 in every moment leads only to resentment and exhaustion.
The Second Myth: Identical Returns
Your partner’s way of showing love will likely look different from yours.
If your love language is Words of Affirmation, don't get hurt if theirs is Acts of Service. They might not say "I love you" out loud today, but they fixed your broken shelf. That is their 80%.
Expecting someone to return love in the exact way you give it is a recipe for missed connection. Learn their language, appreciate their effort, and ditch the strict math.
Love is fluid, not financial.
What percentage have you been running on lately, and what form has your partner's love taken this week? Share in the comments! 👇
