The Therapy Talk House

03/12/2025

Opinions aren't loud. People are just used to women whispering. Let's unlearn smallness, one opinion at a time? Okay?

16/11/2025

Self-acceptance is something we talk about a lot in therapy, especially in fluency work.
It’s a journey of learning to soften towards yourself, to make room for the parts that feel slow, unsure, or imperfect. And yes, it matters. It’s the inner foundation we stand on.

But today, a 10-year-old reminded me of something adults often forget:
Self-acceptance is easier in rooms where we feel safe…
it’s the outside world that complicates things.

She told me, “Here it doesn’t matter… but in real life, it hurts.”
And she’s right.

We can know our worth and still feel the ache of being misunderstood.
We can practice self-love and still long for someone to understand us without judgement.
Because no matter how grounded we are internally, we are human beings who move through communities, classrooms, families, friendships: places where belonging shapes how seen we feel.

Pretending that other people’s acceptance doesn’t matter isn’t strength.
It’s survival.
And children feel this long before they can articulate it.

There will always be people whose opinions are coloured by their own fears, biases, or insecurities. Their perception has nothing to do with our truth… but it can still sting. The hurt doesn’t mean we lack self-acceptance. It means we are wired for connection.

So maybe the real work is not choosing between self-acceptance and external acceptance, but learning to hold both truths at once.

Both are valid.
Both are human.
Both deserve space in our therapy space.



❤️

12/10/2025

"You will never know true love until you become a mother"

05/06/2025

31/05/2025

Desi parenting isn't just about love- it's about choices. Are we making the right ones?

26/01/2025

Your children are not an extension of you!

26/01/2025

03/02/2024

Embracing grief is a courageous journey and it's okay not to have it all figured out because in the realm of grief, time doesn't heal, but it transforms.

09/09/2023

Attention and listening development is the basis of all learning. Good attention and listening skills will support your child’s social skills development, understanding of language, use of language, speech sound development and all areas of learning
All children will develop attention & listening skills at different speed, however, they will typically move through recognized stages of development.
By carrying out appropriate activities with your child, you will be supporting them to develop attention skills. This will allow them to share an interest in an object/ event/ activity with another person. Educating ourselves about different stages of listening development will allow us to plan appropriate and enjoyable activities with our children.

28/08/2023

Let's aim to adopt a more effective and engaging approach when communicating with our children. Instead of using commands, let's focus on using informative and descriptive language. This approach will not only help enhance their critical thinking skills and decision-making abilities, but also contribute to their overall growth and self-confidence.

28/08/2023

Are you constantly trying to please others at the cost of your own happiness? This video on the "Please Others" driver can help you understand why and how to break free from this pattern.

24/08/2023

Effective listeners prioritize providing supportive responses that acknowledge and evaluate the speaker's message. Although shift responses are often relevant and can provide a newer perspective, they are still self-focused statements, which if often used can be indicative of conversational narcissism and hinder genuine connection. Conversely, support responses should be other-directed questions that demonstrate a genuine curiosity to learn more about the speaker's perspective. These questions should be open-ended and avoid imposing the listener's opinion. The ultimate objective is to comprehend the speaker's viewpoint, not to persuade them otherwise.

In conclusion, honing our listening skills and being mindful of our responses can significantly impact the quality of our interactions with others. By grasping the concepts of shifting and supporting in conversations, we can become more attentive and empathetic listeners, facilitating better communication and building stronger relationships. This is particularly vital for professionals in intuitive fields, where the ability to truly hear and understand others lies at the core of their practice.