08/12/2025
Were you praised for being the "quiet" one? 🤫
We often grow up believing that silence equals peace. But for a child, silence is often survival. It means hiding your needs to be accepted.
If you learned that "love = silence," speaking up as an adult can feel dangerous. It triggers your nervous system, causing you to either explode in reaction or shut down completely.
You aren’t broken. You just need to retrain your brain to feel safe when using your voice[cite: 43].
Here is how to practice the "Power of the Pause":
1️⃣ Notice the Heat: When you feel the urge to react, acknowledge it.
2️⃣ The 3-Second Rule: Stop. Take one deep breath. This signals safety to your brain.
3️⃣ Choose: Ask yourself, "What is the truth I need to say kindly?"
The pause turns a reaction into a response. It gives you control back.
👇 Comment "PAUSE" if you are ready to break the cycle of silence today.
- Coach Medha
P.S. Save this post to remind yourself to breathe before you speak[cite: 56].