18/04/2016
nowadays we recieve many consultations of 16 to 24 years old boys and girls going through breakup. although it is very difficult and emotional time for someone going through it and it is difficult to generalize things for everyone still we will like to put some general facts about it:
1: whatever is happening to you is very common and has happened to majority of population. the symptoms of extreme anxiety , hopelessness, chest pain, choking sensation and panic attacks can be present which generally fade away with time typically ranging from 1 to 6 months depending upon the level of emotional involvement.
2. finding the reasons in this age only aggravates the problem. whatever may be the reason acceptance that it is over is very necessary. blaming partner for breakup or begging partner to reconcile creates significant emotional and self esteem issues in future.
3: do not do anything during this time that may have a long lasting impact on your future like leaving a course, leaving city, su***de attempt, creating ruckus in public , violence of any kind.
4: despite the widespread belief getting into a new relationship just after breakup seldom helps and such relationships have high failure rate. give yourself some time before starting anew.
5: it should be remembered that in however great distress you are things will improve in time. avoiding phone calls and messages and chat opportunities with partner also helps in rapid recovery. chances of breakup ruining your entire life is remote though thinking so is very common.
6 : seeking family support and close friends helps in fast recovery, remaining aloof and withdrawn may increase both physical and emotional symptoms.
(views expressed above are based on clinical experience with patients and may not universally apply to all)
