05/11/2025
As parents, we want our kids to succeed, but constantly correcting them can break their confidence.
What Does Over-Correction Look Like?
It's correcting your child for every little thing, like saying:
- "Don't sit that way, your posture is wrong!"
- "Your writing is messy. Start over."
- "Stop asking silly questions, you already know the answer."
- "You are too loud! Stop making that noise."
The Cost of Constant Correction
When we give kids repeated corrections, the message they receive is: "You're not good enough, and you can't do things right."
- They become quiet: Children are naturally curious and ask lots of questions. Over-correction makes them afraid to ask, and they stop sharing things.
- They lose confidence: They start doubting themselves and become dependent on your decisions.
✅ Simple Rules from a Pediatrician:
The file suggests simple rules to build, not break, confidence:
1. Focus on Connection, Not Correction: Instead of highlighting every mistake, gently point out only the most important things they need to fix.
2. Encourage Questions: Instead of saying, "Don't ask silly questions," try saying, "That's an interesting question! What do you think the answer is?"
3. Encourage Effort: Instead of saying, "That's wrong," acknowledge their effort first: "I see you tried! Next time, let's try to do it this way."
Remember: Connection is more important than correction. Let your child explore, make mistakes, and learn without constantly feeling judged.
