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HOW DO PEOPLE SLOWLY BECOME EMOTIONALLY UNATTACHED TO PEOPLE THEY LOVE ?You love your parents deeply and feel strongly a...
07/11/2025

HOW DO PEOPLE SLOWLY BECOME EMOTIONALLY UNATTACHED TO PEOPLE THEY LOVE ?

You love your parents deeply and feel strongly attached to them. It may seem impossible to imagine life without them. However, as they grow older—perhaps into their 80s or 90s—their appearance and behavior may change. Their skin might shrink, their movements may become restricted, and they might appear less attractive to you. Additionally, their communication may decrease. They might not respond as quickly or engage in conversations the way they once did. This reduced interaction can create distance between you and them.

The deep love and attachment you once felt may shift as their dependence on you grows. It's not that you stop loving them, but you might find yourself drawn to others who can communicate and connect with you more actively. This is not something to feel guilty about; it is natural. Most people—perhaps 99%—experience similar changes in their relationships.

What this shows is that nothing in life is permanent. People often treat relationships as if they will last forever, becoming overly emotional and attached. But the truth is, relationships are conditional. If you show love, others will love you back. If you help, they will help you in return. Bonds grow based on mutual effort. However, when these conditions change—when communication lessens or support diminishes—the connection may weaken over time.

This is simply the nature of relationships. That is why it’s important to approach them with a balanced mindset. Love your parents, care for them, fulfill your duties, and respect them. But when things go wrong or circumstances change, you must accept it and move forward without becoming overly emotional or attached.

Always remember that everything in life is conditional and temporary. Keeping this in mind can help you remain emotionally resilient and maintain a sense of detachment when necessary..

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I ALWAYS HAVE AN ANXIETY THAT MY PARTNER MIGHT GET DISTRACTED TOWARDS OTHERS BECAUSE I SEE A LOT OF EXTRAMARITAL THINGS ...
03/11/2025

I ALWAYS HAVE AN ANXIETY THAT MY PARTNER MIGHT GET DISTRACTED TOWARDS OTHERS BECAUSE I SEE A LOT OF EXTRAMARITAL THINGS HAPPENING AROUND. SO, I’M ALWAYS ANXIOUS ABOUT THAT. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

See, I’ll tell you something very simple — there are only two things you really need to do, nothing else. If you follow these two, even the most beautiful or handsome person cannot distract your partner.

First, always give your love — take care of her and express your affection whenever possible.

Second, spend good quality time with her.

Because when you make her feel loved, cared for, and emotionally connected, she naturally won’t feel drawn towards anyone else. This applies not just to women — even men are the same way. Genuine love and quality time keep any relationship strong and secure.

If you do these two things I mentioned above, you actually become their world. They won’t see anyone else the same way — because you become the image in front of them, the person who fills their mind and heart completely.

Moreover, one positive thing I want to add — what the media shows these days about extramarital affairs is mostly exaggerated. They do it to grab attention and increase their TRP ratings. In reality, all that nonsense probably represents only 10 to 20 percent of people. The remaining 80 to 90 percent are good-hearted individuals who live ethically and are loyal to their partners.

So, think about that and stay cool. Don’t let these negative stories make you anxious.

Remember, anxiety is nothing but thoughts. Don’t feed those thoughts; just stop developing them.

Do these two things sincerely — love her truly and spend meaningful time with her — and she will definitely stay with you.

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WHAT ARE SOME COMMON REASONS PEOPLE START COMPARING THEMSELVES TO OTHERS, AND HOW DO THESE HABITS FORM EARLY IN LIFE?Act...
02/11/2025

WHAT ARE SOME COMMON REASONS PEOPLE START COMPARING THEMSELVES TO OTHERS, AND HOW DO THESE HABITS FORM EARLY IN LIFE?

Actually, when somebody is performing and you are not, you naturally start comparing yourself with them. Then you begin to feel insecure. In the same way, those who perform well also tend to compare themselves with those who haven’t. When they perform, they feel proud and start comparing with the non-performers. They gradually lose their sense of humility and begin to feel superior. This creates pressure on them to retain that image. So, both are not good — insecurity and pride — both come from comparison.

You may ask when this habit starts. It begins with parents. When there are two, three, or four children in a family, and one performs well while another doesn’t, parents often say, “See, he has performed, and you are not performing.” This brings insecurity in the child.
Even if parents are careful and avoid comparisons, when children go to school, comparison continues. Among 30–40 students, when some perform and others don’t, those who lag behind start feeling insecure.

Parents and teachers often do this with good intentions — they compare in order to motivate the non-performing ones. When a child doesn’t perform, they use the performing child as an example, thinking it will inspire the other. But in reality, it doesn’t work that way. The child who is compared doesn’t feel motivated; they feel insecure and hurt. True motivation should not hurt — if it causes pain, it’s not motivation, it’s comparison.

Teachers and parents should handle children in a more balanced way. They can tell the non-performing child, “He performed well because he got the right opportunities, situations, and circumstances — even the right environment and metabolism. You are also intelligent; if you get the same factors, you too will perform equally well.”
They should always make both performing and non-performing children feel equal. When there is no insecurity, children naturally start performing better because confidence grows in an atmosphere of equality and encouragement.

DO YOU THINK THERE’S ANY CHANCE OR CONDITION UNDER WHICH YOU’D CONSIDER RECONNECTING WITH THOSE YOU’VE CUT OFF?Recently,...
01/11/2025

DO YOU THINK THERE’S ANY CHANCE OR CONDITION UNDER WHICH YOU’D CONSIDER RECONNECTING WITH THOSE YOU’VE CUT OFF?

Recently, I saw in the news about a person who had poisoned his mother, and I also heard about another who had beaten his father — and even about serial rapists and murderers. Such people, I feel, have completely lost their sense of humanness. It is probably very difficult for them to change, so there is no need to reconnect with such individuals.

However, if they come forward on their own, showing genuine realization and transformation, and if you truly feel that they have changed from within, then perhaps you can consider reconnecting with them.

On the other hand, there are people who may be selfish or egoistic, or who might have reacted badly to your actions, leading to misunderstandings or conflicts. Such people can be understood, empathized with, and even changed. You can always reconnect with them.

Often, it is their situations, circumstances, and even genetic factors that make them behave the way they do. They can always become positive. If you start being positive, they will also begin to reflect that positivity. When you empathize with them and speak with understanding, they will definitely change — and you can always reconnect with them.

You might ask, “Why can’t we empathize with people who have poisoned their mother, beaten their father, or committed serial murders?” Yes, even in such cases, we can try to empathize by understanding that they, too, became like that because of their own situations and inner conflicts.

However, the difference is that their negative habits and tendencies have gone very deep within them. Even if we empathize, it becomes extremely difficult to bring about any change in such individuals. They must first realize their own mistakes and change from within.

Once they truly realize and transform themselves, that’s when we can reconnect with them — because genuine connection is possible only after self-realization and change

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I DON’T HAVE THE PATIENCE TO LISTEN…WHEN I LISTEN , I FEEL LIKE THEY ARE WINNING AND I AM LOSING… HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS?...
29/10/2025

I DON’T HAVE THE PATIENCE TO LISTEN…WHEN I LISTEN , I FEEL LIKE THEY ARE WINNING AND I AM LOSING… HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS?

Have you ever experienced this? You’re on the road, and there’s a vehicle right in front of you. You start feeling as if you’re being controlled. Some people, even when they have plenty of time, still feel irritated. They keep honking at the vehicle in front, disturbing others, and finally, they also end up getting irritated themselves.

But if you really have time, why not just enjoy your drive? Go at a comfortable, medium speed and stay relaxed. Listen to some beautiful Ilaiyaraaja songs and enjoy the journey.

Actually, why I’m saying this is because many people don’t really listen — not only on the road but also in life.

They feel that when they listen to others, they are being controlled. And yes, sometimes listening can create expectations. But some people are too egoistic; they think that by listening to others, they’re agreeing with them. It’s nothing like that.

Just listen — and if something is wrong, you can always express your views later. When you do that, people will also be ready to listen to you. Listening develops the habit of patience, and people start loving you for it. Because when you listen sincerely, others feel respected and valued.

If you stop listening and keep talking all the time, people will slowly start avoiding you. Those who don’t learn to listen finally end up frustrated and depressed. Then they go to some Guruji and start listening only to them completely.

And once you go to them, you have to listen and live according to their words — you lose the freedom to think or express your own views.

So start listening to people gradually. Develop patience. When you do that, life becomes more peaceful, balanced, and truly beautiful.

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I AM FEELING JEALOUS OF OTHERS, AND IT’S ACTUALLY AFFECTING ME. SO, IS IT GOOD OR BAD? IF IT’S BAD, HOW CAN I OVERCOME I...
27/10/2025

I AM FEELING JEALOUS OF OTHERS, AND IT’S ACTUALLY AFFECTING ME. SO, IS IT GOOD OR BAD? IF IT’S BAD, HOW CAN I OVERCOME IT?

That’s a very good question. Actually, jealousy or insecurity — both are emotions that almost everyone experiences. It’s very common among humans, so don’t worry too much about having those feelings. But the problem starts when jealousy turns into negativity toward others. For example, if you feel jealous of someone and it begins to affect you, you might start thinking negatively about them — wishing they perform badly, fail, or face setbacks. That’s when jealousy or insecurity becomes harmful.

Instead of that, start thinking positively about them. When they do something well, try to feel genuinely happy for them. Tell yourself, “Let them perform even better,” or “Let them be happy.” The more positivity you bring into your mind, the weaker your jealousy becomes. Actually, jealousy arises when you feel you are getting less importance — when you fear that others might think less of you or give you lower value.

But remember, those who perform better do so because they have certain opportunities, situations, and circumstances that help them succeed. If you were given the same factors, you too would perform equally well. So, there’s nothing special about their success — it’s just that they got the right chances at the right time. Similarly, when you perform well and others don’t, you should also remember that your success is due to the factors and circumstances you received. If they get the same opportunities, they too will perform well.

So, treat everyone equally. When people in winning situations think this way, they remain humble. And when others think this way, they stop feeling insecure. That way, even if jealousy arises, it will never affect your peace of mind.

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I WAS BAD, BUT I TURNED GOOD FOR SEVERAL YEARS NOW. BUT SUDDENLY, WITHOUT EVEN A MISTAKE, WHEN SOMEBODY IS ACCUSING ME, ...
24/10/2025

I WAS BAD, BUT I TURNED GOOD FOR SEVERAL YEARS NOW. BUT SUDDENLY, WITHOUT EVEN A MISTAKE, WHEN SOMEBODY IS ACCUSING ME, I AM JUST DEPRESSED OVER THAT. I AM ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT IT, AND I FEEL DEPRESSED. SO, HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?

A friend of mine had once acquired a property through fraudulent means. Through that, he earned a lot and lived comfortably. Over time, he completely transformed — he became genuinely good, started living honestly, and acquired several properties through ethical means. He had been living well for nearly ten years, completely forgetting the property he had originally obtained through dishonest means.

One fine morning, however, he suddenly received a legal notice regarding one of his prime properties — the very property through which he earned the most. Shocked, he consulted an advocate and discovered that the property had serious legal complications. Soon after, the court sealed the property, and from that day onward, he couldn’t earn anything from it. More than the legal issue, his mental struggle troubled him deeply. He kept thinking: “I’m doing good. I’m ethical. Why is this happening to me?” That thought was killing him.

He came to me with this issue, unable to overcome these thoughts. Slowly, I helped him recollect his past, and he remembered that 12 years ago he had acquired that property through fraudulent means. I told him, “You did that karma — a bad karma. After that, you have done many good things, but still, that karma has to show its effect. Better you accept it. The moment you accept, it will leave your mind. Acceptance is the greatest solution for all problems.” Karma works like this: even if something happened many years back, its effects can appear later. You have to accept it and move on.

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Mastering the Thoughts for a business club
21/10/2025

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ACTUALLY, I HAVE A LOT OF EXPECTATIONS. WHEN I WANT CERTAIN THINGS TO HAPPEN, SOMEHOW I WANT THAT TO HAPPEN. YOU KNOW, I...
19/10/2025

ACTUALLY, I HAVE A LOT OF EXPECTATIONS. WHEN I WANT CERTAIN THINGS TO HAPPEN, SOMEHOW I WANT THAT TO HAPPEN. YOU KNOW, IT CREATES ANXIETY IN ME. SO, WHY IS THAT? HOW TO DEAL WITH THAT?

Actually, I go to Mangadu amman Temple every week. I have many prayers, but only one specific prayer that I focus on. I take a seven-week prarthana and go every week. I pray for everyone — my daughter, my son, my wife, my friends, my relatives, and others. But there will be one specific prayer, for example, for my son or my daughter. When I pray for other things, I am calm and peaceful, but when it comes to that one specific prayer, I start feeling a bit anxious.

Because what happens is, when I want that specific prayer to be fulfilled, I start creating expectations. When I pray, I visualize God and the person I’m praying for. But sometimes, the visualization of God doesn’t come clearly, or even that person’s image doesn’t come — because I’m anxious. Deep down, I strongly want that prayer to happen. When you want something to happen your way, you automatically create expectations — and that definitely brings anxiety. For other prayers, I remain cool, because there are no expectations. So yes, expectations definitely create anxiety.

In anything in life, when you want certain things to happen your way, keep your breathing calm. Do the process sincerely. Do your duties and responsibilities correctly. Don’t look at the results, and don’t hold expectations. The moment you feel, “It must happen somehow,” anxiety begins. Even if you want something to happen 100%, it may not happen that way. So, trust the process. Don’t have expectations. Don’t look at the results. Do what you need to do sincerely — if it happens, wonderful; if not, accept it gracefully and move on.

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