08/09/2025
WHAT do MEN want from WOMEN?
In gentle terms, men desire less fighting and more intimacy. They also want fewer conflicts, as they often feel responsible for managing women's emotions—this can lead to misunderstandings.
It’s important to recognize that women have deep feelings. Men do too, but they are generally better at concealing them. Sometimes, without any logical reason, men may require a lengthy conversation—up to two hours—to process their anger or negative emotions.
Men often believe that their role as a husband is to make their partner happy, which can be a significant miscalculation. They feel pressured to accept their partner's emotions in order to better accept their own.
What men truly seek is for their partner to want them, adore them, and approve of them just the way they are.
Consider a group of eight-year-old boys playing a game of basketball or volleyball. In this game, one boy runs with the ball while the others try to take it. They take the game seriously but enjoy themselves immensely.
One day, a boy named Karthik started crying because he hadn’t had a chance to touch the ball. Another boy, Raja, recognized Karthik’s feelings, paused the game, and handed him the ball, saying, “This time, Karthik is ‘it.’ Let’s go!”
The problem was quickly resolved, and the game continued. The boys’ primary goal was to keep the game going, so they swiftly addressed emotions and returned to play.
Now imagine if this situation involved women instead. (I'll leave the details of this scenario to your imagination.)
Whether they are 8 or 48, men generally prefer to set aside emotions in order to maintain the playfulness and enjoyment in their relationships.
Ultimately, men desire to feel wanted, adored, and accepted just as they are.
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Regards
B. Elayaraja M.Sc.,M. Phil., PGDGC.,PGDHA.,PGDSC
Proprietor & Counseling Psychologist
KAVITHALAYAA COUNSELING CENTRE, Ambattur, Chennai-53
www.kavithalyaacounseling.com