11/11/2025
"I can't spend on myself" isn't about money. It's about safety.
You know someone like this (or maybe it's you):
Won't buy anything for themselves without guilt
Checks account balance obsessively before smallest purchase
Wears the same clothes for years
Goes to the cheapest barber
Avoids anything 'extravagant'But give them a gift? Their eyes light up.
Here's what's really happening:
It's not about the price tag.It's about an old belief still running your nervous system:"I'm not allowed to have."
Maybe you learned:
→ Your needs came last
→ Wanting things was selfish
→ You had to earn the right to exist
→ Resources were scarce and you were a burdenSo now, every expense feels dangerous.Even when you have the money. Even when it's necessary.
Even when you deserve it.This is psychosomatic scarcity.
Your bank account says you're safe.
Your nervous system says you're not.
And it shows up as:
Guilt around self-care
Chronic deprivation patterns
Inability to receive
Physical symptoms from self-neglect
You'll become worth it when you believe it.Do you?If this pattern is keeping you small, stuck, or sick - let's find the root.
