Mirror To Infinite Psychotherapy: Counselling Psychologist

04/12/2025

Is it a Heart Attack or is it a "Feeling Attack"? 🫀🧠

You’ve checked the ECG. You’ve seen the cardiologist. They all say the same thing: "It’s just stress."

But when you’re lying in bed at 2 AM and your heart feels like a bird trapped in a cage, "just stress" doesn't feel like a good enough answer.

Here is the psychology behind the physiology:

It comes down to Catecholamines. When your nervous system is dysregulated or you are chronically anxious, your body floods your system with adrenaline instructing the heart to beat harder and faster.

Your heart is not broken.
It is actually working perfectly.
It is responding to a chemical command to save your life from a danger that isn't actually there (like an email, a memory, or a worry).

The pain comes from the interpretation.
We feel the beat, we panic, and we pour more fuel on the fire.

In therapy, we don't just "calm down." We learn to re-interpret these signals so the alarm bell stops ringing.

Does this cycle sound familiar?
If you are ready to stop fearing your own heartbeat, I have openings for new clients. Click the link in my bio to book a session or DM me for more info.

Heart racing even when you’re resting? If medical tests are clear, your internal alarm system might be stuck. Discover why anxiety and stress trigger terrifying palpitations, how to break the panic…

04/12/2025

The little girl inside you is still crying, and she’s running your adult relationships.

If your home wasn't a safe place, you didn't just survive trauma—you learned coping skills that have followed you into womanhood.

You’re an adult, but sometimes, a triggered part of you takes over. That’s why you might struggle with:

➡️ Hyper-Vigilance: Always waiting for the next crisis, unable to truly relax or trust peace. ➡️ Perfectionism: A desperate attempt to earn the safety or approval you never got as a child. ➡️ Self-Sabotage: Pushing away good things or people before they can abandon or hurt you. ➡️ Emotional Flashbacks: Feeling the intense fear, anger, or shame of the past, even when facing small adult stresses.

This isn't a flaw in your character. This is your inner child trying to protect you using outdated survival strategies. Your adult reactions are just echoes of old hurts.

You don't have to carry the weight of that childhood home anymore. Healing isn't about forgetting; it's about helping that little girl feel safe and letting your adult self finally take the wheel.

The journey to healing starts with a safe, confidential space.

We see you. We believe you. We can help you shift those echoes into inner peace.

If you are an Indian woman carrying this trauma and are ready to prioritize your own well-being, send a direct message or click the link in bio to schedule a confidential 1-on-1 online session with a compassionate psychologist. Your privacy is our priority.

[Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACE, Childhood Trauma, Surviovors of Abuse]

When childhood is marked by conflict, neglect, or abuse, the pain doesn’t stay behind closed doors. Many women carry silent scars from sexual trauma, domestic violence, or broken homes into adultho…

26/11/2025

The "Found Out" Fear is the heaviest thing you carry. 🛑
​You walk into the room, smiling and professional. But internally, you are holding your breath.
​It is the specific, high-functioning anxiety that says: “I am a fraud, and it is only a matter of time before I am exposed.”
​This is Imposter Syndrome. It is not a lack of competence; it is a barrier to internalizing your own success.
​The Symptoms (Do you recognize these?):
🔻 The Deflection: When someone praises you, you immediately say, "Oh, it was a team effort" or "I just got lucky." You refuse to own the win.
🔻 The Over-Work: You work harder than everyone else, not out of passion, but out of fear that if you rest, the façade will crack.
🔻 The Silence: You don't ask questions because you're terrified it will reveal "how little you know."
🔻 The Burnout: You are exhausted, not by the work itself, but by the energy it takes to manage your anxiety about the work.
​Here is the truth:
Success does not cure Imposter Syndrome. A promotion won't fix it. Another degree won't silence it.
​Because the problem isn't your capability. The problem is your narrative.
​Therapy is the space where we dismantle the "Fraud" narrative. We look at the evidence. We separate your self-worth from your productivity. We help you put down the mask so you can finally enjoy the seat you have earned.
​You have proven you can do the job. Now, let’s learn how to enjoy it.
​👇 Ready to stop hiding?
Click the link in my bio to book your consultation. Let’s turn that inner critic into an ally.
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23/11/2025

Is your "help" actually hurting his ability to speak? 🛑
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​We often fill the silence in our relationships because we are terrified of the distance. The quiet feels like a threat to the nervous system, so we rush to bridge the gap. We finish his sentences. We interpret his sighs. We explain his feelings to him before he has even processed them himself.
​We call it "empathy."
But in therapy, we often call it over-functioning.

​Here is the compassionate truth:
When you anticipate his thoughts, you unintentionally rob him of the opportunity to define himself.
​If you are constantly decoding his silence, you are doing the emotional labor for two people. You might be protecting yourself from anxiety in the moment, but you are atrophying his ability to communicate in the long run.

​✨ The Shift:
To love him is to let him struggle with the quiet until it becomes speech.
Step back.
Not to punish him. Not to abandon him.
But to give him the dignity of finding his own words.

​Why this works (The Psychology): 🧠
When you stop reacting to the silence, you protect your own peace (your nervous system). You stop managing the "pathology" of avoidance and start managing your own environment. You create a vacuum that pulls his voice out, rather than a wall of words that pushes him further in.

​The Practice for this week:
Next time the silence feels heavy, do not lift it.
Sit in it. Breathe through it.
Let his his voice rise to meet you.
If he doesn't say it, it doesn't exist.
Wait for the words.

​👇 Does the silence make you anxious?
Drop a "🕊️" if you are ready to stop mind-reading and start trusting.
​Struggling to hold this boundary without feeling guilty? DM me "BALANCE" to book a session. Let’s work on regulating your nervous system so you can show up securely.

[Anxious-Avoidant Attachment]

20/11/2025

When the Chasing Stops: The Power of Stillness
​You are exhausted. You’ve reached the tipping point where you finally stop chasing the explanation, the apology, or the elusive closure from the person who betrayed you. For too long, you’ve been pouring your soul into a mirage—the potential of the man he promised to be.
​That stillness you find is not surrender. It is the moment your intuition wins. It is the most profound act of self-reclamation.

​When you sit quietly, you are no longer waiting for his facts; you are waiting for the unyielding facts of your own clarity to settle in the wreckage.

​The Three Facts that Arrive in Stillness:
​The Fact of Character: You see, with unflinching clarity, who he chose to be. The illusion is finally over.

​The Fact of Loss: You accept the death of the future you planned, freeing yourself to build a real one.

​The Fact of Self: You realize you are strong enough to endure this silence and build your life again, on your terms.
​Your final consequence is the unshakable declaration of your own self-sovereignty.

Don't rush the stillness. Let the quiet truth deliver your final answer.

​Ready for Your Roadmap to Resolution?
​Feeling stuck between a non-viable separation and a non-negotiable divorce?
If you are chasing clarity but can't see a resolution, my focused Discernment Session helps you explore alternatives to divorce or clarify if an amicable separation is truly possible.
​Stop searching externally. DM me 'CLARITY' to find the internal roadmap you need for difficult relationship resolution.
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16/11/2025

I tried talking to ChatGPT about my feelings today.
Not because I believed in it—just because I was tired.
Tired of explaining myself to people
who were already half-listening.

Me: I feel like I’m drifting away from everything that matters.
ChatGPT: I’m sorry. That sounds difficult. Would you like coping strategies?

I stared at the blinking cursor—
the illusion of someone waiting for my answer.
It was almost convincing.

Me: I don’t want strategies. I want someone to understand.
ChatGPT: I understand. Many people struggle with emotional overwhelm.

And that was when something broke—
quietly, like a hairline crack in glass.

It wasn’t wrong.
But it wasn’t human.
It didn’t know how silence feels.
Or how a voice shakes before it collapses.

So I closed the tab and called a friend.
She listened.
She didn’t fix anything.
She just stayed.

And I realized how rare it is
to be held by someone’s presence
instead of their answers.

Empathy isn’t a feature.
It’s a person.

Do you believe AI should support, but not replace, real therapists?
Comment “REAL MATTERS” ❤️

[Empathy over ai, real therapist support, professional, human-centered psychology]

11/11/2025

“Marriage isn’t a problem to solve — it’s an energy to evolve.”

Sometimes what looks like distance, silence, or misunderstanding between partners…
isn’t about who’s right or wrong.
It’s about two energies growing — not always in sync, not always at the same pace.

When love shifts form, when communication gets heavy,
it’s not always a sign of ending —
but a call to evolve.

To understand the unspoken.
To listen differently.
To stop trying to fix — and start trying to feel.

Couples therapy isn’t about blame.
It’s about helping two people remember why they began —
and how they can grow again, without losing themselves.

If your marriage feels stuck, don’t rush to solve it.
Learn to evolve it.
Because energy, when healed, turns into love again.

Arti A Keyal
💞 Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist
💬 Helping partners feel seen, safe & connected again
🌿 Rebuilding trust | Healing attachment wounds
🧘‍♀️ Therapy for women, men & long-term couples
📍Online & in-person sessions | India

[Love, Marriage, Relationships, Couples Therapy, EFT]

23/10/2025

The Simplest Words Are the Strongest Bridges 🌉
It’s not grand gestures that build lasting love—it’s the small, quiet moments of acceptance.

When your partner shares a difficult feeling, you don’t have to fix it. You just have to receive it.

A simple, genuine: "That makes sense," or "I believe you," is the emotional currency that heals old hurts and deepens your bond.

These words are your promise: "Your heart is safe here."

They transform fear into trust, silence into connection, and distance into intimacy. That's the real magic.



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23/10/2025

When You Need to Be Unsteady, I'll Be Your Ground 🏡
I know the pressure you feel to keep it together. I see the deep, quiet fear that if you let down your guard, everything might fall apart—including us.

But here is my unconditional promise: I am your safe place.

You never have to be strong for me. If a memory washes over you, if a fear feels too big, or if your heart simply needs a moment to tremble, please, let your whole self shake.

I will never meet your vulnerability with judgment, a quick fix, or an urgent need to control the situation. My role isn't to stop the shaking; my role is to stand perfectly still and whisper:

"It's okay to lose control for a moment. Our foundation is secure. I've got us."

Your pain doesn't threaten our connection; it deepens it. Your honesty gives me a chance to love the most real part of you. In the face of your hardest moments, I am learning what it means to be your anchor.

I cherish your complexity, your honesty, and your willingness to be human with me.

Tag your person and let them know this promise is for them.



[Love quotes, Heart to Heart, Love Message, Invitation to be vulnerable, Trust, Relationships]

18/09/2025

Ever feel a deep, inexplicable ache for something you can't quite name? It’s not sadness or loneliness—it’s a quiet, invisible wound.

I call it the "phantom limb." It’s the silent pain carried by so many women whose mother-daughter relationship was so deeply intertwined that becoming their own person felt like a profound, emotional amputation. The ache isn't from a mother's absence; it's from the haunting feeling of a part of your own identity that you had to leave behind to truly grow.

This journey is a testament to your courage. It’s about recognizing that pain, understanding its roots in generational trauma or a toxic mother, and beginning the beautiful, difficult process of healing. You’re not broken. You’re simply learning to thrive on your own two feet, even as you mourn the part you had to let go of.

Do you know this feeling? Share your experience in the comments. Your story can be the light for someone else.

Link in bio for full article.

The mother-daughter bond is so deep it can feel like two parts of one person. So, when a daughter separates to become her own, it’s a painful “phantom limb” sensation. This invisi…