Wandering Mind By Sradhanjali

Wandering Mind By Sradhanjali Consultant Psychologist
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Academic Mentor
Fashion Psychologist counselling

My First Christmas as a Family | A Psychological LensThis Christmas marks a significant life-cycle transition—one that D...
26/12/2025

My First Christmas as a Family | A Psychological Lens

This Christmas marks a significant life-cycle transition—one that DSM-5 recognises under conditions related to family upbringing and relational context (Z-codes) rather than disorder.

Marriage and motherhood have reorganised my role identity, attachment patterns, and stress-response system.

Cradling my newborn son beside my husband, I witness the foundations of secure attachment (protective factor in DSM-5) being laid—through consistency, emotional availability, and attuned caregiving.

Love, in clinical reality, is not sentimentality; it is regulation of affect, establishment of safety cues, and reliable responsiveness.
Yes, there is sleep deprivation, role strain, and emotional intensity—factors DSM-5 lists as normative psychosocial stressors, not pathology.
Yet within this lies resilience, bonding, and the creation of a primary support system that buffers future vulnerability.

This Christmas is not about aesthetic perfection.
It is about psychological safety, attachment security, and relational stability.

Grateful for this season of healthy adjustment, bonding, and becoming.
Merry Christmas from our secure base ❤️👶🎄

As a Psychologist, let me be very clear—this is NOT a diagnosis of Sreenanda Shankar ma'am .This is a DSM-5–informed ana...
23/12/2025

As a Psychologist, let me be very clear—this is NOT a diagnosis of Sreenanda Shankar ma'am .
This is a DSM-5–informed analysis of the public behaviour targeting her after divorce.

What we are witnessing online is a pattern of maladaptive social responses, many of which are well-documented in clinical psychology.

Let’s call it accurately.

🔹 Projection (DSM-5: Defense Mechanisms)
Individuals displacing their own unresolved marital dissatisfaction, envy, and shame onto a visible woman. The attack is not about her—it is about their unmet needs.

🔹 Scapegoating Behaviour (Trauma & Group Psychology)
Assigning blame to a single individual to regulate collective anxiety. This often emerges in emotionally dysregulated communities.

🔹 Gaslighting (Psychological Abuse Framework)
Repeatedly reframing her self-expression, dance, or voice as “attention-seeking” to make her reality appear invalid or pathological.

🔹 Pathologising Normal Behaviour
Confidence, creativity, and embodiment are being mislabelled as narcissism—a gross misuse of clinical language.
DSM-5 clearly differentiates Narcissistic Personality Disorder from healthy self-esteem. Liking visibility ≠ pathology.

🔹 Moral Panic (Mass Psychology)
A disproportionate emotional reaction when a woman violates the culturally approved “post-divorce script” of silence, shame, and withdrawal.

🔹 Secondary Victimisation (Trauma Psychology)
After an attachment rupture like divorce—already involving grief, identity destabilisation, and stress-response activation—public shaming becomes retraumatisation.

Now let’s address the specific attacks:

🧠 “She got fame because of the surname Sarkar”
→ Class resentment & attribution bias. Reducing competence to lineage to invalidate personal agency.

🧠 “Her dance is weird”
→ Somatic shaming. Policing body expression because embodied autonomy threatens social control.

🧠 “She wants limelight”
→ Misattribution of intent. Visibility is not pathology. The DSM-5 does not diagnose ambition, expression, or voice.

Here is the uncomfortable psychological truth: If she were dissociated, withdrawn, and visibly broken, she would be socially rewarded.
Because female suffering is often mistaken for virtue.

But a woman who regulates her nervous system through expression instead of collapse?
That triggers people with poor emotional regulation.

This is not accountability.
This is collective emotional dysregulation, masked as morality.

As a psychologist, I will state this firmly: When society weaponises psychological language to shame a woman, the problem is not her behaviour—it is the crowd’s unresolved pathology.

And no DSM-5 manual supports diagnosing resilience as disorder.

— A Psychologist who refuses to confuse healing with narcissism or courage with pathology

যৌনস্বাস্থ্য আমার কাছে কোনো গোপন ফিসফাস নয়—এটা সচেতনতার এক সাহসী ঘোষণা।হয়তো বেশিরভাগ মানুষের চোখে বিষয়টা আজও “হুয়া হ...
15/12/2025

যৌনস্বাস্থ্য আমার কাছে কোনো গোপন ফিসফাস নয়—এটা সচেতনতার এক সাহসী ঘোষণা।
হয়তো বেশিরভাগ মানুষের চোখে বিষয়টা আজও “হুয়া হুয়া টুপি”, কিন্তু মনোবিজ্ঞানের ভাষায় এটা মানুষের অস্তিত্বের এক গভীর স্তর।

যৌনতা মানে শুধু শরীরের প্রতিক্রিয়া নয়,
এটা মনে নিরাপত্তার অনুভব,
নিজেকে গ্রহণ করার ক্ষমতা
আর আরেকজনের সঙ্গে সংযুক্ত হওয়ার মানসিক প্রক্রিয়া।

আপনি যখন “সেক্স” ভাবেন, তখন যে ছবিটা মনে আসে—
সেটাই আপনার অভিজ্ঞতা, আপনার বিশ্বাস, আপনার আবেগের গল্প।
কারণ যৌন আনন্দ কোনো ছাঁচে ফেলা যায় না—
এটা বহুমাত্রিক, ব্যক্তিগত এবং পরিবর্তনশীল।

মনোবিজ্ঞান বলে—
যেখানে সম্মতি আছে,
যেখানে আনন্দ আছে,
যেখানে নিরাপত্তা আছে—
সেখানেই যৌনতা সুস্থ।

ঠিক–ভুলের বাইরে গিয়ে,
যৌনতা আসলে নিজেকে বোঝার, নিজের শরীর আর মনকে সম্মান করার এক আন্তরিক অনুশীলন।

✨ CONNECTING WITH YOUR INNER CHILD — A Psychological Deep Dive ✨We all carry a younger version of ourselves within us — ...
01/12/2025

✨ CONNECTING WITH YOUR INNER CHILD — A Psychological Deep Dive ✨

We all carry a younger version of ourselves within us — a tender emotional blueprint shaped by memories, dreams, fears, and unmet needs. Healing begins when we consciously reconnect with that inner child. Here’s how psychology guides this beautiful journey:

1️⃣ Revisit your childhood melodies.
Songs tied to early memories act as mnemonic anchors, awakening dormant emotions stored in the limbic system. They gently reopen pathways to forgotten joy and unprocessed emotions.

2️⃣ Hold space for big feelings.
Give yourself the permission to experience your emotions without judgment. This strengthens affect regulation and helps integrate fragmented childhood experiences into your adult emotional landscape.

3️⃣ Use affirmations of safety and love.
Consistent, compassionate self-talk rewires old narratives through neurocognitive reframing. When you declare that you are safe, heard, and valued, your inner child finally feels protected.

4️⃣ Reintroduce play and spontaneity.
Play stimulates your spontaneous self, activating joy, creativity, and emotional release. Fun isn't childish — it's psychologically restorative.

5️⃣ Write a letter to your younger self.
This form of expressive therapeutic processing validates long-silenced emotions and repairs inner attachment wounds.

6️⃣ Visualize your childhood self.
Through guided imagery therapy, meet your younger you with compassion. Offer the love and validation that were once missing.

Healing the inner child is not regression — it’s evolution. ❤️
It’s giving yourself the safety, softness, and strength you always deserved.

𝗔 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗵𝗮𝗶𝗿𝗰𝘂𝘁. 𝗔 𝗯𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗳𝗶𝘁. 𝗔 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗶𝘇𝗲𝗱 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘀.To many, these are fashion choices.But in the world of Fashi...
28/11/2025

𝗔 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗵𝗮𝗶𝗿𝗰𝘂𝘁. 𝗔 𝗯𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗳𝗶𝘁. 𝗔 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗶𝘇𝗲𝗱 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘀.

To many, these are fashion choices.
But in the world of Fashion Psychology — and in the world of mental health — they are powerful forms of self-expression and emotional regulation.

A haircut is never “just a haircut.” Psychologically, it symbolizes release. Every time we cut our hair, we unconsciously cut away versions of ourselves we have outgrown — the tiredness, the stuck emotions, the heaviness we no longer wish to carry. It becomes a reset button for the mind, a moment of reclaiming control when life feels overwhelming or stagnant.

Red, the colour I chose today, is one of the strongest psychological shades. It activates energy, confidence, passion, and alertness in the brain. Red is the colour you reach for when you are ready to step back into your power, when you want to reignite your inner fire, when you refuse to dim your intensity for anyone. It is a reminder that strength can be worn — and felt.

And these oversized specs? They are more than an accessory. Specs create a cognitive boundary, a sense of focus, and a subtle psychological shield. They add structure to the face and structure to the mind — reminding you to see clearly, think deeply, and hold your space with authority.

Fashion Psychology teaches us that style is a form of mental health care.
What we wear influences our mood, confidence, energy, and the way we show up emotionally.

So today, my look isn’t about aesthetics — it’s about alignment.
It’s about choosing colours and cuts that support my mind.
It’s about embracing fashion as a therapeutic language, a tool for grounding, empowerment, and emotional healing.

This is not just a look.
This is Psychological Styling — dressing with intention, courage, and mental clarity.
This is me showing up as the woman I am evolving into.

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗠𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗴𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁?𝗟𝗲𝘁’𝘀 𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗡𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗪𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗛𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆 & 𝗖𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆.Before you fix your fee, sit with a ...
26/11/2025

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗠𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗴𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁?

𝗟𝗲𝘁’𝘀 𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗡𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗪𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗛𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆 & 𝗖𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆.

Before you fix your fee, sit with a pen and paper—because this decision deserves calculation, not comparison.

🔹 1. Start With Your Cost of Living
What do you need each month to simply exist?
Rent, groceries, phone bills, commute—this usually lands anywhere between ₹20,000–₹30,000 for most beginners.
✨ In my early years, living with my parents meant my basic living cost was nearly zero, which changed my numbers completely.

🔹 2. Add Your Professional Expenses
Therapists don’t just “take sessions”—we invest constantly.

Personal therapy / supervision: ₹3,000–₹5,000

Platform subscriptions / digital tools: ₹1,000+

Courses, certifications, workshops: easily ₹3,000 per month when averaged annually
✨ I invested heavily in my trainings, and when broken down, the cost ran into lakhs.

🔹 3. Be Realistic About Your Capacity
How many sessions can you hold well without compromising your mental or emotional bandwidth?
Many assume 80–90 sessions a month in the beginning.
Reality? 40–50 sessions is healthy and sustainable for most therapists.
✨ I learnt this the hard way—capacity is not just about time, it’s about energy.

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🔴 Now, Let’s Reverse-Engineer Your Fee

If your monthly expenditure (personal + professional) totals around ₹25,000
and you conduct 50 sessions,
you need at least ₹500 per session just to break even—no savings, no growth, no buffer.

To actually sustain, evolve, and prevent burnout, your fee ideally becomes:

➡️ ₹800–₹1,000 per session
(not high, not low—simply healthy and sustainable)

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🌱 A Gentle Reminder

Your fee is not a reflection of your worth—it’s a reflection of your needs, your training, your time, and your capacity.
A grounded therapist is far more effective than an overworked one charging less out of guilt.

And remember:
Your fee is allowed to grow as you grow.

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18/10/2025

We buy gold for safety — Maslow smiles.
We light lamps to face the shadows — Jung nods.
We repeat rituals each year — Skinner approves.
We find meaning in the light — Frankl whispers.
And somewhere between tradition and thought,
our psyche heals — decluttering like a home,
reframing like Beck, connecting like Rogers,
glowing like the neurons that believe again. ✨
Because Dhanteras isn’t just a festival —
it’s psychology in disguise. 🌼

Ms. Sradhanjali Dasgupta Chakraborty , Consultant Psychologist, Kink & Q***r Affirmative Therapist,  S*x Therapist & Edu...
11/10/2025

Ms. Sradhanjali Dasgupta Chakraborty , Consultant Psychologist, Kink & Q***r Affirmative Therapist, S*x Therapist & Educator and a Mental Health Advocate based in Kolkata (Behala), has been appointed as the District Executive Member, Crime Information Cell, under the Anti Crime Bureau of India (ACBI).

In this capacity, she will contribute to strengthening information networks, promoting community awareness, and supporting the Bureau’s mission of ensuring justice, transparency, and social integrity.

Ms. Dasgupta expressed her gratitude for the appointment, reaffirming her commitment to work towards a safer, more accountable, and inclusive society.
— Anti Crime Bureau of India (ACBI)

🌸✨ মনকে একটু সময় দিন, নিজেকে নতুনভাবে চিনে নিন! ✨🌸জীবনের দৌড় ঝাঁপে আমরা প্রায়ই ভুলে যাই— আমরাও যত্নের যোগ্য। 💛Sradhanja...
10/10/2025

🌸✨ মনকে একটু সময় দিন, নিজেকে নতুনভাবে চিনে নিন! ✨🌸

জীবনের দৌড় ঝাঁপে আমরা প্রায়ই ভুলে যাই— আমরাও যত্নের যোগ্য। 💛
Sradhanjali-র সঙ্গে শুরু হোক এক নতুন পথচলা — যেখানে কথায় মেলে শান্তি, বোঝাপড়ায় মেলে মুক্তি, আর প্রতিটি সেশনে মেলে নিজেকে ভালোবাসার সুযোগ। 🌿

🪷 Individual Therapy — নিজের মন, ভাবনা আর অনুভূতিগুলোকে বোঝার স্নিগ্ধ এক যাত্রা।
💞 Couples Therapy — সম্পর্কের ভাষা আবার শেখার, ভালোবাসাকে নতুন করে জানার সুযোগ।
🌈 Well-being Workshops — মানসিক শান্তি, আত্মবিশ্বাস আর জীবনের ভারসাম্য ফিরে পাওয়ার এক উজ্জ্বল অভিজ্ঞতা।

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09/10/2025

And Finally Here It Goes.

Whispers to the Womb” explores how a mother’s emotions, thoughts, and environment shape the psychological and emotional development of her unborn child. Rooted in the ancient wisdom of Garbhsanskar and backed by modern psychology, this session delves into how the prenatal phase is not just biological but deeply psychological — a time when the foundation of the baby’s personality, resilience, and emotional intelligence begins.
Divine Baby

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