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12/08/2024

As we navigate life's journey, we learn that true connections are built on empathy, understanding, and mutual support.
Research shows that positive relationships can:

🔹Boost our mental health and well-being
🔹Increase feelings of belonging and happiness.
🔹Improve emotional regulation and resilience.
🔹Enhance cognitive function and creativity.

Let's prioritize relationships that uplift and nourish our mind, heart, and soul. Surround yourself with people who:

❤️Listen actively and empathetically
❤️Validate your emotions and experiences
❤️Support your growth and goals
❤️Foster a sense of belonging and connection

Remember, emotional resonance is key to building strong, meaningful relationships that can transform our lives.

Drop ❤️❤️❤️ if you felt seen.

So what did you found out in this journey?

Much Love, Janvi💕
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19/08/2021

After sharing about dissociation and total lack of childhood memories, I got few MSG's / DMs asking “do memories come back by healing?” or " can it be cured?"

Dissociation can be very confusing because you can’t understand why you don’t remember. Especially because we often define trauma as something that must be severe (s*xual assault/extreme abuse.) The reality is that trauma is much more wide reaching that we are led to believe.
Children cannot process things in the same way adults can, and the brain will shut down in response to emotional experiences that a child can not cope with.

Memories might never come back. And I trust there’s a reason for this. Remembering the memory is not important for the healing process.
That’s because you’re already LIVING THAT MEMORY.

🔸THE BODY REMEMBERS EVERY MOMENT.

🔸THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND HAS STORED EACH EXPERIENCE.

🔸 WE LIVE THIS MEMORY EACH AND EVERY DAY BEYOND AWARENESS.

To heal, all you have to do is observe yourself. Work and practice building consciousness. It is the path to healing. It will allow you to objectively view your behavior. It will give you all the feedback of what you need to know.

That narrative that you aren’t good enough, aren’t worthy, or the narrative of self hate: it was GIVEN to you, it was NEVER yours. It was Projected by someone else & then internalized.

That string of toxic relationships was at one time modeled to you. It was how your childhood self qualified love.

The self destructive, self betraying patterning in your life reflects that modeling and deepest CONDITIONED belief about who you are— it’s not who you actually are.

The alcohol, the food, the s*x, the drugs, are all ways to leave the present moment— a moment that was once too scary and unbearable to sit through. How would you know how to sit through it an adult? You never learned.

The memories aren’t necessary. Humble yourself to be a student of yourself. Get compassionate and curious about the “why”— it’s what we stopped asking long ago. Then do the work to heal from a “self” you didn’t created yourself.

Much Love, Janvi💕
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18/08/2021

I know there’s no guarantee to it , but it’s a good first step.

Sometimes it's just so difficult to speak up. To have the courage to honor what it is we need, and to believe and trust that another will take good care of it.
We often fear that people won't be able to show up for us, or that they'll just choose not to respond. We start to think "I've been let down before, so why would this time be any different?" So we step away from our needs, we internalize them, and cross our fingers in hopes( somewhere ir the other internally) that our people will just know, or that someone will care about us enough to maybe just ask us out.

There is an inner narrative that often keeps us off, resists us from speaking up. There is a story that is convincing us out of speaking our needs and openly sharing them with our partner or for that matter any loved or closed one.

Now here you have to Insert origin story exploration here:-
▪️What experiences and observations do you hold around using your words to have your needs met?
▪️What did you watch in the relationships modeled for you in this manner?
▪️What did you experience in your family of origin or past relationships with anyone?

The data and evidence that you have collected along the way of this self exploration, this wil act as a base to your subjudiced feeling and reactions.

Drop 🤍🤍🤍 if you felt seen.

So what did you found out in this journey?

Much Love, Janvi💕
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17/08/2021

while my years of study I was introduced to memories as something which is a process of maintaining information over time.

But when I started meeting new people, during my training period and practice , I realised that many had no experience of their childhood , teenage years or many parts of their adulthood.

All of them had one thing similar ,i.e, they all somewhere were not sure whether this was their dream or reality. Most of them had mixed their coping narative and reality and shaped it into a thrilling dream sequence.
Many of them only in later part of their life realised that this wasn't NORMAL, when their friends, partners or colleagues recalled and shared different parts of their lives. They somewhere felt stuck,confused and left out with others in this scenarios. They couldn't share much, had no idea and majority of the time questioned themselves. But deep down they know that something is off with them.

Most of them never experienced what we are stereotypically told as trauma : severe abuse and neglect.

These people stay in their own mind 'spaceships' and in their mind establish connections which they think are strongly bonded but in reality are quite aloof.

So what I came to understand is that they HAD experienced trauma and thats the reason I m much more concerned and passionate to expand the defination and parameters of trauma.
TRAUMA is not just the BIG THING , infact its not at all about the SIZE of the trauma at all.
> ITS ABOUT THE IMPACT.
>ITS ABOUT THE BODY+BRAIN PERCEIVE THE IMAPCT, &
> HOW MUCH SUPPORT THERE IS TO PROCESS THE IMPACT.

Dr. Gabor Mate said : " trauma is not what has happened, it is the pain that is kept unresolved."

These survivors chose the response to disconnect.
🍁THEY ARE THE PRODUCT OF DETACHED EMOTIONAL RESPONSE.🍁

Much Love, Janvi💕
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09/08/2021

As a consultant psychologist, I am trained to believe that trauma is a singular “big” event. Something that involved severe abuse or neglect.

BUT,

When I started my relationship with my clients in practice, I noticed a pattern with people who had ‘normal’ or ‘supportive’ families yet they struggled with severe anxiety or depression, Low self worth, Chronic fear of others think of them. Many were in toxic relationship patterns + had so much confusion around why they felt stuck.

Somewhere I noticed some things within me too, but rather for our society i had one of the best households.

For a pretty long, I spent studying and researching the patterns I saw & realized that trauma is so much more than what we’ve been told.

Trauma is an event where we are chronically denied our authentic nature as children, + are left to cope with our emotions without guidance in how to process them.

This is where we learn to betray ourselves for love. This is where we learn that who we are is not acceptable + the ego comes in to create a sense of self based on the unconscious desires of a parent.

We start to chase external approval because we’ve lost the connection to self. We seek relationships that mirror our earliest childhood experiences. If we had a parent who denied our reality (ex: an alcoholic father who we witnessed drinking + our mother, in denial herself, told us was just not feeling well) we have no trust in our own perception. We choose partners + situations where our reality continues to be denied. Unconsciously, we learned this as part of what relationships are.

Our path to healing begins with an understanding that all of our behaviors, thoughts, patterns, + beliefs are simply our strong conditioning.
They are not who we are.
They’re a reflection of the past.
Nothing is wrong with us.
We are not damaged, or ‘mentally ill.’
As we become more conscious, we can make choices beyond our conditioning—in alignment with who we actually are.

We are resilient humans who have learned how to cope. Humans who can now learn how to become empowered to thrive.

Comment with "🤍🤍🤍" If you are becoming more conscious, and working towards your healing journey 🍁
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28/07/2021

Its not uncommon for families to struggle from time to time with creating stability and predictability at home; many of us have those unexpected crazy periods.
We know that chaos at home creates stress which impacts an individual’s ability to self-regulate, or the ability to calm oneself, manage emotions and think before acting.

Who had chaos in their home growing up? Maybe it was fighting parents. Maybe it was a single parent working multiple jobs in order to get food on the table. Maybe it was a sibling who had an illness that consumed the energy of the system. Maybe it was unidentified mental health issues that were present. Maybe it was a total lack of structure and order in the home. Maybe it was addiction, violence, or abuse. Maybe it was someone a parent was dating, or a step parent who consumed the space. Maybe someone denied your reality.
🍁SOMETIMES CHAOS IS OBVIOUS AND SOMETIMES IT'S SUBTLE. EITHER WHICH WAY, IT'S ALWAYS FELT.🍁

I’ve been talking a lot about familiarity lately. That what we know is often what we seek. It can also be what we want to deny, and yet that swing of the pendulum (path of opposition) is still its own version of chaos (even if it appears healthier, safer, or better from the outside.) Fast forward yourself to now. 🔸Where do you see chaos in your life?🔸 In your relationships?🔸 What does having chaos present mean?🔸 Is it a lifeline to something? 🔸What happens if chaos is absent? 🔸Is it too boring? 🔸Do you believe you deserve it? 🔸Does your system sabotage when you’re not looking? 🔸Does it want to fight so there’s connection?🔸 Does it create confusion in your own life so a partner must come to the rescue (connection/you care about me)?

Oh there are so many things that it could be. I may have struck a chord above, or nothing may resonate
Your job is to explore your own
To see what’s there
To name it
And from there to begin to explore how we might replace chaos with something that creates space for you to be seen, connected to and loved in a way that is healthy and healing. (There are ways :)....even if it feels boring.)

Much love, Janvi💕

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26/07/2021

🍁 DISSOCIATION is a disconnection between a person's memories, feelings, behaviors, perceptions, and/or sense of self or sense of identity. This disconnection is automatic and completely out of the person's control. It's often described as an "out of body" experience
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Dissociation exists on a spectrum that ranges from mild everyday experiences to disorders that interfere with daily functioning. It is the mind’s way of coping with too much stress. Many people with a dissociative disorder have had a traumatic event during childhood, although dissociation can also occur with other types of trauma
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Trauma-Related Dissociation is sometimes described as a ‘mental escape’ when physical escape is not possible, or when a person is so emotionally overwhelmed that they cannot cope any longer they go into yhe spaceship of their thoughts. Sometimes dissociation is like ‘switching off’. Some survivors describe it as a way of saying ‘this isn’t happening to me’
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Dissociation affects people in different ways.⁣ Few of them arr explained below:⬇️
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DEPERSONALISATION refers to being disconnected from yourself or your body. Some people feel parts of their body are not real, disappear or change. Others feel numb, or much smaller than they really are. Some people have an ‘out of body’ experience. Depersonalization happens when people are distressed and is more common among people who were mistreated as children. 🔸Depersonalization helps a person cope by detaching
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DEREALIZATION is a sense of the external world not being real or being changed in some way. People might say that the world looks fake, flat, or far away. Sometimes people say the world looks as if they are watching a movie or as if they are in a dream or play acting on a stage
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🔸Derealization can help a person cope with trauma, by making the trauma seem less ‘real’. This creates a ‘mental distance’ to help them survive
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DISSOCIATIVE AMNESIA is the inability to recall important personal information. We all forget things sometimes but amnesia involves serious memory problems for major events or parts of your life that most people can remembered
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I hope this helps understand some symptoms better

Much Love, Janvi💕
Much Love, Janvi💕
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25/07/2021

INTERGENERATIONAL TRAUMA also known as transgenerational trauma refers to trauma that passes through generations. TRAUMA that is passed down the generation changes the expression of the gene which comes under the scope of EPIGENETICS.

🍁 HISTORICAL TRAUMA is a form of transgenerational trauma.
🍁 Whereas transgenerational trauma is within a family whose historical trauma affects many people or even an entire generation where it might also be referred to as COLLECTIVE TRAUMA.

MANY PEOPLE DON'T RECOGNISE THEIR BEHAVIOURS AS MALADAPTIVE COPING MECHANISM BECAUSE THEY SIMPLY ARE TAKING WHAT THEY LEARNT AND APPLIED IT IN THE BEST POSSIBLE WAY ACCORDING TO THEM AND HOW THEY KNOW.

🍂 IN South Asian communities, intergenerational trauma is a familiar and a very strong connecting story.

historical colonial operation suffering in India, made a strong impact on the people leaving behind trauma instances which are passed down through generations in their own ways.
‼️ MIND YOU THIS IS ONE OF THE ONLY FEW EXAMPLES OF TRAUMA ‼️

🍂 Repeated patterns of abuse or neglect full behaviour, poor parent-child relationships, negative believes about parenting, personality disorders, substance abuse, family violence,s*xual abuse and unhealthy behaviour patterns attitudes can be seen are some of the key factors to pass down the trauma to the generational lane.
unsupportive family relationships and emotionally unavailable parenting create a highly toxic and emotionally negligent environment.

In such families shame, confusion , lack of self identity, low self worth , validation seeking, codependency are deeply ingrained. These invisible unseen things make it difficult for the one to be its own authentic true self.

we cannot heal something of what we are not aware of, the first step is to acknowledge the existence of trauma. Awareness is the key to change. without accepting and acknowledging and recognising that there is something happening in your family system things cannot be changed and you are inviting the next generation with the same level of misery to this place.
Much Love, Janvi💕
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09/07/2021

Success is the product of daily habits—not once-in-a-lifetime transformations.
Small changes often appear to make no difference until you cross a critical point. The most powerful outcomes of any compounding process are delayed. You need to be patient.
A habit is a little habit part of a larger system. Just as atoms are the building blocks of molecules, habits are the building blocks of remarkable results.

In this recent hustle culture we are forced to just dream big, have goals and objectives when on one side all this is fair true and important but there is bigger picture to it too.
Goals are about the results you want to achieve. But Systems are about the processes that lead to those results.
If you want better results, then forget about setting goals as the first step. Focus on your system instead.
You do not rise to the level of your goals. You rather fall to the level of your systems and fail.

If you want to predict where you’ll end up in life, all you have to do is follow the curve of tiny gains or tiny losses, and see how your daily choices will compound ten or twenty years down the line.
Time magnifies the margin between success and failure. It will multiply whatever you feed it. Good habits make time your ally. Bad habits make time your enemy.
one should be far more concerned with your current trajectory ( pathways) than with your current results and immediate results.

Ultimately, it is your commitment to the process that will determine your progress.
Getting 1 percent better every day counts for a lot in the long-run.

“If you don’t change what you are doing today, all of your tomorrows will look like yesterday."— Jim Rohn
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07/07/2021

This community has grown over the year and I realised that I never took a moment to Introduce myself and interact with you all on personal level.

So Hi, my name is Janvi Lakhmani, a practicing consulting psycologist , a Boundaries specialist , mental health advocate, content creator and also a learner of commerce.
I am having additional trainning in childhood emotional neglect, intergenerational trauma, parent- child relationship, trauma dysfunctionality, couples intervention and emotional wellness.
My work is informed by education, training, practice and lived experiences.

I believe in an holistic healing and a thorough mind body soul connection for overall empowerment.

My interest in this field was from a very long, and that lead me to self learning and getting scholarship in one of the reputated University of the world. I was one of the youngest Grads there.
Never did I thought that I would be working in this area where my passion drived me, when my focus and attention was on something else.
nevertheless I understood you can pursue both and make your way through your living. Nothing is impossible or not worth a try.

Instagram is just an extension of my knowledge and reach and one should not substitute it with therapy.

My work is helping people become more of themselves despite what they have experienced and despite limits placed on them.
My work is giving people the tools in a digestible manner.
My work is empowering people to reclaim their ability to make choices.
My work is helping people create relationships first with themselves and feels self honouring and deserving.
My work is a long journey of people healing and coming back to their homes.

Thank you for being a part of my community on Instagram, for sharing my posts, for sending complimentary messages and commenting on my posts. words have immense Power. with each post I am learning as I am propagating my words out.

Let's board on this journey together and start knowing each other slowly and steadily and somewhere create a change within ourselves and people around ❤️.

THANK YOU. ❤️
Janvi Lakhmani
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20/05/2021

In the burnout series I want to deep dive into different burnout types. Researcher Farber (1990) examined burnout, and discerned three different subtypes.

✨ characteristics for each type:

😞Under-challenged burnout type: this person is very unstimulated at work. The work is repetitive and results in boredom, as the person has become indifferent. Nowadays you might know this term better as a ‘bore-out’ .

🤯 Frenetic burnout type: this person is very ambitious and wants to be successful, the person works increasingly harder and often becomes overwhelmed and tired because of the workload.

😵 Worn-out burnout type: this person is succumbing under a lot of stress and gives up entirely. They feel a complete lack of control and neglected by everything around them.

Can you identify yourself with any of these types when you had a burnout? Comment your experience below👇

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19/05/2021

Do you know what really causes job burnout? It's not just overtime.

According to Gallup's recent report, Employee Burnout: Causes and Cures, 76% of employees experience burnout on the job at least sometimes, and 28% say they are burned out "very often" or "always" at work.

It is often assumed that occupational burnout is caused solely by over-work. The common wisdom is to recover from burnout by working fewer hours. Take a vacation, take a day off, or even burn a sick day, just to survive.

In fact, engaged people who have flexibility tend to work more hours per week than the average person, while reporting higher wellbeing. When people feel inspired, motivated and supported in their work, they do more work -- and that work is significantly less stressful on their overall health and wellbeing.

it's not just the number of hours you work; it's how you're managed and how you experience work during those hours.

Burnout is a response to prolonged exposure to emotional, physical and interpersonal stressors and it can’t be
cured with time off, exercise or more sleep. While recovery time or breaks help deal with the symptoms of burnout,
they don’t provide a lasting solution.

Burnout is something of a “gateway illness” because it often opens the door to other issues.
Getting the facts straight is just the first step to healing.
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